Serious Relationship with sex VS Non sex relationship., Boys and Girls, pls comment.
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 Sep 2 2010, 11:23 AM
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QUOTE(spunkberry @ Sep 2 2010, 01:17 AM) you don't have to LUST after the person. the word is "be attracted". Why date someone you're not attracted to at all?  and you are attracted to someone because you want to have sex. That is the whole purpose of attraction my dear. Also sex is necessary in a relationship, even you agree with that because you said that its essential for marriages to last long. What is a marriage if not a relationship? |
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Sep 2 2010, 05:27 PM
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QUOTE(jaswong @ Sep 2 2010, 11:37 AM) When you're in love with someone, sex won't be the 1st thing that comes to your mind. Especially for girls, they prefer more cuddling, kissing, hugging and talking than just sex. Usually, only guys would be all hamsap, which i think deprive the girl of a more wholesome relationship. The right way is to have both, only then its proper and wholesome. Both sides want the physical and emotional intimacy. You girls might think that girls prefer more cuddling and stuff, generally true, but I've also seen girls with really voracious sexual appetites. So if you think girls don't need or want sex, its normally only because they haven't really experienced it properly yet. QUOTE My grandparents, being all white hair and impotent ( almost 80++, no more sex i think..) still are lovely and cuddly. They walk also hold hands, feed each other, and my grandad likes to kiss her forehead too, and smells her hair.  They have been like this since courtship, according to my mother. haha..Sure they have all that, but I dare you to ask about their sex life, and I think you might go "OMG!! TOO MUCH INFORMATION!!!" You really think they didn't have a good sex life in their relationship? QUOTE(spunkberry @ Sep 2 2010, 12:12 PM) no it isn't. Great, if you think sex isn't necessarily in a relationship, i dare you to take up the challenge and not have sex in your relationship, EVER. and I differentiate marriage and relationships here only because of the morons that lurk around. if there's no sex in a relationship leading up to a marriage, the marriage won't happen for them anyway. If a relationship is going to work, its going to need sex at one point or another. This becomes more true the older you get, its a biological imperative. Which is why dating years become less as you grow older. You might be in a 5 year relationship, break up, and get married within 2 years of your next relationship. A truly wholesome relationship requires the sex, it isn't really just a "bonus", its an essential ingredient for it to survive. |
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Sep 2 2010, 06:03 PM
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QUOTE(jaswong @ Sep 2 2010, 06:01 PM) surely they would have had their own sexual tryst in the past. But at this age, and aching hips and joints, enjoying each other's company would be most pleasing. Well, or maybe you want me to 3gp them naked alone in the room, then upload for you to watch? You could 3gp yourself, save it and in 60 years show it to your grandkids... grandma was a hottie!   |
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Jan 12 2012, 08:24 PM
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QUOTE(Ratez @ Jan 12 2012, 07:22 PM) Been with my gf for 2 years. Second gf. Am the kind of guy that do not believe at love at first sight but rather when someone naturally comes to your life, it means you're fated. Don't feel the need to go out of my way to ask out a girl. Old fashioned in a sense. Not that I don't lust for sex but I respect her enough to hold back the desires. In fact we're both virgins. Do I feel ashamed? Not really. Its not like I'm ugly and I have enough self esteem beyond the need to prove to others. I don't really give a shit to the logic of having to have sex while we are young and still capable. Don't need to get peer pressured by the change in societal views. We're still going strong and more loving than ever. I don't think I'll need sex to maintain my relationship. Not saying it won't just happen, just saying I have proven to myself that being in a relationship does not automatically equate to sex. Of course theres alot of touching etc (you get the drift) but sexual intercourse isn't needed. There's no harm mate, likely cause your girl has the same mindset as you, and that's a good thing  There's compatibility. Having sex is between you and her, no one else really. There's nothing to prove. The fact is though, sex is a motivator in a relationship (why do you think no-premarital-sex cultures have people marrying young?) and also something a relationship needs as you grow older. You'll hardly find a couple that is between 25-30 that's not having sex and also not planning for marriage. As your relationship progresses and sex is not in sight, problems start to happen. |
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Jan 13 2012, 02:54 AM
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QUOTE(noonies_naruto @ Jan 13 2012, 12:46 AM) and you were just putting SEX as the MAIN element of a relationship.. I said a relationship should be based on true feelings towards each other. Even a guy mati pucuk also can still love someone if that partner can sacrifice sex to love him. and what the heck.. i never said sex everyday is a bad thing. Please la dont simply misrepresent. SEX is never the main thing in a relationship. "Why u love me??" "oh becoz i wanna have sex with you everyday" "......."  |
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