Because if you do, then you must live a very, very miserable life. It means that you married your husband solely for his money. It means that the thought of him does not make you smile; he has never done or said anything that touched your heart; and you want nothing from him other than his supplementary credit card. It means that if he were to suddenly lose all his money due to some tragedy, you would leave him in an instant. It means that he could die tomorrow and all you'd care about is that his will is in order.

I'm sure you don't. I'm sure you love your husband deeply, and he loves you. I'm sure you know what love means - you who recently had a baby.

What you don't seem to understand is that all your talk of money is deeply anathema to love. Forgive me for using such bombastic words; what it means is that your point of view about money is the very opposite of what love means. If Kuan Yin, the Goddess of Mercy and Love, were real, she would be offended to hear what you said. A girl who took your advice to heart would not be smart - she would be, as Dickson says, a prostitute.

You are not a prostitute. You are a lucky woman who married a wonderful man - a man who means more to you than his net worth. Yet here you are telling everyone that the only thing a woman should look for in a man is his bank statement.

You may think I'm misconstruing your words. I'm not. You dissemble and say things like "love is also important", but yet you keep trotting out your point about lazy unemployed bums. You keep failing to understand that this is a false dichotomy. Teongpeng only just tried to explain it - you cannot argue your point with an extreme opposite.

Money is necessary to survive. Love is necessary to be happy. The more you confuse the two, the more you demonstrate that you don't understand what love means.

You do understand what love means. You see it every day in the eyes of your child. Look into them, and try to think about how much it costs to raise her. Think about the price of baby formula, of diapers, of her crib and her pram and her toys. Think about how much you and your husband will have to save for her education. Think about what you will have to sacrifice for all this - less shopping, less holidays, less facial treatments and spa visits.

I bet you can't. I bet that when you hold her in your arms, all your worries about money vanish. Instantly. You are incapable of thinking about money in the presence of the life you brought into this world.

That's why you're wrong. Everything you've said in this thread. It's just plain wrong.