LOL..
nice setting to pick,btw...
guess u hv a damsel in mind???

thanks for this advise bro. i will do this tips

the tips no 1 is the most important but yet there will be someone who think that they doesnt deserve a girl although he have a look. how to resolve this low self esteem problem?

The damsel must be rich, so I can ask for RM 1,000,000 reward later! Muahahaha!

Seconded that.

Hobbes FTW

Lol, all spamming out of topicses.

Well at least he posted some statements (useful or not up to you) not retarded-but-entertaining-yet-trolling questions. So yeah.

Lol, that sounded delirious.

Some questions are that WTFfacepalm.jpg-provoking to me

LOL!!

yes it is

This post has been edited by vivienne85: Jul 25 2009, 08:03 PM

would this apply to just making frens?

lol... the first step to getting ur dream girl or guy..

the first step is the ONLY step.

stop listening to advice on forums.. lol.. seriously..

do what u think u should do. and if it doesnt work out. change it and try again... trial and error baby.

Great stuff. Adding extra pointers.

Body Check -
When to people are really making a connection, they tend to mimic each others' gestures and voice levels.

Signs your date is going well: Watch to see if you find your date is mirroring your gestures, a strong indicator that the date is on-track. Another positive signal is if your date is leaning towards you as you speak. Other good signs to watch for including nodding and tilting the head to the side as you are speaking, an indicator your date is interested in what you have to say.

Danger sign: If your date is crossing his or her arms while you're speaking, it is generally a sign of resistance or anger.


Flirting or Faking? -
Key signs your date is interested include smiling, extended eye contact and biting or licking the lip. (theirs, not yours... duh??) Another key signal for both sexes is low-level non-sexual touching such as a brush of the elbow, arm or leg.

Signs your date is going well: The classic flirting move is the crossing or uncrossing of the legs, brushing their hair, grooming each other.

Danger sign: Keep an eye out for flirting that isn't accompanied by other "I like you" behaviors - this can indicate a purely sexual, not romantic interest.

Pin it, I don't care.

make frens also need a guide meh?

Agreed. If there is your "be yourself" point then what about the others? The others is about changing, not being yourself. All you gotta do is be the best you can be. basically, enhance who you are, not who you are trying to be.

honestly if I see a shy guy approaching me I'd still be flattered, so long as his intentions are pure. Have the guts, approach the girl. If she likes talking to you you'll know. If not, you'll get it too. It's about guts. After approaching her and greeting her, almost everything will flow naturally. Gd luck

This post has been edited by Jamien: Jul 25 2009, 11:47 PM

^See red bolded text: That's what I've been saying all along!


So Jamien... Let me ask you... What if a "brave" guy with lots of "guts" were to approach you at a social f unction. But he is 10cm+ shorter than you, and 5kg lighter. His intentions were as pure as anything. He's in his late 20s and has never been in a relationship. He is desperate. He talks well. He has good social skills. He has lots of friends. You find him interesting to talk to. Then, he asks you to dance... will you accept??? Sure, you're flattered...but at the end of the day, you do not consider him a potential partner (i am assuming you are a reasonably attractive woman with options).


Im not telling anyone to be more outgoing or more shy.
You are who you are.
Just like you cant generally change your height/skin color, you cannot change your personality type.

It's not about being outgoing or shy. It is about being the best that you can be. Developing masculine features...both physical and mental. If you are thriving, things will flow naturally for you....regardless if you are outgoing or shy... It simply doesnt matter.

I'd like to think it's all about guts...but in reality it simply isnt. Guys who have guts do so because they are thriving. It shows in their personality. They know that girls want them. Thus they are confident and have "guts".


The socially incompetant loser who doesnt go out much, has few friends, feeds himself crap, and wanks to tentacle porn every night would be nervous around girls...because he KNOWS consciously/subconsciously that girls dont find him attractive. Even if he did have "guts" (as you call it), and were to approach a girl with confidence...he knows that he couldnt maintain a decent conversation.

Hence my emphasis on #2. Physical, mental and emotional wellbeing.

Also, even if you are the bravest guy in the world... it is very difficult to aim out of your league. Sure you can try...but you know it wouldnt work. So yeah, pick your targets wisely... You know what you are game for.

Look, the game of love is cruel... but this is reality as I see it. You cannot change your height... but you can develop your personality and body. Physical, mental and emotional wellbeing will all make you a more attractive person to girls. When you are attractive you will find that more girls will want to talk to you. Or as Jamien herself puts it "If she likes talking to you you'll know."

This post has been edited by ezralimm: Jul 26 2009, 12:34 AM

Exactly what i said on the other thread!

i really really like Jamien and yeah i said i like you on the other thread too
http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/1104460/+40

This post has been edited by teongpeng: Jul 26 2009, 12:30 AM

Oh For Fvck Sake...let's not get caught in semantics here:

USE WHATEVER WORDS YOU WANT IF IT MAKES YOU HAPPY.

I dont know why you people are so sensitive to the word "change".

Anyway:
1) Change yourself.
2) Enhance yourself.
3) Improve yourself.

If you are scrawny, then change/enhance/improve yourself by eating well and exercising.
If you are socially isolated, then change/enhance/improve yourself by going out more and empathizing.
If you cannot seem to hold a conversation, then change/enhance/improve yourself by controlling your bad habits (eg. late night gaming), sleep well and be in a healthy mental state.

This post has been edited by ezralimm: Jul 26 2009, 12:39 AM