Hello fellas, do girls reach a level of true maturity where she sees having a boyfriend is that must be financially stable whereby he can be her future husband. thus as a requiment for being a boyfriend, he must be mature, able to fullfill her every needs and wants, and with almost perfect personality for her?

well, all the above criteria is a must for a guy. Who want a mat rempit bf?

minah rempit lo

but u see..i see girls when go shopping with her boyfriend, she pays for her own shopping stuff. That's mean that girl is not at the true level of maturity?

abeh tu klu semua org nak boyfren kaye.. sape nak kat boyfren miskin?

How does one define maturity?
Love makes you do irrational things.

Again, how do you define maturity? A mature girl = using guy's money ? Everyone is different, you shouldn't make generalization.

But IMHO, the fact that the girl looks at all categories cashflow, personality as well as looks, doesn't really DETERMINE a mature girl but rather a preference for her type of MATE.

WHy u differentiate their maturity by that? I mean, of course la sometimes bf have to pay but not all the time. Aku pun pokai kalau tiap2 kali g shopping asyik aku je kena bayar. If da girls is materialistic type who like LV,Prada, i die la...here, u must tolerate with ur gf. Dont be like a sugardaddy

yang miskin tu bagi je minah rempit..

Girls reach one of the many levels of maturity when they know what they want and work to get it.

but well, lets say i give u a big mansion to live in, and a small old house to live in, which one would u choose? Also, women that doesnt let feeling controls over her requirement to be her boyfriend, is that a new level of maturity?

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Added on June 10, 2009, 2:02 amyeah that's true, so the girl that wants 5c she will eliminate all the guys that cant reach her standard infront of her.

This post has been edited by redline666: Jun 10 2009, 02:08 AM

thats not entirely true ....as a gf , u cannot expect everything u want is from your bf , this would sound like ripping of the guys you with , if u really love that guy or girl ... both must pay what u guys doing , thats what i think to be most fair to both side and also to show care and love to each other ...... personally if bf or gf only ask me to pay for everything .... ill think twice before dating her/him

some of my friend are like bank to his/her partner .... everything have to pay for her/him .... even those stuff like hair gel , shaver , kotex ,etc also have to pay zzZzZ what kind of human are they .... if want to pay then wait marry la ...zzz

i dont mean to side anyone .... be it girl or guy i just think you should not ask your partner to pay everything for u .... be Independent a bit , then for guys... they wont think the girl they dating is just going to rip their money off and for girls this show their partner is not depending on women to survive "eating soft rice"................

Actually I think no. I dont see anything wrong with a girl paying for a own stuff when shopping with bf. Almost all girls want a bf with financially stable and fufill whatever requirments. Same like guys wanted a gf who got the face, body, understanding, blablabla.

'do girls reach a level of true maturity where she sees having a boyfriend is that must be financially stable whereby he can be her future husband.'
I think the 'must' word is being childish. Not mature. You cant count on someone 'surely' able to mantain his/hers current situation. People do have up's and down's. Even if she does meet someone who 'surely' have this requierment thing and assume that he can 100% mantain it. Does she love him? If she dont, she marry him cause of 'he's a good bargain?'.

Of course, able to find the ideal partner is the best. But most people out there just fell for someone unexpected.

agreed .... if all only depend of $$$ then there is no love between them .... i personally dont think there will be any happiness even after they marry .... cos its too materialistic

A big mansion where you physically abuse your mate?? (but you can go for divorce and get $$)
But a small house with love?? (but you can't go for divorce with $$$)

A reasonable sane woman, will choose the second. If she believe she can make the $$ herself.


Then again, there are too many variables. Love it's not as simple as 1+1 = 2 . As much as everyone wants it to be like.. You love me, I love you kinda crap.

It's more like, x(male) + y(female) = z. Even if you know the value of x as 1. You still don't know y. As much as you thought you know "y" when you're dating. When you decide to marry her, she could morph to a complete different person (controlling, self-pity, emotional, freak, demanding for love and asking you why won't you love her the way like you do when you're dating ).

Hence Y will be a variable as well as yourself X(when you strike it rich and decide to get a mistress). Which means, X and Y will always remain an undefined variable which will lead to the result of Z. Undeniably, you can control the variables of X(which is yourself), but you can never control how Y will turn out to be.


Long story cut short, there's no right answer to your question.




Nevertheless base on your scenario, MATURED + SMART woman, know better to rely on themselves than to rely on men

This post has been edited by zalmerox: Jun 10 2009, 02:14 AM

one thing to sum up. Maturity is a buzzword, even a 9 years old kid can claim himself/herself as mature.

Maturity is overrated.

I want to stay childish. Everyone is so eager to grow up, I'm so eager to stay young.

same

Er.... No, I don't think so. It just means this girl is realistic and knows what she wants. Maturity is a pretty broad term don't you think? A person can still want those and be pretty immature about everything else.

she thinks guy is responsible to pay for everything, needs and wants, in return she give u her time and love, oh ya she like smart guy too. she knows everyone have ups and downs, for smart guy when he fail, sure he is smart enuf to climb up again rite? nevertheless, when filling the form to be her bf u must be like having a non working wife, pays for everything, expensive dinners, good clothes..

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Added on June 10, 2009, 3:22 amumm do u think if u can get a man that fulfill the wants that u know that u need, ur relationship will goes for a long time>?

This post has been edited by redline666: Jun 10 2009, 03:22 AM

Mature or immature girls, with your current mentality, you're not going to get either

Define, her every needs and wants, and almost perfect personality?

That already shows a level of IMmaturity...That doesn't sound realistic to me at all. IMHO

This post has been edited by geekster129: Jun 10 2009, 06:43 AM