so i said to break off is the best solution now as he is suffering too. He told my brother that I am the one to suffer his life now. Caused once I said break off, he didn't agree and he tried to patching it but it failed. and last wednesday he texted me when I was playing badminton after working with my colleagues. He asked to break off... coz he couldn't concentrate to do well in working times....

U got the same feeling like me meh????

I'm sorry but.. I actually LOL'ed.

however there are girls like this type of guy.. and feel so xin fu . because they no need to worry a thing as every thing is plan and they dun even need to think.
i am not this kind of guy , that y ex and me doesn't last.

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Added on August 4, 2009, 4:55 pmhowever there are girls like this type of guy.. and feel so xin fu . because they no need to worry a thing as every thing is plan and they dun even need to think.
i am not this kind of guy , that y ex and me doesn't last.

This post has been edited by juzdeal: Aug 4 2009, 04:55 PM

O.o what so suffering about making sure you marry the right person. He is too impatient. O.o and why is he so unprofessional. work is work. Work and personal business shouldn't mix.

Ai yo. Sui Teng what happened o why LOL ???

I also not sure cause he told my brother. He not tell me things, what's on his mind all I don't know. Peoples said we are lack of communications but I think we don't want to tell each other maybe...

don't wanna tell each other = lack of communication lo.

you sure you wanna let it go?

get to it girl, his just doing business with you. his preparing his "business" and now his felt that you break up with him will cause him loses in his "investment" for the pass few month time, that s y his trying hard to save back the his "whole heartly" prepared "business.... no offense but base on what you told us, this is the conclution i get get.....

a relation between boy and girl was never a business... commitment alone are not enuf.... true relation was about achieving a balance between you and he, giving and accept .... without calculating how much the giving <<< this is the main point bout a relation

in your case, the balance was not there.... his keep thinking that he gave a lot , so hoping in return that you too, will return him that much.... and that is business, not a relation... the weird feeling your having now is telling you that the balance is not there, therefore causing you massive suffering...

yes he might be hurt by other girl b4, but be reminded that now his facing YOU, a totally new girl which have nothing to do with his ex-gf.... so this guy, your bf, why bothering to be so kan ciong anyway ? this also prove that his not having total believe in you... he keep scare that you might do the same thing as his ex does, thus keep on trying to control you by knowing more bout you trough your family, and gain your family trust , hoping that your family will try to help him to control you....


true.... now his like this , so no need aspect he will control you less when you two get married. he will only control you more after you two get married and then you'll get a living hell which cause by marriage sickness

so you stil wan accept him bec or what ? you wanna stay with this kind of person for your entire life ? your call...

p/s : your BF is sick.... so, no need try to recover him cuz this is about himself/his own ,and you cant change a person....

This post has been edited by sammm33: Aug 4 2009, 06:16 PM

truth to say,im agree with other members,that the guy is being calculative,whats the rush of marriage if both doesnt knew each other well yet. To get to know a person,need time and share alot and go thru things together whether its happy times or sad times.

I also dono as he is too "sombong" sometimes... He thought he is doing so much to me but I never want to take it now... coz I knew if a day something happen just like today broken off.. I might owe him alot.

Whatever he did he thought I don't know. He thought he can tell my brother everythings and share things with him without my knowledges. He forgot that the one he talked to still my sibling, my only brother in my life. I knew he did so much but luckily I never taken it. Just like my car insurance needed to be renewed. He paid me 1st and I returned to him, he took but in few days he gave back to my brother .. and I saw the sms he forwarded to my brother that what is time to tell me the $$$ ... means He wanna do so much for me show me he is the bf can pay me all these.. luckily I returned all to him and I asked my brother don't ever let me know what you both tried to do behind me which I don't like it....

I appreciated what my ex did for me, but I am not a kinda girl will take advantages and suck his blood then dumb him.. I never thought to do this to him.. but he seemed doing so much....

This post has been edited by cutiepooh: Aug 4 2009, 09:26 PM

Just one comment from me
You're not a simple girl

lol, he thinks you're a bride for sale a?

what's with the rushing?

the mind is such a wonderful thing.. the reason to love, the reason to go otherwise.. all rest in a constant state of neurotic disequilibrium.

and your mind also comes equipped with defensive mechanism.. to block/blank out elements that may conjure pain.. denial is one of the mechanism.

So let me get this straight. He paid for your car insurance. You paid him back, but then he gave it to your brother. Then he told your brother to tell you that he gave it back?



He's trying to BUY you. He would probably have tried to use it as a means to guilt you later on - "I paid for your car insurance, you still won't listen to me???"

Also, you'd better get your brother on your side. Tell him everything you've told us about this guy. Don't let your brother become his "agent" to pujuk you back.

sounds like a leveraged buyout! (also known as the moniker LBO)!! *lol*

I am simple girl, a very normal person.... he told others I am independant and he knew I love simple life...

For this moment he really think that I am guo

I got so many ex before , I never requested any gift more than rm300.. I just a normal girl. I love $$$ too but I love what I earn myself!!!!!

He paid back to my brother asked him to keep without my knowledge which is I really didn't know about it, but after I told my parents and brother I broke then he texted my brother to tell him " I think is time to tell your sister about the car insurance money I let you to keep" I really WTF that time. I went to my brother and questioned him did you keep the $$$ which I paid him. Please return to him. He is my bf I know some of them might think nothing wrong that bf paid for it. But I am different, I don't like it because he is yet to be my husband and I don't want when things went wrong like now he got excuse to make me feel guilty he did so much for me which I did not know at all...

understand your point!

Thank you !!!!!

Wow this kind of guy..

Ok, time to cheat all his money before breaking up. Ask him to buy car buy condo buy christian dior first.

If he really married a woman and be a husband he should not do that, everyone has human right and should not be 'ordered' like a robot.


He is suitable to find a girl who is objective and willing to listen to him.

Danger later he lock the gal up.. by saying i brought tis n tat for u so u must bcome a slave to me..

He really a business man.. use money to "buy" everything.. sigh.. hate tis kind of guy..

Money is NOT everything