seems from your reply to all lyn buddies here, i think you dont like him at all already.
then don't care bout what your friends or family says. just tell them you know what you're doing.
he cant get to control you, so he made ppl beside you to control you right... that is annoying.
also, he smoke, drink, and let other girls touch touch. NO WAY LE...

why is love so fragile?

Why is this happen to a couple who is planning to get married next year?

cutetiepooh, what's the story with your bro?

also, forget this guy liao already. :

a man who rushes forces you to marry her will never be good. :

Cutiepooh, I doubt this will ever get through to you. But I feel obliged to say it, and hope that you will listen.

He is not a good person.

Do you understand what "controlling behaviour" means? It means everything he does is not because he loves you. It's because he wants to own you. He wants a puppet whose strings he can pull, a pretty flower vase he can bring out and show to his friends and family, and she will always and only do everything he says.

He says things that insult and humiliate you? He says things that almost sound like threats? He keeps pressuring you into doing things you're not comfortable doing, being someone you're not? He gets violently angry when he doesn't get his way?

All of these are signs of controlling behaviour. There's even a name for it, because psychiatrists, therapists and counsellors for abused women see it all the time. He is sick in the head, and he is a real danger to any woman he gets his hands on.

Don't contact him again. Delete and block his number from your phone. Tell your family and all your friends to do the same, and tell them why.

Then go find yourself a guy who will respect you. 

Yes, my ex has the same situation as yours. He couldn't let go of his previous relationship and hence he doesn't have confidence in me.

Initially, I told him not to rush me .. He is a kind of man in rushing gf to marry him. I met him mid of March, then april I accepted him and May I announced he is my officially bf. I brought him to meet my parents and friends. I gave him the contacts of my close friends and even my brother is trying to be his friend now too. He and me are the same type people. We always want to win. But for him, He is a very much stronger guy that I'd have ever seen in my life.

He did so much that made me feel uncomfortable. Everytime when we meet, he will ask me to have serious talk about our marriage. I told him we just met and I need more times to get along with you. There is nothing you can rush and hurry me to be your wife now I told him. Then he told me He is a business man, When he starts his business and purchase a new office, He has no time to marry me and have extra $$$$ to cover me.. I felt like "WTF" doing his business and no time to marry in future???

Then he called my brother and mum sometimes to check me, they like having so much of things that I didn't know at all. When I found out that I feel so angry coz I don't like the feeling of being checked. He told my brother how much he loves me and he did tell me how much love he put on me now is 100%. He expected me to return back the same. I told him before we started , I told him, don't rush me everything and I will spend my life and time to get along with you. I knew he is ready to commit with me, but the way he loves me is not the desire ways I wish to. I felt pressure. He always asked me not to do this and that. I asked him what happened to him??? Then he told me sorry sometimes coz his ex haunted him too much before but he just don't wish I will run like what his ex did to him before............

that's the problem with most couple out there... but, actually if one has no confidence towards another, the other should try instill and help to build the confidence for him/her...

Yeah, that's what i'm doing now.

Yes, my ex has the same situation as yours. He couldn't let go of his previous relationship and hence he doesn't have confidence in me.

yeww.. so possessive. good move you made.

Cutiepooh, I doubt this will ever get through to you. But I feel obliged to say it, and hope that you will listen.

He is not a good person.

Do you understand what "controlling behaviour" means? It means everything he does is not because he loves you. It's because he wants to own you. He wants a puppet whose strings he can pull, a pretty flower vase he can bring out and show to his friends and family, and she will always and only do everything he says.

He says things that insult and humiliate you? He says things that almost sound like threats? He keeps pressuring you into doing things you're not comfortable doing, being someone you're not? He gets violently angry when he doesn't get his way?

All of these are signs of controlling behaviour. There's even a name for it, because psychiatrists, therapists and counsellors for abused women see it all the time. He is sick in the head, and he is a real danger to any woman he gets his hands on.

Don't contact him again. Delete and block his number from your phone. Tell your family and all your friends to do the same, and tell them why.

Then go find yourself a guy who will respect you. 

Geeze you're relationship sounds like a surgical procedure. He must have some reallly attractive attributes (or just 1?) to have you hooked the way you are. It's as though he wants to get you "out of the way" before focusing on his business. I don't see why he can't do both and it becomes a matter of this or that. I have little doubt in my mind that you suffer the consequences should you decide to succumb to his demands.

That being said, what's with the perception that anyone who drinks and smokes is bad? Who says people who do so cannot be conservative. Those are habits, not personality traits. You can't cetegories people who drink and smoke under any specific demographic group. The very thought that you believe this stereotype leads me to believe that you are a traditionalist when it comes to marriage which is why you are considering doing his bidding. There is no right or wrong in this, only what you can tolerate. Some girls I know can live with the knowledge that their husbands go to nightclubs and as long as they don't see anything first hand, they live in ignorant bliss. Another woman I know has a husband who has a girlfriend and started another family. He splits his time between both women.

In short, whatever floats your boat.

Initially, I told him not to rush me .. He is a kind of man in rushing gf to marry him. I met him mid of March, then april I accepted him and May I announced he is my officially bf. I brought him to meet my parents and friends. I gave him the contacts of my close friends and even my brother is trying to be his friend now too. He and me are the same type people. We always want to win. But for him, He is a very much stronger guy that I'd have ever seen in my life.

He did so much that made me feel uncomfortable. Everytime when we meet, he will ask me to have serious talk about our marriage. I told him we just met and I need more times to get along with you. There is nothing you can rush and hurry me to be your wife now I told him. Then he told me He is a business man, When he starts his business and purchase a new office, He has no time to marry me and have extra $$$$ to cover me.. I felt like "WTF" doing his business and no time to marry in future???

Then he called my brother and mum sometimes to check me, they like having so much of things that I didn't know at all. When I found out that I feel so angry coz I don't like the feeling of being checked. He told my brother how much he loves me and he did tell me how much love he put on me now is 100%. He expected me to return back the same. I told him before we started , I told him, don't rush me everything and I will spend my life and time to get along with you. I knew he is ready to commit with me, but the way he loves me is not the desire ways I wish to. I felt pressure. He always asked me not to do this and that. I asked him what happened to him??? Then he told me sorry sometimes coz his ex haunted him too much before but he just don't wish I will run like what his ex did to him before............

We must have something attracted to each other so we will accept each other to be gf/bf. At first he is a normal guy for me, as we always said, when times go by we will find out more things and how the one behave in their lives. Sometimes I really can't understand why he talked so much to my mum it made me felt more guilty .... He told my mum that he loves me cause I don't like other girls suck his $$$$$ and I am too independant too.

He prefer I become a soft-toy a good soft gf front of him, He said I am good in everything just I am being too "sombong" and not accept what he suggested and planned to me...   but what I need to do I have done and What he should do I think he did too. I think broken off now is the best desicion and I hope he can really focus his job now 1st!!!! Cause I still treat him as a friend like before...