the reason i don share my most of my problem with my girl :

a) sometime it is a small matter, but when she over reacted, it became a big problem

b) most of the time she could not give me constructive suggestion, instead she will telling "don be sad lar, it will be fine", "why you so stressed? try to get a sleep and it will be better." What i need is not comforting when i share my problem, i need constructive comments and critics which most of the female tend to lack of. (sorry to offend the female)

c) when i share my problem, she ended up more worried than me, and now i have an extra problem to dealt with

i know this does not apply to every girls out there, not every girl is as naive as her, but at least this is the reason i tend to keep my problem to myself and perhaps, few of my fellow out there who is more matured.

b) most of the time she could not give me constructive suggestion, instead she will telling "don be sad lar, it will be fine", "why you so stressed? try to get a sleep and it will be better." What i need is not comforting when i share my problem, i need constructive comments and critics which most of the female tend to lack of. (sorry to offend the female)


i know this does not apply to every girls out there, not every girl is as naive as her, but at least this is the reason i tend to keep my problem to myself and perhaps, few of my fellow out there who is more matured.

Hi, Can any girls here tell me, do you understand what your bf's thinking always?

example :

(1)IS your bf looks moody, but he never want to tell you what happen to him? 

(2) Always when come back from work, he did no much thing to talk with you, but when outside mamak, he did got a lot of thing to talks with friends?

Why always i cant get understand what's men thinking ? If being a couples, we need to share thing to each others,correct?

Girls is always worry,care,concern and love to tell everything if she is facing some funny ,sad,happy happens, but why guys wont? Is they really so good and everything is keep in mind and dont want girls(gf) to worry about??

so many questions am i, because i am confusing.

When a girl has trouble, she'll talk about it with people she's close with.

When a guy has problem, he retreats into his cave and talk about it with fellow cavemen.

That's why observation is important. If they are unwilling to talk, their actions will speak for them. If you notice he is spending less on things he will normally splurge & spoils you less (or let you eat spagetti but he makan roti kosong), they are probably having money troubles. Then you pandai-pandai belanja him sometimes, spoils him a bit. It's do wonders to help cheer them up and supporting them when they are down. Not only girls need to be spoils, guys love it as much too.

But I personally think if you are in a relationship, you should at least let your other half know your problems. Sharing is essential or a lot of trouble may cook up due to miscommunication and misinterpretation.

It's easy XD
It's because of the difference on how male and female deal with their problems.

Females tend to brood over it, talk about it with her closest friends/family, cry/sleep over it so that she can feel better after expressing the bad feeling inside her. They'll do something about the problem after they deal with their emotions.

Males always want solutions first when they encounter a problem. Thus, when they talk about it, they want solutions.

That's why we always come to situations like yours or when you gf start telling you "You are not listening to me!!!" when you try to offer solutions.

Male want solution.
Girl ONLY want you to listen when they ask you to.
That's a wide generalisation, you might be lucky if your gf/bf isn't like that.   

Hi, Can any girls here tell me, do you understand what your bf's thinking always?

example :

(1)IS your bf looks moody, but he never want to tell you what happen to him? 

(2) Always when come back from work, he did no much thing to talk with you, but when outside mamak, he did got a lot of thing to talks with friends?

Why always i cant get understand what's men thinking ? If being a couples, we need to share thing to each others,correct?

Girls is always worry,care,concern and love to tell everything if she is facing some funny ,sad,happy happens, but why guys wont? Is they really so good and everything is keep in mind and dont want girls(gf) to worry about??

so many questions am i, because i am confusing.

When a girl has trouble, she'll talk about it with people she's close with.

When a guy has problem, he retreats into his cave and talk about it with fellow cavemen.

It's easy XD
It's because of the difference on how male and female deal with their problems.

Females tend to brood over it, talk about it with her closest friends/family, cry/sleep over it so that she can feel better after expressing the bad feeling inside her. They'll do something about the problem after they deal with their emotions.

Males always want solutions first when they encounter a problem. Thus, when they talk about it, they want solutions.

That's why we always come to situations like yours or when you gf start telling you "You are not listening to me!!!" when you try to offer solutions.

Male want solution.
Girl ONLY want you to listen when they ask you to.
That's a wide generalisation, you might be lucky if your gf/bf isn't like that.   

guys solve problem, where gals only like to share them, nuff said.