yes. am aware of the future. not going to be easy and honestly, its scary. but i definitely wont let her have the kids, whom i know will most certainly pass them to a nanny to take care rather than care for them herself.

Get a lawyer for your case, the voice message not to sue the guy but full custody to your kids. If you wanted to divorce. Dont waste ur money sue him, one hand doesnt clap. Better ask lawyer protect you and your kid water tight.

gila ke bro.
ada kids 7 and 9, schooling age, sure busy getting them ready for school and return from school.
still so many activities?
almost everyday somemore.

bro this is not right. like i said, its not about her going out with group of guys and if it proper or not.
its about priority, mentality, and lifestyle.

this is crazy man.

like you said too bro, should prioritize family first.

even two occasions i ask her to come back or dont go, she refuse and tell me i cannot tell her what to do

i am chinese btw but i think there is a universal law in marriage regardless race and skin color

This post has been edited by Petre: Aug 28 2025, 04:34 PM

i feel for you bro.
some people grow with time, age with maturity.
i don't think your wife is doing that.
i predict her argument will always "i was like that before we got married, why is this an issue now?", despite having 2 young kids now.

i don't know what to advise.

Base on my exprience.....

101% hanky pinky!

Bro, please calm.

I have 101% same experience like u.

Be smart.

Set spy app on your partner phone for collect evidence.

Set hidden camera for collect evidence.

Divorce time ask for money n give lesson to them.

"Being kind to your enemies sometimes is the same as being cruel to yourself.

Oh... You're Chinese... So it'll be much easier for the divorce process, like others has said contact a lawyer..
Or a PI
Else you can buy a GPS tracker

Hey TS,

Word of advise, don't do things emotionally be it vengeful or spiteful. You want them to "pay" for what they've done, it will come as a cost to you too... think about it.

Best thing to do is focus on path forward and how to get there as quickly and as efficiently as possible so you can MOVE ON with your life.

Divorce is messy when dividing up all your assets, on top of that there's custody of the kids. Having adultery doesn't mean she lose custody of the kids, the battle for custody will be financially, emotionally draining for you, your kids and your wife. It's a lose lose.

Legal matters aside, even if you did manage to get full custody. 5 or 10 years down the line, one day she come back and is truly remorseful, ppl make mistake, ppl can change.. while the marriage is gone... she want to make amends with the kids. Question, Do you deny your kids their rights to motherly love? Do you deny a woman her rights to love and care for her own flesh and blood? All for you to judge and decide? That's a heavy burden for you to carry

Things gets messy not just now but years and years down the line if you're not cautious

1) If you want a divorce and there is adultery, get the evidence. Consult with the lawyer and get everything legally ready.

2) Do not use lawyers to initiate the divorce, sit her down and tell her everything including evidence of adultery. Both of you need to negotiate and come to terms with asset, custody and everything else. Try your very best to negotiate in good faith and put your emotions aside and negotiate in GOOD FAITH. Do not be vengeful or spiteful. Once come to terms, ink everything with the lawyers and settle.

3) If negotiation breakdowns only then engage your lawyer but as a last resort. At this stage is not you vs your wife, is lawyer vs lawyer. They don't care if this things gets dragged out, those hourly will go well for their new yacht. If you reach this stage, you've failed.

Good luck ts

Doesn't work.

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