What an absolute douchebag.

You should have kicked him to the roadside the second he said this.

Some guy r wanna fast make the gal settle down............. like that is the best ways to test a gal is that gal is sincere or just play play..................

Hahahahaha

never date someone who is looking for a spouse

unless you are looking for a spouse

i believe people who date without the intention of marriage can end with a beautiful marriage compared to those who do

The hell? 3-4 months only talking about marriage? The guy is rushing too fast. I think you made the right decision calling things off

maybe separate for 2 months. to think over and try 2nd chance to accept him if he still loves me. coz I really don't feel to continue now and my brother did break off yesterday for his 8 year relations. I understood how my brother feels and I saw too much of breaking off it makes me feel love is so fragile... I am not qualified to console my brother , I even so afraid to see him cries coz I never want to cry front of my friends and family coz all the time I am the tough girl for them... but yesterday I shedded my tears coz I saw the broken heart person it will happen to my lovely brother. A guy plans to marry next year.. and I didn't sleep whole night from the pub accompanied with my brother....

He asked me to marry and I asked him to wait and plan, I need to get along with his family too...

That the unique part of guy......where it cant accept by certain gal...............

Gal that mostly cant accept is those gal who play too much in the past.....................

hmm ...

quite hard for 2 ppl to be together if they have different goals.

the boy wanna marry fast but girl wanna take it slow.

my opinion is, if the boy truly loves the girl, he will respect her wishes and take it slow.

the boy is being selfish.

I cannot kick him and all the time I have to smile. I think he is right for my age I am isn't a gold now, But I can be alone forever this is what I knew myself very clearly...

I never knew he is turning to be like this. coz when I 1st met him, He is a normal person, A guy just recovered from the 7 years broken off relation that he planned to marry his ex....

but my brother now is broken off, my brother wanna talk to him, it makes me in the middle I have to contact with him. The situation is so "Embarassing"

let me share my story.

oct 03 - got to know my ex-gf
jan 04 - couple up with my ex-gf

jul 06 - ex-gf moved into my room

jul 08 - ex-gf started cheating on me
sep 08 - ex-gf said wanna break up

15 nov 08 - i got to know my current-gf
22 nov 08 - ex-gf finally moved out of my room
23 nov 08 - i met up with my current-gf for the first time

8 dec 08 - coupled up with my current-gf


marriage? yes we did talk about that.

i am 28 this year, she is 23 this year. she said she wanna get married around age 27, 28.

i am fine with that.

Gal, i understand your feeling.

Once i also try to look for a guy who gives me the same feeling i had with the one i loved so much during my secondary school.

You know, because of this insistence, I denied so many great guys out there and till recently only I started to be more open minded.

Feeling doesn't last long, instead of saying a sense of "feeling", i would like to say good impression and what the person has that worth you to go after.

I'm with my ex now, don't ask me what our relationship is, i don't know. The only thing i know is: relationship is for both to work on.

Perhaps, you really need to take a rest.

dont be the middle man
just pass him the contact and ask him to be friends without you

+1 on that

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Added on August 4, 2009, 12:07 pmtotally agree on that...
no point in rushing it if you guys dont know each other long and well enough..

This post has been edited by vivienne85: Aug 4 2009, 12:07 PM

You are correct, couples can stay together because it makes sense. The question then becomes whether or not she can accept a marriage based mainly on understanding rather than feeling? I don't think the two should be mutually exclusive because as important an ingredient as love is, you still need to work on your marriage and this requires understanding, patience, compromise and a host of other spices. It seems to me that this guy is very much a person who is looking for a traditional wife i.e. someone that stays home, takes care of the house, cooks for him, etc. Can she accept this? It's subjective, you are right.

I find this technique rather disturbing as well. It's like he is desperate to make a good impression on them in hope that they will also pressure her to marry him. It's rather stupid to think that this is an effective tactic and yet many guys make the same mistake. When they argue with their gfs for example, they speak to the best friend/friends hoping for them to pressure her into accepting his apology.

seems from your reply to all lyn buddies here, i think you dont like him at all already.
then don't care bout what your friends or family says. just tell them you know what you're doing.
he cant get to control you, so he made ppl beside you to control you right... that is annoying.
also, he smoke, drink, and let other girls touch touch. NO WAY LE...

why is love so fragile?

Why is this happen to a couple who is planning to get married next year?

debbie can start a new thread "why is love so fragile"
lol

in life nothing is certain except for death

Yes debbies.. somemore I only want to care my brother now.. He needs more supports now. I hope he can be better. my ex is msn me and asked me don't be busy body that my brother broke off like he is knowing so much again.... hmmm my brother with his gf 8 years to compare of coz I knew better than him... He like saying something up to me, don't campur tangan.. is this a big biz guy like to behave all the time??? I care my brother coz both of them broken heart I just try to help but not pacthing .. haiz..

The problem with love is that it can cause inactivity. You think that because of love, you simply don't have to put any effort into your relationship anymore. The though of doing something different and keeping it fresh doesn't spring to mind until it's too late. Don't take "love" for granted is all I can say.

yea.. just like debbieyss said.
so many good guys out there. if this doesnt suits then let go.
don't let the guy scare you bout your age.. telling you that your age doesnt permits you to look around more n should just accept him.
if it is true love, even in coming 10years, it will not be late for you.. or anyone.

cheers~

he's yr bro le...
of cos u know him better than any1 else...
i think yr bro needs lots of support,esp from siblings...

the bolded part=

This post has been edited by vivienne85: Aug 4 2009, 12:24 PM