Everyone in CC here is posting their own relationship story so everyone in CC here is talking about someone else' relationship.

but then, i still don't see chatting longer will enhance the relationship, though...

it's not about how long they chatted, it's what they chatted about.

We chat daily routine. I still don't have the guts to say even I miss you.

I think it takes time before we could advance to the next level. I fear being rejected, I fear to pressure her, and I fear how to survive without her if she happened to reject me

I'm a worry lot now. I love her and miss her dearly, and have been drinking for the past few weeks

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Added on December 23, 2009, 4:51 amNice to see you again here

This post has been edited by theWinner: Dec 23 2009, 04:51 AM

hahha..... good also la got story teller in CC

but this story quite over

kejap suka....kejap tak suka....kejap kerjar...kejap takut nak kejar....kejap pressure her be with him.....kejap takut pressure her

This post has been edited by outsider: Dec 23 2009, 06:59 AM

i think this is hatekiausppl la .... lol

If you dare not to find out the truth if she does still love you, then let the truth reveals her answer to you. Easy, right?

But by the time you know it, it would be too late, and rather more painful.

she's right. Winner i know you love her so much that you want to be her guardian angel. but at least you must express your feeling, or else like what debbie said, you will be going to regret kao kao...

TS, if you don't mind pls update the status on page one.. hahaha easier to read..

I read the first 5 pages and the last 3 pages only so don't flame me on my view on you

TS, you are really self centered and fear to lose. Maybe you shall go to casino and start losing money (i know you are rich) but feel the losing part (at least you understand that there is no 100% winning in this world and you never know what will it be before you bet).

You still have the chance to express yourself but you are holding back because you fear to get rejected. God bless both of you that you all have enough time to keep on delaying your confession. (sorry if i sound like cursing but i am not). I lost my beloved grandpa before in out of sudden and i regretted so much that I couldn't fulfill my promise to him before he left me.

Dear Mr. Winner , Clearly you seem a like an intelligent man , and from your qualification you are a man of science , hence I fail to understand , how you have overlooked the ethereal nature of the emotion called love ?

I would imagine someone with your caliber of understanding would have left this issue a long time back before it had come to this stage.

I am sure you are aware that this woman you are chasing after is not doing you any good , and to be completely fair to her , she is going through a terrible mesh of confusion.

Anyway you have confessed and she has not given a clear answer , Therefore all the laws of courtship suggest that either you pop her the question for marriage ASAP , or leave this matter completely.

You dont realize that looking at your qualifications alone , you will attract a large number of suitors , women would not be lacking in your life.

I apologize in advance if this seems irrelevant or is not taking into consideration your confused sentiments towards this girl.

Oh yeah! Agreed.

Winner, do what you ought to do before it is too late. Life is short and precious. You'll never know when is the last chance to confess.

In fact I don't know what to proud of being a PhD holder at 28 but fails to love someone he claims he love.

Madam , unfortunately we men dont see love in the same manner women do , To us its this troubling thing that needs to be resolved and if there was a pill to cure it , we would buy it , to you women it is the sky.. the earth... the rain.. etc , In short we are dumber about these things



This post has been edited by daidioto: Dec 23 2009, 01:45 PM

Alright, I'll plan to fly back to MY, probably during New Year. Hope ticket is still available.

I think it's hard to talk over skype. Talking about daily routine seems have become more like questions and answers session, even worst interrogation.

At the age of 28, after separating with her for more than 1 year, I felt myself to have lost the charm that I once had especially sweet talk, which to me is nothing other than childish! I have start to feel that our talk over Skype has become dry and dull. With such conversation, I have no idea at all how to express "I miss you". I could not help but feel myself being hollow-hearted to express something emotional. Not to mention to ask her for forgiveness, I don't feel myself sincere at all.

Commitment is my only charm. I hope she could understand through heart-to-heart talks. I wish I could talk to her in a quiet place. Deep down, my pressure has become overwhelming. For the past 8 to 9 years, I NEVER told her a single predicament of mine: the high expectation on me to achieve the best in career and education, the parental and peer pressure to get an extraordinary GF who could walk and wear like a model and capable, etc.. I know I was wrong, I thought I could sweep all these under the carpet, but I failed miserably. I do feel I need someone to talk to FACE-TO-FACE, and someone who could understand the previous me before my repentance to lighten the heavy luggage inside me. I feel she need to understand more about me. No, she wasn't wrong in the past, it was me who never like get into tell-all conversation. I thought everything was trivial, only career is important, but now I know, life is more than that. In the past, I always thought I'm PhD holder, how could I simply express my problems, not to mention those sentimental ones, to others especially my GF.

For weeks, I drank a lot and had many sleepless nights. I don't self-pity nor do I need sympathy from anyone. I just like to be tipsy, at least I could have some time to escape from reality.

Yeah, I am a horrible person, I know!

This post has been edited by theWinner: Dec 23 2009, 03:18 PM

After reading the first post till now, it has dawn upon me that, you my friend are an egomaniacal person. Don't get me wrong here. I'm not trying to flame you nor am i judging you. Truth be told, deep within your heart you know the very conclusion of this entire tirade. It makes my blood boil from what you had mentioned, trust me my friend no one deserve being treated the way you treat your the girl . For a person like you,caught in their own and very own agenda and illusions, you would never ever going to appreciate the very thing that you had. In your entire life you had it all and you thought you had know it all.

I guess its true when people says God is fair, and i believe HE is . Money,success and image won't buy you love. For all that you had achieved you had achieved nothing. It could just been me but the entire posting you had is all bout you and you. What bout her? It was once said that you could judge a persons character on the amount of "I" they use in a sentence. It speaks clearly on their personality. It has always been you, what you want and what you need.

It has no meaning for you as you feel there is no more spark in the relationship. You are JUST trying to redeem yourself here. Ain't going to work that way bro. For all that is said my advice to you is If you love her then let her go. If this was meant to be it will no point for you to try to get what is not yours. You have to face your self and reality and that my dear friend is what makes a difference between a MAN and a child. YOUR LIFE Is what you made of. DON'T ever blame your parents & your peers. GET REAL. GET A REAL LIFE.

Besides your are only 28 and there is a long way for you to go. Stop that drinking nonsense once and for all. Here is my challenge to you as a MAN, go on your own, be independent. No help from daddy of mommy. Just your own. Go some where and tough it out for 1 year and you will see the difference. You would never appreciate what you have till you had none and when you have none you would realized at that moment you've had it all.

PS: if i ever meet you i"ll smack you silly.

Real man drink for fun, not drink to drown their sorrows.

uh huh.

to many show off posts here, feel lazy to discuss anymore...

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I felt i have been trolled.

those are the qualities you have to possess to keep winning. clearly you're not a winner in life.

Hi All,

First and foremost, I would like to express my gratitude to you all for your numerous help, suggestions, guidance and encouragements. Your constant support and words of wisdoms and belief that kept me driven throughout my predicament, from confession to patching up, have been very much appreciated. And, indeed, I learned a lot from you all

One month ago when I first came to CC, I was blissfully unaware of LOVE after getting into relationship with my GF for eight years. We were indeed a good match, and our campus love had been envied by most of our friends, that's about five to eight years ago.

We were talking through Skype quite some time ago, and as before, we ran out of topic, and again, we came to a moment of silence. Winne apologised for she had kept something from my knowledge all this while. She had actually wanted to call off our relationship quite some time ago, but was reluctant to inform me until I could feel better.



"Winner, you are a good man. I'm sure you'll find someone better."

"I'm happy you have decided eventually. My blessing goes with you."

"Winner, I wish something..."

"What?"

"Not your fault. Never hurt yourself as it hurts me more."

"Nah... I won't. You promise me as well."

"By the way, Winne, let's call each other every week. See what we could help with each other?"

"Sure. Good night, Winner"

"Bye"


It was a mixed feelings. Probably, I have been confused for quite some time, so I was not overcome by sadness.

Yes, we break up eventually. Well, I respect her, and we will be friend forever.

At this point, I'll retire from CC for long. Yeah, I need a break... I'll take a long break before starting out another relationship.

Once again, thanks all for your support and constructive critism. I appreciate a lot

I'm a staunch Buddhist who have been giving advice about Buddhism in All About Religion, sad to say, I'm not a good lover. You could also find me in Charity section Donation to Kids in South Africa. Bye!

This post has been edited by theWinner: Dec 23 2009, 07:07 PM

oh ... the end?