Get to know more new people, meeting new friends do help. Don't ever drink till drunk and do drugs, they will only make you more miserable. Keep the focus on something productive, like work and family. Remember, there are people waiting for you there and they are much worth it than your ancient memory . Broken heart hurts like shit. I went through it too, time will heal.. it will take longer to heal if you just sit there waiting for it to recover. Do something meanwhile, meet new people, and travel around. Life is just too short to think about the past.

Last but not least,

Dont cry because it ended, but smile at least it happened. Cherish the good and forget the bad.

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This post has been edited by Lynixx: Mar 23 2011, 10:05 PM

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i got a question for u guys...
will u still check/see your ex's daily life?
like his/her fb updates etc...?

I will..but better don't because I will be very sensitive on every updates he made
then after that..I will started to think that why is he so happy after he left me but I'm in misery after he left me
it's so unfair..
so, I had removed his fb..only keeping his twitter ...because he got more updates on fb compared to twitter..and I do not want to lose all connection with him..
but now,i'm getting lesser and lesser for checking on him...and i know we should!

im moving on i believe u guys can too! after so many times of break ups and patching up, i've come to realisation..when smth is not working, it will never work no matter how hard you try. shall never look back this time

itz all about matter of time

Used to do that... but I realize its not good if you do not keep moving forward...

ah..im in such a situation where me and my gf patch and break and this routine goes on and on and we just broke again,what should i do i feel this relationship is one sided contribution:-(

What if the girl said ... still want to be friend?

is really hard to maintain that relationship .. at least in this kind of time..

break alrdy.. but she say.. be friends will be much better..
how suppose to get over like this?

Well, friend but i think u both will benefit from being seperated for a while. When the times comes, eventually, naturally you guys will be in speaking term again, and be 1 of the best friend...

This is very good information that you have there. And having it all in one thread is so much easier to find information.

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Added on April 14, 2011, 5:57 pmAs you have mention, it seems to have become a routine.

First of all you have to analyze what is your feelings towards your gf. Do you love her or are you just used to having her around?

If you love her and want to be with her, have a talk with her on how you can get your relationship to be smoother sailing and not keep breaking up and patching up.

This post has been edited by clar.soo: Apr 14 2011, 05:57 PM

but it's over now we've not been talking to each other for a week already.
i don't know whats on her mind..
and i keep on thinking is there another chance?
i personally..don't feel like patching up anymore, coz i think after so mny things happened, theres a scar there already and even get back together also won be like last time. but i just miss her! few days back it was okay i wasn't feelign too bad about it as i don't bear all the faults to myself on top of that she did smth that made me feel it's unforgivenable. i didn't think much, so it was okay, but now it's been a week, the depress feeling comes back to hunt my @ss T.T
i don't feel good without her! anyone can interpret what kind of feeling is this?and what can i do?

This post has been edited by x|aofiish: Apr 14 2011, 06:05 PM

That is the feeling of sudden lost of something in your mind. I would say that is pretty normal. Try not to spend too much time idling yourself or you will go back to square one.

You've already given up on her, so why are you still hoping for another chance knowing that this will not be the same anymore? I believe you still have a lot more things to handle in future. Do yourself a favour, move on and look forward to giving yourself a chance for other girl. Like the old saying goes, don't give up the whole forest because of one tree.

You need to give yourself some time to adapt the single life. So loosen up your fist.

x|aofiish, I understand what you mean. Been thru that before.

I would suggest that you fill up your time. Keep yourself occupied. Go out with your friends or just focused on studying or working. Don't spend too much time alone where your mind can wonder and think of unhappy stuff.

Recovery takes time. You just have to take it one step at a time. Everyday will see you better than the day before.

for the first time i finally finished reading what Lord Baronic posted in here.

good stuff i say and i believe i will come back here to re-read it again when that day comes.

think i need to join here for leaving this section for too long....

just broke off this week, my 5 years with her is nothing compare to what she is doing now..... yeah 3rd party...

i'm trying to get over it, but it still too hard, i'm stilll bleeding in my heart while typing this.....

what makes me too hard to forget, let go, move on & heart bleeding, is due to that just 5 months ago, we aldy planning for marriage, and this happens......i couldn't still comes to the terms that she chose her 1st love, because of her feelings towards him, though they have lost contact for over 10 years......

i'm still in mourning period, and though i read Baronic 1st post, i'm still in getting into terms that i just lost her just like that.....

it may take me days, weeks, months, years or even I may never ever forget her......

finally i found somewhere where i can find a lil bit of emotional support. Its been few weeks now, feeling lonely and abandoned, not loved and constantly clinging on to my bed and kept hidden in my blanket.

but above all those, i have been constantly blaming myself for partly created an abusive relationship - in an oral way....like screaming when i found out that he has done something which crosses my boundaries.

I felt really bad to him and myself, but I cant help it when anger takes over. How can I make sure I don't do that in my next relationship.

It was a pretty bad break

adrianck, I feel for you. Believe me, I've been through similar cases before. It wasn't easy for me at that time, took me a while to get over it.

First of all, you have to accept the fact that the relationship is over. Yes I know you might find it hard to accept that she has chosen her 1st love but she has make her choice and you would have to accept it.

Put away all the things that you received from her, anything that reminds you of her, like clothing, pictures, wallpaper, etc. This is to remove the memory trigger. No doubt you will still think of her, but you do not want to be constantly reminded of the memories that both of you have shared. So take a big carton to store all those things away for now.

I would suggest that you keep yourself busy, go out with friends, go take up a hobby, learn something new, fill up your time so your mind do not wander and dwell on memories.

Broken heart takes time to heal. Take a small step towards healing everyday and you will eventually walk out of this darkness. Be strong and hang in there. Take good care of yourself and talk to you soon.

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Added on April 19, 2011, 11:29 amMelliot1234, first of all, you are not alone and abandoned by others. There are many people around you that loves and care about you. Look carefully around and you will realize that. Don't hide yourself in your bed anymore.

It is good that you realize your shortcoming. I would suggest that the next time you feel your anger rising, hold your tongue. Try not to say anything when you are angry. You can tell your love what you feel when you have cool down.

This post has been edited by clar.soo: Apr 19 2011, 11:29 AM

3 years is not a really long time but there it goes down the toilet....too many things happen along the way......put in a lot of work and effort to make it work....but the b**** come back and scar me back.......3rd Party problem....promises were given that boundaries will not be cross anymore...what happens happen lets focus on the future...but there she goes crossing boundaries....she wouldnt stop from totally be in contact with the other guy even though the guy had block her from every possible way on the internet world....finally she beg her way back into his life as a friend....but the caring she gave to him is more then what i receive.....being a straight Male he is,which guy doesn't want a free lunch......it all crack when i found solid proof of trash after eating free lunch right in the trash can of her room.......this suck bad i bleed like hell and are crush emotionally.....im lost.....what we have all along was pretty awesome and lovely....until this guy comes in........we had broke up once bcz of this guy and i trusted her for a 2nd restart......and this is the 2nd restart that i get in return.....to feel all the pain and suffering again........

this mourning period is horrible.......