I have a group of ex colleagues who had known each other for more than a decade. We were close back when we are young and unmarried. Always go outings and hang out. Only the past 2 years we have catch up like twice a year and we hang till over midnight. We are all married and most have kids now.

For me it’s okay. Especially if the bunch of friends is made before coupling or married. It’s their friends. And if you doubt them then I guess you choose the wrong partner.

What I’m saying is relationship wise nothing weird.
After married and have kids where got so much time?
I’m more concern about her priority in life rather than the gender of her friends.

Could be bad or good. If you do that, you are essentially asking her to change her way of life. Doing that is never a good thing to begin with.

gila ke bro.
ada kids 7 and 9, schooling age, sure busy getting them ready for school and return from school.
still so many activities?
almost everyday somemore.

bro this is not right. like i said, its not about her going out with group of guys and if it proper or not.
its about priority, mentality, and lifestyle.

this is crazy man.

i feel for you bro.
some people grow with time, age with maturity.
i don't think your wife is doing that.
i predict her argument will always "i was like that before we got married, why is this an issue now?", despite having 2 young kids now.

i don't know what to advise.