This is how i enjoy life without thinking too much of girls.



Carve your interest.

Aiseh...dats the problem la...dun think u average looking...think u handsome looking. Of course dun tell everyone u handsome la. THink 'handsome'. Builds confidence...wakakakkaa. Next, Usually how u start the conversation and finish the conversation?

u enjoy being a lone ranger all the time?

Frankly, i don't mix very well in college.

I mix with them during lunch, study time and occasional gamings.

Otherwise, i am pretty much alone and that's how i always enjoy taking train to remote areas.

Well, like normal friends when I meet the girl in college or sth, I'll just say 'hi' or 'good morning' and then will go to "how's ur day?" and bla bla. After a while I will tend to ask a lot about them and of course, the killer question is always "Do you have a bf already?". I always wait till knowing that girl a couple of weeks or so only I ask but still, this question often kills their interest on me for some reason. I already tried asking in a very indirect way like "What do you do when you're free? Go pak toh with bf?" kind of way but it's still not working.

Truthfully la. I think that by thinking they have interest with u in the first place is the problem. More often than not they are just being friendly. Unless u are super suave sweet talker, that can pikat their interest level i would say they are just dat, being frenly. Even so when u seem despo(u can say that u are not, but truly inside i think u kno u are. I kno, weve all been down that road...well most of us...wakakaka), that is a big turn off even if they intially was interested in u. The trick is to show some interest but at the same time show that if she dun want to reciprocate is no biggie... And most cases the only way to do just dat is to 'be' just that. Dun ask if she got bf or not. Makes it seem as if, if she did have a bf u wouldnt want to hang out with her anymore...wtf. Ask her out, on a so called date but dont expect anything, just have fun spending time like u would a normal fren. she would eventually think u are a cool person to hang out with. If there is chemistry, then gud. If not, at least u gain a fren. This is a probability game la, like they say neve try neve kno. But the key is to be sincere and not be despo.

oohh...a trip by yrself?

Ah, yes...

5 of such trips for the past 4 months...

@ vivienne85

~Come with me, come with me, we'll travel to clarity~
~Our truest life is when we are in dreams awake~
~Life is like music; it must be composed by ear, feeling, and instinct, not by rule~

is dat from muse?

TS, look at yourself, and ask yourself if you are lacking. Maturity? Personal grooming? Being active and involved in things? Confidence?

I used to buy into all that bullcrap generalisations about "being yourself", "looks are not important", etc. and all that rubbish the media tells us how we should act to get a girl.

If you have areas that are lacking, "being yourself" isn't going to fix these problem areas.

Looks are important. I mean this in terms of personal grooming. Make an effort to look good.

Attitude is also important. You don't have to like clubbing, but if you are able to find enjoyment from going, you'll open alot of doors to opportunities for meeting new and interesting people.

Confidence is arguably the most important. It takes confidence to be 'playful', which is why girls like guys like this exactly because they're exciting.

Couple interaction is also important to learn and practice, if you wait until you're 30 to do so, you'll have to do catch up with women who've had +10 years more experience than you.

Then you're DOING SOMETHING WRONG. DUMBASS.

Figure out what it is and fix it.

ahhhh,
nv knew someone is quite similar situation and personallity as mine

being a lone ranger is good......i'm 1 of it too.....

cuz while being with girls, they just simply just talk with my frens only but not a look to me.....cuuz of my look...zzzz, just keep advice myself mayb they're shy to look at me.....but this "advice" doesnt take long...lolz, so being a lone ranger is the best thing for make yourself happy doing what u wanna do without any hard feelings.

btw i'm 23, still got some times for me to look for a gf in future

This post has been edited by bakkutt3h: Oct 7 2009, 02:37 AM

enuf of u discribing urself, how u look etc

JSUT POR UR PIC

nah...just some random quotes which i like...

gip us your fwenster / facebook link.

we will see if your appearance is causing some problems.

Pictar! Pictar! Pictar!

Hmm, interesting. Someone actually is telling me to worry about not having a gf till now. And someone is even telling me that looks are now important. Where did all the quotes like "be yourself and be natural", "even with awful looks, girls see your personality" and "looks is not everything" go? Seems like, you are addressing pretty good points. As I thought, a handsome fella without grooming vs a normal looking fella with full grooming, the handsome fella will always WIN anytime. This I have seen many times. I tried making myself look good a few times in college but no one realised me. The girls didn't even look at me but still focused on the handsome fella. LOL.

handsome fella wins?? hmmm.. not quite true...
cox someone handsome that I know of still single... wakkakaa....

take me and friend as example.

- i had 4 relationships since college. In&out of love.broken heart.dry bank account.now in 5th relationship. 'wasted' 10 years on relationship thingy.

- Friend had no relationship since college. Sometime lonely. Fat bank account.

which one u rather choose? dont become despo on relationship. find the right one!