So anyone here married in young age? I am and having some problems too. Anyone wanna share with me?

i am not. bt i have friends who marry at age as young as 15 and already have kids. mayb if u wanna have a chat or talk with them i can ask them for u.

oh really... anyone wanna share their experience?

u marry wat age ts?

when im 17 to be 18...

i have a fren who is an idiot
who got impregnated by her idiot boyfriend

and they have a very idiotic marriage


marriages like that never last. she is 20 btw and her bf 23.

I have another friend who got married at 18 with her bf whom she was together with since 13 . They are happily married and are pursuing their own careers atm.

Putting those 2 situation together and making a comparison.
The age which you get married at is not an issue, its the reason of getting married.

I actually have an ongoin bet on how long the idiots with a baby daughter on the way will fare throughout life.

I got a friend married after she accidentally pregnant....

LOL all the time young marriage is because the girl is pregnant. Nothing else.. it wont be LOVE influence the couple to married young.. Guy never want to get tied so fast at this young age.. they havent hav fun yet... am i rite? LOL

i agree with omnimech however i do think the safest bet in a happy marriage is to get married when your life is stable - job, finance, career, family problems, education, life goals etc. Thing is people change alot as they grow, especially in their youth. So believing you're in love at a young age is one thing. But promising someone at a young age you'll be their partner for life (marriage) is a whole different league altogether.

So if you can, wait. You never know what or who might happen

But when it all happens will it too late or you wont regret? Seeing your kids growing up day by day isnt it happiest of all?

wife also must maintain nice body and nice face.

dont after baby become fat but lazy to exercise away the fat.

Alot of case that husband find other wife because wife not attractive, but wife also nv put in any effort.
so both at fault.

so wifes, please go exercise and lose some weight after baby come out

The issue of marrying young of later is not a problem if both parties know what are the getting themselves into. For eg. My parents married young too, 20 and 23 cause I was accidentally "made", so no choice lor, get married.

BUT my parents were matured, they brought me up well. 23 years later, I am a first class graduate and currently working in Singapore as an auditor.

Problem will surely arise in a marriage, be it a young couple or older ones, just the way you handle the issue that make all the differences.

Talk to your husband your concern, if monetary is an issue, perhaps you guys should start to save. Like for myself, I am staying with my bf and I felt sort of like already 'Married' to him. We have our good and bad days but we alw resolved it before we sleep, you know.. the 'bed talk'.

It helps to strengthen your relationship and let your hubby knows your problem. I salute younger couple who took the plunge to be legally committed to each other, for myself, am saving for a nice wedding so probably 4 years later.

hahahaha this i agree... must maintain your figure..

I guess being tied is not the only problem, but at these ages we are still not financial independent, and got no fundamental to form a good quality family.

Plus its not bad to know ur partner better 1st and marry later rite, if wanna break after marry, its gonna be very troublesome

agree with it.. but know my dear for 6 years liao.. but matter of time is not the problem.. is how u survive everyday.. how u communicate and also how match u r.. keke

If you are really compatible, I dont see why not. But to marry early, make sure u have a clear idea of wat u r doing. Dont think probs can be resolved after marrying. C ya else where. I am active in Overclockers United.

havent married but sleep togehter on same bed?


Cool

anyone wan to share their experience for marrying young age?

it's already bad enough with the 50% divorce rate. Most young marriages don't last. I said MOST.

Nope, you are wrong. Not all guys want to go out and have fun and banging around.
The definition of tied can be vary among people. In this case I assume the tied is getting married.
Well for me, i dun mind getting tied by marrying my galgal now. It like what other forumer said: marry at what age is not a major problems, is why you wan to get married?
Well, I love my galgal so much that I had all the wedding plan written down and progressing stage by stage though i only a U-undergraduate.
Again, is not the when, is the why.

why did u married in young age? Because of pregnancy? Or Love? But really most of all is pregnancy... i seen so much included myself is because pregnancy.

Heh, dont mean to criticise. But, why play-play b4 married?

woah tough question but i aint playing. doin it with yr loved one is not playing dude.. LOL

Good answer. I agree with you. Peace. Try resolving all probs. Since a loved one, shuld be no probs?

So what is the problem you and your husband now ? Financial ? Kid ? Comunnication ? How old is your kid now ? Are you happy with your husband and kid now ?

Erm! I'm 20, and I cant wait to get married. Cant wait to embrace fatherhood.

seriously marry at age below 20... really matured enough to be a husband/wife meh?? they can last long?? can tahan??? so syiok a?? married??

Im married when im 17 to be 18 because i was pregnant. 1st year it was tough for us because before married we go thru long distance relationship. 1st year is worst as im pregnant and alwiz moody. Added my MIL doesnt like me. Then when my son is born everything changed. They love my son and mean time my status is upgrade. Old people likes son than daughter. I dont mind but my sis in law envy of it and pregnant for her 1st. Its was tough as she keep compete with me in everything. Then when doc confirm her pregnancy was a girl she is very mad and become more and more jealous of me. She almost everyday stab my back and make me and my parents in law relation worst. Then when her daughter is born not long she pregnant again. Now she is almost wanna giv birth liao but still she doesnt satisfied coz doctor said this 2nd one also a girl. These few days she keep told everyone she dream of boy the one she is carrying now. Its hard to leave in a family that selfish, unreasonable and also a husband that not mature enough yet. He is working and all this while he is asking money from me. For my son sake i really doesnt want to see my marriage ruin like this but i really cant stand this whole situation anymore. What u guys think if u r in my shoe?

one word:
Patient

There is nothing you can do. What? some people will posting like asking you to divorce? JyEn I guess you are mature enough to think of the consequences and what I can advice you is:
1. Either you moved out from your place now together with your husband and son (I assuming that you are living with your MIL and SIL)

or

2. Patient. Wait till your son big enough and do whatever you wanted to do

Thanks for advise zenox but im moving out soon. My parents bought a house for me for my wedding 2 years ago and now its under renovation. But i also dont have the chance to move in with my hubby and son coz im moving alone to KL as i need to learn dog grooming at KL. So he and my son will be staying with his parents in other new house they just bought. I wont be staying with them maybe one year plus so im not worried. It just that i dont know why my hubby is like this. I been patience with him for 2 years, trying to make him happy for 2 years and giving what i can but he still never satisfied. More hurt is on his bday i giv him a lum sum of cash ( i know not all wife givin husband cash on his bday) but u know wat he say? he hurt me by saying i donwan cash i wan car.... WTF !!! damn... hurt enuf tho...

Wow, ur husband
Well here I goes, I assuming that your are from err what should I say: Your family is richer than his?
If that is the case, why not, you moved back to your parents house? I believe that your parents love you so much till they bought your a house for your wedding gift, they will love your son as well as take care of your son while you pursuing your career at KL.
If your husband love you, he won't hesitate on living together with your parent since the your house is still under renovation.
Well for the birthday gift, I don't think every guy like to get money for birthday, I mean, every guy love money but not as a birthday present especially from wife, friends I don't mind
Well, I see there is nothing wrong for your husband asking you to give him a car for his birthday, I assume you pampered your husband too much.
I don't mean buy him a BMW or Ferrari. What I mean is, buying a car for your husband doesn't mean necessary need to pay for the whole car.
You can get a car for him and just pay the 10% down-payment and your husband pay/loan for the rest.
I would happy enough if my wife wailing to pay even for the fuel money

wow i am married @ 22 not bcoz of pregnant case all bcoz of love if u notice i am posting somewhere coz of my marriage problem, though i admit i have problems but ur husband is far worst...

I am not rich but spending my wife $$ is like burning hell note for myself, i am broke now but yet i insist on spending my own hard earned. Plus i bliv if we go out i should settle the bill but if she insist i'll be darn happy. coz feel family like husband n wife sharing and caring type

but still ur husband have some problems... where he spend his money on??

wrongly posted thru my wife's account my username is donki85

This post has been edited by lsy_alicia: Jun 5 2008, 09:57 AM

duh... he doesnt mean a car for nothing. He want me to pay for everything. The car is 80K dude!!! where the heck im gonna take the money from? U know my parents aint givin a cent for it rite? duh.. i told him slowly we will get our own but den he will giv me black face if i say that... i wonder if he married me n donwan let me go coz my parents money? duh... and one more thing is he never giv me a cent to spend even rm50 every month! i know he doesnt hav girl outside but den i cannot tahan la...

Wah, like that your husband is very irresponsible. I thought he just wan a car, I mean you pay for the down-payment and he settle the rest.
This is like asking wife to be ATM machine? sorry if my comment hurts you.
How old is your man? Wouldn't it will be better if you try talk to him on the financial burden you are having now? It's burden enough to living on your own + having a baby, what he else he want? Spend all your money?

Hey TS,

what does your husband work as? and how old is he?

Perhaps you should talk to your husband and ask his opinion about this marriage. Of cause u must ask him in a nice tone and not in a moddy tone like want to find fault with him la..

You can also find a counsoler to improve your marriage.

its ok im not offended of any comments as i already giv up on love and also mens. empty promises. changes after marriage. he is 24 and im 20 to be 21. My son doesnt spend alot. Just Rm200 per month and his salary still can stand this fees. He is a banker. I know u will say thats should be no problem.. But here it is.. me here writing this bullshit and messing up my hair thinking of a solution.

wisd dont u tink i ever talk before? But once i talk nicely, he will giv me a black face that really makes my heart broken and also he will ignored me. then if he still doesnt satisfied he will argue with me. which lead to worst cases like strangle me, hurt my hand etc. He even call bad words like ' *** nia seng' , ' chao hai' when he is not in the mood. so am i d one doin wrong now? or what?


This post has been edited by JyEn: Jun 5 2008, 10:35 AM

a banker? yet to ask little helpless women for a 80K car? ask him to get a life! I feel stupid for defending him on my previous post. Yet again, he did not give you any home allowances but did he pay for the house allowances? I mean pay for the electrical bill, water bill, Astro, food, etc?
Tell you what, is he give you a black face, tell him that his face is black and whether he need a powder to make it whiter.
I mean, he might stress up in work, try get him into a relax mood and avoid talking about money in each argument, might end up he thinking that all you want is money.

I'm sorry, I din't mean that its your fault. I was just giving opinion upon solving your problem.

Seeing your situation as it is, I think your husband is taking things for granted and as a result, he does not filter his actions and hurt you. As most ppl won't hurt their loves one unless unintentionally.

Perhaps your husband too had lost hope in this marriage and cause him to act this way.

thats why i said im givin up and im not trusting men anymore. all r hurts and just lies. he is stress but when come to sms and msn with his so-called- collegue he is very very semangat one. come back home open msn chat. sms her. put phone out of reach. reload every 2 or 3 days rm10 each time. he also reload for me rm10 but then i use it for almost 2 weeks!!!! he reload every 2 or 3 days!!!! how am i gonna stand this $hit!!!

is his colleague is a SHE? if yes....then i should not say anything further because you know what Im going to say.

sometimes i donwan to hurt him or make arguement i giv him hint like 'hey come we talk dont play the pc liao' he is so defensive. when we argue i say he alwiz sms tat girl he say i have no girl outside and its up to u to believe it or not. i slap him and say if u wan me to believe u prove it u damn a$$hole!! its kinda headache la...

Violent doesn't solve your problem JyEn. Only will create more problems and opportunity and excuses for him to get nearer to his colleague.
It will be better if you confront him when you saw them acting odd since you already give up on him. Make a strong point for yourself when you already decided to leave him so that you won't regret for what you did. Take care of your son JyEn.

yeah a SHE. nicer than me. softer than me. pretty than me. thinner than me. closer than me. slutty than me. b****y than me. and i dont giv a damn...

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Added on June 5, 2008, 11:09 amthe only thing i can do is focus on my son. and also soon enuf im leaving him alone now. im goin my own way and doin stuff ive been left out for 2 years now. i will be in kl soon alone.. and i will left my son to him and see how he feel when i take care of my son when im beside him. he doesnt appreciate me now. nvm.. i can simple move on and i dont care..

This post has been edited by JyEn: Jun 5 2008, 11:09 AM

Your husband should feel shameful about himself for what he did. He got you pregnant and lie to you with all the sweet promises which ended up you in such situation. Your husband never thankful for what you did and sacrifice for him. Helping him in his financial needs is burden enough, leave alone helping him in maintaining the family is difficult enough. And he never thankful because you are wailing to give birth for his son.

What a MAN he is? Only polluting other man image which already 'polluted' enough!
Shame on your husband JyEn. Again, sorry if my comment offended you.

its ok zenox.. i dont mind... for me i know i will move on.. for him.. i dont know where his future is... my future r ruin when im pregnant.. i admit its my fault to trust him and make myself like this.. but den wat happen is past. all i want is move on.. i really cannot tahan his family.. and also the burden im getting... worst... coz my relation wif my parents r getting very worst due to every month asking for money... im lost...

Is good that you know is time to move on, for the sake of your son as well as your family.
Always remember, the closet person in this world will be your parents as well as your son. Leave the man alone and move on with what you left.

im moving on.. goin to kl to learn bout dogs grooming.. as dog r my souls too.. hehe...

i left everything when im pregnant.. i was a playgirl before.. but when im pregnant i learn more and more and change alot. My mom too can see how much i change.. but then my hubby tot im still slutty and never trust me either.. its hard in tis relation to be suppose sweet to bitter...

god.. u gotta help me out here..

Dog grooming. ==" Doesn't like dog that much. Little bit out of topics

Is good to hear you move on and changed to a better person.
Anyway, good luck in your future undertaking. Hope you won't repeat your past mistake. You still young, there is higher chances that one day you will meet you Mr.Right. As for your husband, god knows what to do with him.

LOL dogs aint out of topic. LOL... here i share all my worst nitemare. anyone wanna share their sweet marriage here too? yeah~ im done with my frustating morning.. LOL enjoy my story bah... hehe

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Added on June 5, 2008, 11:33 amthanks zenox for all advise and comments. music, dogs are my world to me. from this im better person... yeah ^^

This post has been edited by JyEn: Jun 5 2008, 11:33 AM

Dog isn't? Thought this topic supposed to be Anyone is married in young age.
Better get back to the topic or else the Admin will asked us to talk in Kopitiam section.
Haven't marry so no sweet marriage story.

No problem JyEn

This post has been edited by zenox0123: Jun 5 2008, 11:36 AM

haha im active in dog section too. LOL better treat yr gf more good... Haha LOL

Treat her well, but not well enough always there is a place to improve

yeah alwiz imrpoving yr relation is good. not like me.. cant liao.. haihz... duh~

Btw, how old is your son JyEn? MIL looking after your son?

my son is 1yrs7mth old. no everyone is working and im the only one taking care of him leaving me with my SIL pregnant and happen to be very stab-my-back mood now... duh

haha, let your SIL stab your back ba, soon she wont be able to stab your back as you moving out soon with your son of course. I wonder how would you MIL react since she likes grandson so much?

Quoted:
Some man made accidents, but some are made of accidents.

@JyEn

u r the one who had the same problems n situation wif my god sister haizzzzz i noe the feelings too.......i can feel women/girls always stronger then men/boys i really do not saying boys/men including me no use la no hard feeling

if im daddy,
if i get boy,i will be very hapy:-
1) i got a boy!
2) boys are more fun
3) i going to train him up in sports
4) i going to toughen him up
5) so that he wont be a sissy in teenager year, cause many father neglect their sons so their son become sisi in teenage years.

if i get a girl, i will be damn happy:-
1) girls are more nice
2) they are so cute
3) they will hate u when they reach their teens
4) and love u when they reach their adulthood
5) and is nice to pamper them.

no matter what, i want both.

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Added on June 5, 2008, 1:58 pmdo u work?
how much ur husband earns? and what he work?

This post has been edited by icypetals: Jun 5 2008, 01:58 PM

haha i really like wat u said

TS, when you shift, you're leaving ur son there?
don't!!!!
move on! but bring him along
but if really cannot den you should just move on urself.
dont let urself continue being tortured like this
have faith

he abuse you, so leave him.

he's not fit to be a father, so take your child with you

end of story!


very simple but hard to do


good luck, dear

Hey there...

I got married at 16... and had my first baby when I was 16 too.. hehe
Yeap I got pregnant when I was still studying..
My husband (his nick is MSA in LYN) and I.. we love each other a lot...
After we found out that I've got pregnant.. we sat down and talked about it.. whether we want to spend our lives together or not...
We cried, we sweat, I cried the most I think... we knew that we have to be together...
Then we decided to tell our parents about it.. and again we had to sit down and talk about it with them...which was really hard.
They did asked us whether we want to get married or stay separately..move on with our lives.. whether we're committed and really love each other..
We said yes and here we are still going strong.. this July would be our 7th anniversary dy...
We have two boys and a girl.. we put our children before us.. we communicate and we tell each other that we love each other every day..
Got to have the patience and tolerance in a relationship...
We still have the ups and downs but we have survived the earlier problems.. there are more to come.. but I know it'll be easier if we go through it together...

Sometimes you two have to be committed in doing something then only can have a perfect marriage..
If only one side is doing the loving in the relationship then it's not worth it at all...
If you are not ready then don't bother getting married first.. it'll hurt both of you, your families and the innocent kids as well..

You can visit my blog at My Blog

You can PM me if you need any advice...

bubucai im a failure. icypetals i dont work and i dont earn money. he works as banker.

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Added on June 5, 2008, 4:43 pmdear elena.. its good u found yr mr.right but if u got someone like mine u wont be saying this. i talked before but nothing happened. how am i supose to do? i love him so much but seems like im the only one that clapping hands now.. one hand cannot make sound.. rite?

map easy to say hard to do... thanks!

alexandra i cant bring him down to KL wif me. its too burden plus i don hav time to take care of him as im working whole day. i just can leave to god for this as im leaving him with his daddy.

we look like a happy family. we try before for 2nd baby but then nothing work out. we talked but seems like i talk the most. he prefer to ignore me. or shud i say he is bored of me... i dont giv a damn anymore..

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Added on June 5, 2008, 4:44 pmim lying to myself when i told everyone im happy... instead of happy i cry whenever im sad... do u tink all tis gonna work out? im losing my faith in him already...

This post has been edited by JyEn: Jun 5 2008, 04:44 PM

wah u cannot put it this way.
don't tell me married women with the extra weight will get divorced or dumped by their husband just because they're being fat...
sometimes it's not that they want to put on the extra kilos'.. it's their body. they can't help it..
what if they're body is built to that size.. you can't force her to slimmed down...
don't tell me you want to put her thru' surgery so that she can look perfect for you..

then you want to blame on the wife because she is fat that caused the men/husband to wander off..
why not blame the men/husband instead for not giving the encouragement to stand by the wife and go through the process with her?
if every wife is born to pleased they're husband... then she's not a wife anymore. she's a robot..

woah elena.. very proud of u.. but im not proud of myself.. its been almost 2 years.. i still cant get my tummy fat off... damn... failure!

i'm still have tummy fats ar.. hehe
but it's okay.. my hubby says it's okay...
it represents that i had carried a child before.. it's like a memory you know?
it's not like i wanna do modeling or anything.. no pressure to take it off right away..you know?
you got to be happy yourself first.. then only you can let someone else in your life..
i've got 3 kids.. my tummy have stretched 3 times more.. haha
got stretch marks.. still using oils and lotions...
can't wear bikini.. but as long you have the confidence.. anything can be done...

it's your life mer..

u say very easy coz yr hubby doesnt care much yr figure.. n u maintain it.. im slim before but once pregnant everything is worst.. then whenever im out of the bath room he will tell my son ' see the cow is coming' or else 'see yr mom breast like cow breast' duh.. im so hurt u know.. then sometimes he look at me and making 'the look' like im so disgusting... sometimes he say ' u wan me to fark u den u slim down like the model then i fark u everyday' damn it... hurt.. so hurt..

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Added on June 5, 2008, 5:29 pmsorry for bad words but that is what he said to me.. sorry guys!

This post has been edited by JyEn: Jun 5 2008, 05:29 PM

ei, why wan burn down the tummy fat. Quite a number of guys out there like their partner to have a small tummy fat including myself.
Can bite my galgal tummy fat.

say liao lo.. u all talk very easy.. but then its not what im goin thru now... damn it...

Sorry if I offended you.

i was slim too.. only 41kg last time.. now also boom boom dy.. haha

then you shouldn't be sorry for yourself but him...
if a man speak to me in that way i would have left him ages..
you know what kind of person he is.. the words he uses.. he won't be a good father either..
come on.. you are big enough.. just leave him..
you could seek guidance elsewhere.. not here
this isn't the right place..

all these self pity is useless, unless you get out of this yourself..
you don't owe him anything..
if you ask us for advice.. there's nothing you can gain from here.. unless you make the move yourself..
if you know the relationship isn't moving on then you should leave..it's not your fault anyway..

zenox no problem.. im just moody nia.. not yr fault dont worry

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Added on June 5, 2008, 5:38 pmu know i donwan to move.. for the sake of my son i donwan him to hav broken family.. i really wan him to be happy.. ppl say i don happy nvm.. as long my loved one that is my son is happy then im happy too... all i can do is try to fix it... but one hand really cant clap... im collapsing..

This post has been edited by JyEn: Jun 5 2008, 05:38 PM

Period? Nah just kidding.
About the broken family. I have a, em better said close relative who cases same as you. She ended up bringing up her son single-handed and her son now graduated and work as an engineer. What I'm trying to say is, your son wouldn't feel happy either if he know he don't have a responsible father and he might ended like my close-relative-son if he know he have a good and caring mother. Move on. Cheer.

zenox im only 20 to be 21. i still need time and help. separating with him will be a hurt to my family. and myself. As everyone also will say Love is blind.. then im blind enuf now..

yeah i agree with you..
how would you know, right?
maybe you and and your son will be fine with just you alone looking after him..
it would be even more sad for your son to have an absent father..
your son will understand... he just too little to know about it now...

This post has been edited by elena_k: Jun 5 2008, 05:49 PM

My close-relative was only 18! and she moved to JB all by herself without knowing anyone at JB. She rent a house, find a job and that it.
Again, its up to you. Its your choice.

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Added on June 5, 2008, 5:50 pmExactly.

This post has been edited by zenox0123: Jun 5 2008, 05:50 PM

hmmm... im thinking of leaving him.. but i just need time.. sometimes he make me think he is worth it but all the time he just hurt me... i need to be patience until i get my dog grooming cert and open my own bussiness by next year. then i will think bout leaving him or not. because that time im grown up over 21 and also im independant!!

if your family really love you then they'll understand too...
who's the one getting hurt now? even later you will be the one who gets hurt the most..
why not stop now then to endure it... like you said.. you're still young..
you still have a way out..

as i ad say just now... what u guys think?

Great. Seems like you have everything plan and from what I see is that you are wailing to give your husband another chance before you get your dog grooming cert.
Good I guess, at the mean time
Patient!

if that is your plan then you have to endure for the time being..
if he's not treating you right, you should do the same too..
don't put too much love and hope in him...
he might suddenly be a good guy and treat you nice.. but you have to bear in mind the times he made u suffer..
so you have to balanced it out.. if he does turn over a new leaf.. you must make sure he doesn't goes back to his old ways..
give him like a probation..

all the best to you...

how to make a line so he wont cross over the border and also my patience?

problem started when gurls cannot tahan.

what do you mean by girls kenot tahan?

I got married at 25, is that young?

hey, don't generalize it that way okay? when the girls cannot tahan, it's partly the guys fault too.
and icypetals, what you said was very mean and undermining of people's worth. not everyone can lose that extra weight you know. and its not a FAULT that a woman puts on weight after childbirth.

i really wish you can bring ur boy with u. my prayers are with u.
if you feel that you cannot cope up with this den you should leave. there's still hope out there.

if you guys really start over again...
go slow and steady... dun rush into the relationship..
it's like letting him wait, but in a good way..
and when it's happening.. don't put your whole self in it..

as in.. don't go quickly into having an accident baby...

and omg! he ssaid that to you?!!!
i'd give him a tight slap on his face and leave him straight away!!!
you're only 21 for gosh sakes! can still live leave

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Added on June 5, 2008, 7:52 pmsayang, it also depends if he wants to start over again ya
do think about it properly... leaving is hard and painful. and tiring. but sometimes its worth it especially if all he does is take take take and never give.

sorry, i keep asking you to leave. but i really cant stand men like that

This post has been edited by alexandrak: Jun 5 2008, 07:52 PM

hi-5 alexandrak...

what icypetals said was really mean.. it's like condemning fat married women to get a new body if they wanna stay married...
i think a husband should be grateful to his wife as she is the mother of his child and he should be supportive no matter she's fat nor thin.. that's only called 'blinded by love'.

A person like him doesnt even deserve a cow to be his wife !

haha that is so true...
have to bring some humor in here...
kinda gloomy

exactly!!!
come on lah, if you marry based on looks, then i'm sorry, that marriage is baseless.
after all, beauty is only skin deep.
ANYWAY most women grow fat and ugly after they get married. Good luck in finding one that's eternally beautiful man.

BTW, gosh i'm talking a lot here, its the GUY'S fault if he leaves because his wife is fat. Hmph. who asked him to be so shallow?


no comment on that. it's too strong a statement

25 is okay i think...
as long you're happy then can lor..

from what i see, and IS MY OPINION, u dont nd to go angry bout it, i think that u have married too young.
im not generalizing, but i have seen many wives who whine that they have gain weight after childbirth, and i ask them why they nv exercise or go gym, they say they nv exercise last time( natural thin ), and are lazy to put in effort. and in the end, they get fatter and fatter and fatter until is intolerable.

i have seen many husband say this( no offense,dont tembak me for this ):" everyday i come back from work and i see my wife, i just wish that she would put in some effort to loss some weight u know"( some part are censored so i dont kena flame kau kau)

oh well, what am i to say, if i get married, i sure indulge myself with my wife with sports like running together, badminton, swimming, anything to keep ourself fit together for as long as it will last

Haha yea you're right. Back in the day 25 years old is considered old. Coz my mom kept reminding how she already had me at the age I got married. But these days I do think it's considered young considering how most girls are getting married at a much later age.

then what about those who work AND take care of the house, hm?
not all wives are so lucky to stay home and have all the time in the world to exercise. even taking care of the house is tiring, most selfish guys wont realise that.

easy for you to say you'll bring her out jogging and all not many girls like sports. but i'm sure you'll find one who does

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Added on June 5, 2008, 8:39 pmyup, nowadays it's considered young
i don't plan to get married before the age of 28.


This post has been edited by alexandrak: Jun 5 2008, 08:39 PM

means you and ur frens who are husbands oledi are narrow minded..
since most of ur frens who are husbands oledi kenot deal with fat wives means u all come from the same planet...
so if ur future wife kenot take the extra kilos off while indulging in sports after childbirth, you going to find another wife?
u are only 16... i don't think you should place your comments here...
"JyEn"'s topic is Anyone is married in young age? not Anyone going to married at young age?
and i remember you. you have posted some inappropriate OPINIONS in other forums..
u haven't married ady put high hopes on your future wife.. sigh~

maybe you should be the woman... try giving birth then stay slim...
some ppl can but if you are the kind that can't.. then you'll have nothing to say...
"JyEn" is asking for advice but you're giving the wrong info.... you're pressuring her with your so-called OPINION...

This post has been edited by elena_k: Jun 5 2008, 09:05 PM

ya, scold him
sorry! i'm 18 only too!
i dont think about his age. its about his level of maturity.
so typical guy like. GROW UP

it's so true, why are you so narrow minded?
its not easy for women to lose weight after child birth.
ignorant men will never understand that. that's why good men are so rare nowadays.

eh, elena, you're so pretty and slim even after 3 kids!