Other than gym, what else I can do friend? 10 years relationship.

Gym then fucking flex infront ur EX's..

You're so Fugging funny! Good idea 😊

Well, I did it.. And I manage to get her attention.. She start msg me back and I ignore her.. She dun deserve it once she throw me away from her life like rubbish.. I still remember wat she told me.. It's really hurt me.. Badly.. Thank God, she dump me.. Or else I'll never reach this stage..

Cool! Yes, I agree with what you did, if the person love not your soul, should stay away.

My case is due to my financial.

Nowadays human are so blinded with stress and reality much and yet they can let go what they had (pretty moment).

What I learn here, appreciate what we have and we had, don't litter them when they're in hard time.

I just broke up with my gf few months back and Im not sure if I did the right thing.

We both love each other but when during arguments it can turn ugly. She will always tell me how she always wanted to leave me when we argue, or telling me to find another girl if i am not financially ready or committed.

One thing to note is that she kept hinting me to propose to her as we are about that age to move into next stage of our life, but I am not even ready financially. So I did make my proposal to her but it were more towards her request.

Maybe its my fault as well for having a stagnant career and not improving my career aspect and she is climbing the hell of her career and making good money.

With her I feel we could get anything in life but I will not be in control in our relationship. I feel stress emotionally and I am not sexually satisfied as well.

She told me she invested her love towards me a lot and she really loves me but I don't feel it and I should regret that I am not feeling the loves she providing it to me.

Then again, I am not sure what I really want.

What are the relationship that we should look for?

It's really hard for a 3rd party to tell you what you you need or should look for. You'll know best based on times you're both together.

It boils down to proposal/ marriage and how she felt you're not ambitious enough in terms of career. However if you're not the aggressive "fighter" at work, you'll tend to me more comfortable with your status quo. There are people like that, and then there are those like her. I think that's why you two complement each other well - she appears to be more assertive while you don't mind tolerating/ giving way to her. If both of you are equally aggressive in the relationship, there will be a lot of clash and constant arguments.

End of the day, I think based on what you shared - it's about how the two of you lay down the expectations. Eg. You'll both save money and get married in x years of time, and you'll plan for a promotion by x year and if you don't get it, consider changing job for greener pasture etc. Just an example.

Most of the time it started with 1 of the partner getting frustrated because there were no clear plans or pre-laid down expectations and thus he/ she felt like it's just infinite wait for something to happen and when none, they get disappointed, angry. People like these is usually someone who always strive for better quality of life, progression etc so you'll need to learn how to manage the dynamics of your relationship.

For me, i will try to look for new relationship as soon as possible.

because i dont like to cling to a feeling that is not valuable for me, plus making me stress over someone that does not love me anymore. so there is no point.

being involved in a new relationship, will close my eyes/heart to the old one. because who does not love the excitement and nervousness meeting someone new?

going through break up too.. luckily going through this thread made me feel better.

i dont even know what happened.. we went to play badminton and watched a movie that day, and before i went back i said i wanted to eat ice cream then he just said 'go find a boyfriend to eat with u'. so all along he never treated me as his gf? but we just celebrated our first anniversary last year(he never bought a present) and he also texted me happy new year on new year's day.

we never texted each other again since that day. i dun want to text him coz he's the one who made me angry. and it's been almost 10 days. i guess it's over but i miss him. he's my first love and i've always thought he's the one for me. i hope he would see this and call me and said it's just a joke :'(

Going through a "supposed" break up as well I guess. Girl I have been with for 5 years (although not an actual BF/GF relationship) just told me to forget her and stopped all communication with me. Nosy as I was, with some stalking in FB I found that she was with another guy.

Although we really never did solidify the relationship, I never did realize the extent of my feelings for her until now and now that she's gone, it is such a difficult thing to handle at the moment. Also, with Valentine's Day coming up, the very thought of her celebrating it with someone else also eats me up inside.

Thanks to some good points here, I have recently started working out again which I have stopped for a long time and found it to be a good distraction from my thoughts of her. Throwing myself into work also helps alot.

Though it does suck that during personal time alone that many thoughts and "what if" instances always creep into my mind and I always wonder of what I may have done differently to change this outcome. Any tips on how to keep your thoughts from wondering?

Maybe you can read this: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/liv...ll-love-your-ex

i think it helps.

i just break up 3 month ago. the easiest way to forget her. delete all photo, throw everything that remind of her, dont stalk facebook or wassap at all. its gonna hurt. dont care what she doing. all will be fine. its been one week i have stop contacting her. i feel better alot. trust me. thats the only way by not knowing what she doing.

Ya, this is a good one.. the best is hide the facebook notification or updates from her. There is a button for that. hide this person for a moment.

For the whatapps, just delete the number so you wont trace her timing or photos which making you miss her... Just stop everything and one day she will regret it....

Sometimes when you are too available for them, they take things for granted.

Cheers bro!!




In additions, my ex knew that I didnt see all her posts or vanishing for some times, she kind of disappointed and angry. Then I replied her this:

In the event, I saw you in good conditions, my heart will still be broken because I thought the one supposed to be with you during good times shall be me,
Also, in the event, I saw you sad or in bad conditions, my heart will still be sour because during bad times, I'm not there for you to protect you and loved you.
So I rather don't know or don't care anything about you in order for me to slowly walk away from this relationship. Are you happy with the explanations now?


If you tell this, I guaranteed they will kept themselves quiet.

This post has been edited by siewmai: Mar 20 2019, 10:45 AM

Yeah. correct. i dint hide. i dont want her to be sad also. i blocked her so that she cant see what im doing. anyhow, once we love each other also. just let it be. only best wishes and walk away.

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This post has been edited by Fragileme: Apr 19 2019, 08:00 PM

Just broke up today. I have done everything to help him but all he does is destroy his opportunities with negativity and pessimism.

As usual I did block him in all social media so that I cannot see him anymore.

He did tell me today that frankly he would never change that attitude. I was super naive thinking that he will change. I keep lying to myself saying he will change. I am the stupid one. I gave him countless chances and even bear with all the risks myself so that he is saved. How could I be so stupid?

Very sorry to hear that.

Unfortunately, people often take things for granted, thinking that people will always be there to support them forever.

They fail to realize that their loved ones have limits too. They forget that the world takes a toll on Everyone, not just Them.

My personal quote has always been "People change only when they WANT to, or when they NEED to. They almost never WANT to, but when they NEED to change, it is only because it is too late." If he ever change for the better now, it will be at his own personal cost, and he will be journeying alone.

You are not stupid for trying, but in fact admired: few people take risks, let alone for others. Being able to carry your own burden plus another's is very difficult.

Take care, and feel free to rant, I am sure CC's community will continue to support you and your new adventures.

Hello its me again. It has been 11days after the breakup and he is already dating someone else. I cant do anything about it but i cant help but to feel the saddest. Life just keeps hitting me. What did i do wrong?

If he moved on that quickly, it is would be safe to assume that he already had someone on the side. It could also explain why he did not put too much effort into the relationship and took you for granted.

You did your best, that is what counts the most. You did nothing wrong, as ultimately we are responsible for ourselves, him included.

I broke up with my gf 6 years ago...late this year i will get married n she still single, but i stalked her fb sometimes just to see what she doing, n found out she doing ok with travelling, hiking, etc.
But wonder y she nvr think about married n settle down. Me n her age 32, bout time to settle down, but she don't. I hate to think that she will return to me again bcoz i want to get marry this dec with other girl. I gave her chance for 6 years for any hope of comeback!! The worst part was, after the broke up, she is the only girl that kept appearing in my dream, n the latest one i dream about her 2 weeks ago. This is getting me nutz!!