Not quite sure why you're contradicting yourself, unless you're saying that marriage is not a relationship.

Well I don't know the kind of people you talk with, but I know a lot of non-virgins (and some virgins) who think sex is absolutely necessary.

Wrong, as women grow older, their sexual appetite increases, all the way up to menopause, after which, it can go either way.

All the more reason to have sex NOW, because you can't have sex anymore when you're old.


It's the same with everything else. Cuddling, holding hands, kissing, etc may be become boring after a while too, that's why you see many married couples seldom hold hands. Sex is as fun as you make it to be, just like every other aspects of your life. Only difference is BOTH have to be equally enthusiastic about it.

In short, sex is a time limited factor, cuddling and holding hands and stuff aren't.

That makes sex a more valuable aspect of a relationship.

If you digested what you have just said, you're basically also saying that cuddling and holding hands shouldn't be a core factor either.

What's wrong with letting your grand children see how good you were when you were young? They're in no position to judge you anyways.

Ok, this isn't the "Dark Ages", m'kay?

Sex is not a priority in your marriage? Come on.


Well... there's a reason why it's called ED. It's the same thing why women divorce gambling husbands.

No, I'm saying ED is a REAL problem in marriage, just like gambling or drinking. But you refuse to see it as a problem. Hence denial on your part.

No, sex IS a priority. If it is not, are you saying that it's cool if your husband look for sex elsewhere when you do not want to give it to him? I mean... it's just a bonus if you give it to him, right?

Actually, agree that 3somes are healthy (minus the STDs of course). Just because YOU are too uptight and don't know how to handle your jealousy does not make it bad thing.

I find it hilarious that it is ALWAYS the women who defines what a REAL guy is and isn't, and it is also the women who defines what a real woman is and isn't. And I find it 10x more hilarious at the men who agrees to it


You are so contradicting yourself here, and you have just made sex irrelevant to issues of failed relationships.


Oddly enough, you don't ask "does she really love HIM?" because that guy invested 5 years of his time (and money) for her, but you don't see that because you're uptight about pre-marital sex (and your contradictory standards of it). And also because your bestie is the one involved.

I don't understand how can you be such a contradictory person. How would a great chef who is good at cleaning eat her own boogers? And why would a girl who is able to care for me and my family would want to have kids from other guys. (Only reason I can think of is I did something wrong somewhere).

Anyway, to answer your question: If I don't mind her eating her own boogers and having another guy's child, I'll still have her. But I won't provide child support for the kid, nor allow the father nor the child to share their life with my woman.

This.


Btw, if it is a MUST, then it is also a NEED. Come on, man.

This post has been edited by spanker: Mar 14 2011, 04:26 PM

Nevermind lah, all that red is making me mad anyway

Thanks though