Very sorry to hear that.

Unfortunately, people often take things for granted, thinking that people will always be there to support them forever.

They fail to realize that their loved ones have limits too. They forget that the world takes a toll on Everyone, not just Them.

My personal quote has always been "People change only when they WANT to, or when they NEED to. They almost never WANT to, but when they NEED to change, it is only because it is too late." If he ever change for the better now, it will be at his own personal cost, and he will be journeying alone.

You are not stupid for trying, but in fact admired: few people take risks, let alone for others. Being able to carry your own burden plus another's is very difficult.

Take care, and feel free to rant, I am sure CC's community will continue to support you and your new adventures.

If he moved on that quickly, it is would be safe to assume that he already had someone on the side. It could also explain why he did not put too much effort into the relationship and took you for granted.

You did your best, that is what counts the most. You did nothing wrong, as ultimately we are responsible for ourselves, him included.

Despite everyone's worry of a woman's biological clock, some people just are not ready to marry yet. Some just prefer not to marry at all.

If ever she kacau you after you are married, it is seriously her problem, not yours at all.

It is completely understandable that you are having dreams like this now. It is quite common actually.

In fact I would even say it is a good thing. To have the doubt now, means that you have time to really think it through, sort it out, and be certain of the decision. You are having pre-marriage jitters, but it is much better than having it AFTER the marriage.

Be certain, go get married, go for your honeymoon, come back and grow with your family. Your ex is as gone as your previous job's boss.

It was not a mistake. It is good that she became independent. We are happy for the people we love(d)

She is not a regret, because her time has passed. She is solo yes, but you are not. It is far worse if YOU were solo, and she is not. But perhaps this is what she WANTS: to be solo. So no worries there

It is ok to think of the good times of the past. But also consider the potential goodER times in the future with your soon to be wife.

Do not hope for her returning. That will mess things up. Hope for a great time with your family. That would be the best, right?