That statement wouldnt be complete without examples

I'm sure you have an imagination

U should ask, if the time keep delay, ur hurt will be more pain and more suffer than now. U're very clever, should know how to settle it to make ur ownself feel secured.

HoNeSty Is ThE BeSt PoLiCy

Checking out some other girl as in? Browsing and click their name? Or insist to get to know the other girls?

Moreover, i think is best, that at least put a little trust on him. It wouldn't be that hard, right?

HiE, nAmE sAyE vEy





This post has been edited by vey99: Dec 9 2008, 04:24 PM

So if he is just checking out and not insist to get to know the other girls then its normal? Whether he insist on getting to know the other girls, I'm not sure but I can find out also. If not because of hte lilttle trust I have on him, I should be arguing with him right now... Actually that comes back to my topic question, whether I should trust him and see how things go or to confront him.

just checking out is normal, i mean, we girls check guys out too right?

Thing is, why you have to make it sound abnormal? To our expectation and assumption here, unless you tell us here in details what do you mean by 'checking other girls out', i guess most of us here assume its normal? I can click on a girl's profile, and if you're not satisfied about it, should you look at your insecurity? Or perhaps he isn't actually finding and spending quality time with you, which i believe is the reason why you're unhappy?

And its hard for you to gain another little more trust on him? Just for the note, trusting someone is not about, 'i put my faith on him and just let him be'. You can still trust the person when you confront the person ONLY if you know how to ask and question properly. I don't expect you to interrogate him, but you could actually try to ask him in a nice or flirty way perhaps? He knew you trust him, if you care about the relationship. Now that's trust. Rather than blindly crossing fingers and let him do his own thing, now that's like trying to hit double jackpot in a slot machine in Vegas.

How about just spare yourself more time and see what he is actually up to. At least you can gather up reasons to support your doubt and curiousity. How's that sound?

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Added on December 9, 2008, 4:42 pmThat depends on what pda the guys have, i guess.

This post has been edited by peinsama: Dec 9 2008, 04:42 PM

Find out as much as u can 1st before u confront him, if u can, I guess. Then at least u'll know the entire story, and u can tell whether he's telling the truth or lying to u. It's a sneaky tactic, but u'll get to find out for real if the guy u've been dating is worth ur trust n effort to move into a serious relationship. Definitely better than regretting later when too much feelings are invested already.

Why do I have to make it sounds abnormal...cause its not as normal as browsing through friendster or fb. Don't really feel like telling that in details, spare me for this. For the first time ever in a relationship I felt this kind of insecurity. Maybe because I feel like I'm not good enough for him.

i do not class guys based on the pdas they have.

good, cause I don't have a pda...

dear TS,
must think twice orr.......u must know the guy long enough then only decide oo
otherwise bad stuff happens too late oo

eh i didnt say that i dont class guys based on whether they have a pda or not

luckily my phone is a phone-pda counted right?

go talk to him face to face and ask him

o.o

You're not catching my drift....anyway it's okay.

So in summary, you do feel he crossed the 'line', right? The reason why you felt such insecurity because part of the reason is he didn't provide you the security that you seek, aside from feeling that you're not good enough to be with him. Well, then learn to step up and discuss such issue with him. Use your maturity and confidence to talk this 'limit' issues with him. If you know how well communication is essential towards a relationship, then now its the time to put it to the test. If you think you can't keep it too long inside you, then spill it out. If possible with less emotions. Learn how to talk the right way to guys. Showing negative emotions are not going to make him understand what you're trying to express. Instead he will actually tries to retaliate with you more. So, beware about it when you confront him. Just don't make him felt like he is useless.

I didn't say it's you also. Why you perasan jek..haiyayayayayaya

Oh hmm, I think I kinda know what kinda "checking out" ur getting at.. If I'm guessing right, I would understand ur insecurities too. It might be tough to approach him bout this, but perhaps u could ask him casually what does he think about..so and so and leading on to the the actual topic, but from a 3rd party perspective. He doesn't need to know that you know. See if u can get some insight into his character or personality.

You're old enough to judge him by yourself.

Just try not to be too emotional and take things easy.

At least you can judge or analyse the situation rationally.

I can't say 2 months is a short nor long period, like I said, you judge for yourself.

You're an adult, so put on your thinking cap rationally and not emotionally.