If your partner has been avoiding you and dodging your questions lately, that's already a potential red flag

Gf = red flag
Wife = super red flag

Better avoid a.s a.p

i tell her to reduce, she refuse

Please dun believe if she say friends only, nothing will happen those bs

shud be stop, not reduce especially if she actually care your feeling

Listen to this la.

My personal experience. Cheater's mind is truly unique punya they can always come up with all kind of reasons to justify what they did/doing.

Guy girl all the same. If they can only hang out with opposite sex they aint normal. Don't waste your time and move on.

Human can never change. It's a fact. We just learn to mask it better. When u tell your love one u have a problem with him/her and they proceed to give all sorts of explanation and brush it off. THey are not going to change. If they genuinely want to change they will listen and apply empathy. Give them ultimatum and force them to listen 99.9% of time will backfire on u, they will relapse and problem come back again then repeat. Took me very long time to understand this.

wife/gf hangs out with guy friends, you say her curi makan
wife/gf hangs out with girl friends, you say her closeted lesbian

cheaters dont repent? they just mask it better next time... waiting for the next opportunity...

can feel it...

Even if just pure innocent normal friend gatherings, your wife/gf should reduce or stop doing it because of how you feel. Not for her to admit she did something wrong, but to respect you and your feelings. If she cannot even do that, can consider leaving this relationship. If she dont care about your feelings now, she wont care about your feelings in the future.

IF she never invite u to join her group gathering then yes, big red flag.

she actually do her best to avoid me mixing with them. so this bunch of guys are almost strangers to me. i only know very little about them

very red flag

the beauty of a red flag is that it looks the same even when hung upside down.

time to move along.

Huge red flag buddy. You should run. Fast.

yes fwb

Yes it is a red flag. Period.

No matter what's the reason, a wife who look up upon you and appreciate you will never be like that.

That's how women behave. Any reason given is either lie, denial, or she not aware herself she already fallen out of love from you.

She does that simply because she either :

1. Natural personality like attention from men. They flirt for attention and wants men to like them.
2. Bored of you already and want find some novelty.
3. Someone make her feel more emotionally fulfilled. Aka you no longer make her satisfied or meet her needs emotionally.

Her next move is either dump you or have affection with other dudes and emotionally detached from you. It's almost guaranteed. And there's nothing you can do to stop her anymore unless you move on first and find a new girl. Yes that will make her angry at you and shock her

This post has been edited by hellothere131495: Aug 22 2025, 09:50 PM

Wait, nowadays it become red flag?

Back in my days, quite often we see a group of males with 1 or 2 females. Some gals just feel like more comfortable around guys since no backstabbing, comparisons, and talk dirty.

To girls:
Bf hang out with other girls = must be cheating and its not allowed

While Herself hang out with other guys = its normal social. Bf too controlling if not allow

no one said about the lesbian part. Only you !

I have a group of ex colleagues who had known each other for more than a decade. We were close back when we are young and unmarried. Always go outings and hang out. Only the past 2 years we have catch up like twice a year and we hang till over midnight. We are all married and most have kids now.

For me it’s okay. Especially if the bunch of friends is made before coupling or married. It’s their friends. And if you doubt them then I guess you choose the wrong partner.