Join Bomba.... I always respect them, all hard and dangerous work but minimum income

I feel you're insulting me, call me a callow kid, what are you to do so ?
You just dont understand dont you, problems nowadays need money !

I already found one, and I'm 24 I have house and car all from my hardwork.
I also have decent saving compared to those around my age.
If I have money I dont even worried about girl, as long as I treat her nice and well as possible.
I need to be strong and stable enough to hold her and my coming family.
And if I dont have money, nomatter how good i treat her, without decent food and wear, I'm afraid, I need to be afraid all the time she's getting away.

I'm not talking nonsense here, this is based on my experience.
I got a 4 years ex-gf and dumped me because I'm not extremely high educated and not rich !
Yes, I'm poor, from a average family. Broken family. And she's rich, she doesnt love money, just pure love between us.
But as she grew older, from 16 to 20 she noticed what a girl really need. So am I, after 1 years dead period.
I looked for girls desperately, and I noticed what they need. I know what is the problem and where is the cause of it.

Mind I ask how old are you ? You doesnt seems that old from what you said.
Ask your parent/relatives who want their daughter to married an empty bottle ?
Do you want a secure and enjoyable life, without any worried and problems ?
We need to drink, what you need empty bottle for ? Display ? Even display we need to display something good.

This is only my opinion, but I guess some people just doesn't agree and think a bit of it.
Just defending themselves and never accept the fact. Ask around, read more news.
The reality.

Bye.

yes bomba is good can wear red helmet

Therein lies the point.

If one wishes for more money, earn it yourself then by being a productive worker.

Plenty of people do that.

yes we're earning money..... you duno what ppl say? dun offend girl, they can be your boss tomoro

i agree with TS that money is important in any relationship, almost anything you do involves money. sad but this is the real world. some people would be pis*ed off at TS for her so called attitude on money. just to be fair to her when i consider whether if TS would leave her husband if he becomes bankrupt due to act of god etc, i think she would still continue to stay with him and would willingly suffer together (for how long i dunno). this i would say she is not that bad. of course talk is cheap, the bankrupt event has to really happen then only we will see the wife real person.

noob13 said that money doesnt last in the face of hard times is valid. i think it is of more concern/worrying only if the wife is the type that walks out imediately when the husband got no money.

divinez, it is sad but i think you found out that your ex was the type that will walk out immediately when you are not so financially stable. hope you find the right one next time.

2 cents

This post has been edited by mouldybread: May 12 2009, 10:44 AM

then ur own wife seduces u can or not??? That time already ur wife still feel of deceiving you?????

same here

haha! u can bring any lenglui,sexy gals or hot gal come to try to brainwsh me,hipnosis or mind control me....I accept any challenge from them.

My mental shield is strong enough,im not ordinary guys will put down their brains n arms just bcos of 1 beauty!

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Added on May 12, 2009, 11:15 amaiyo! I know how to differentiate good gal and bad gal lar....

cutiepooh,...U also dun believe tat no gals can lie/cheat on me is it?

This post has been edited by b3rnard7: May 12 2009, 11:15 AM

Bottom line is that we can either go around all day lamenting how money should not be a factor in maintaining healthy family relations, or we can accept it to be a fact and work for it! Sitting in a corner, crying to yourself, consoling yourself by whining about how poor you are, waiting for a girl to take pity on you and wanting to spend her life with you because she feels sorry for you just isn't going to fly. Stop wallowing in self pity and start working. If you don't find a girl, you'll at least have your dignity and self-respect to fall back on.

As for the1 i bolded,1 of my ex-collegue is a good example.He told me tat his GF is demanding and ask him to spend tis n tat to her.Since his GF always tell him tat "Is a boy's job"...he become a fool bcos of tat gal...almost spend half of his salary for his GF.I used to give him a advice tat...1 day if there is a guy who is richer than u,she will leave u and break up wif u1.But this fren of mine dun believe wat i say...saying tat they are been 4 years relation and wat so ever.

I do tell him tat...ur relation wont last long for 3 months from now,he still dun believe....

I nvr met his GF b4,but I know wat kinda/type of gal she is...based on wat he told me lar.As i always tell myself tat no gals can lie/cheat on me!

So,end up 1 day...he call my hp and tell tat his gf break up with him.Reason bcos he can't "support her needs & demand". (not even 3 months after I give him tat advice)

This post has been edited by b3rnard7: May 12 2009, 11:26 AM

mind sharing with us roughly how much ringgit your former colleague was earning back then?

actually, i dare say it is more like "he cannot support her demands (wants, not needs)" instead of needs and demands.

needs are basically house, car, stable monthly revenue to pay all the bills.

This post has been edited by Deimos Tel`Arin: May 12 2009, 11:31 AM

[FONT=Arial]during tat time,...we are fresh grad and working as IT helpdesk.Starting pay is RM2K (back in 2006)

My ex-collegue last time ask me b4...how much I can save with tat kinda salary.When I told him tat I can save at least 50%,he dun believe.

When I ask him where u spend most of his salary,he told me tat half spend on GF (dating out every weekend) and the rest is his expenses,loan and etc.Every month he told me tat he can't save a single ringgit.Poor him!


No money,dun ever think of having a GF.Or else u making urself become a fool and suffer! I know wat a gal wants from guy....dun try to lie/cheat on me with ur "fake sincerity" gals!

U have watched too much of dramas and heard from ur buddies... U must feel it urself but not hearing others said. Frankly speaking, Girls will sense and smell $$$$ and of coz the guy must be in "soso looking" if no looking good and $$$$ do u think girls will still like morons running to one big fat poor and old guy???

Don't take ppl as examples, try to give and take. If i were you, I will be more generous and gentlement... offer ppls something first.. Not every girls are like what you 've seen before so far. Good luck B3rnard7

This post has been edited by cutiepooh: May 12 2009, 11:38 AM

Arbuthen?

The irony is that you're unlikely to find a girl that isn't so financially demanding until you're making some decent money

You're so full of yourself. If you're always thinking that girls are out to cheat you, you're going to live a miserable life, and even when you get a good partner, you're going to push her away because of your paranoia and insecurity.

Which woman is being offended? You?

See, u can save 50% cause u don't need a girl friend.... haiz...

Well once again, we should only focus on things we have control over. While we cannot discount the possibility of women wanting to leech of you when you are successful, we will at least have the option of living comfortably. If you don't focus on your career and instead complain about everything at work, finding excuses not to work hard, it's safe to say that you will never have that option as women will stay away. Focusing on your career won't only benefit you financially as it will also help you grow as a person. You will gain confidence, recognition and respect.

Too many guys just whine about it

I don't know your colleague and I don't know his situation but assuming his GF isn't a complete b****, her reasons for complaining could be justified. First impression is that she's using your friend. Let's look at the other side of the coin however. Maybe she's frustrated that your colleague isn't totally focused on his career? Is he? You should know.