keep the child, money will work itself out

I also do think that respect your wife wish, money can find, life does not come so easily. Although, I also only having 1 and struggling, but if I ever hit the jackpot, I don't think I will give up the little one.

I also agree that the abortion will cause mental health to the wife and bad for her body too. But that is my opinion here. Please do think wisely.

Get two la aiyo. Single child not going to grow up normal social wise. Seen way too many single child joining university or first job (the first time they leave the nest), their communication skill and thinking really is naive as fuck.

Love and financial support from parents alone is not enough to prepare them for this harsh world. They need to learn to socialize and handle relationship issues, best way to prepare them is having them socialize among siblings as they grow up. They learn while having the parents beside to guide them.

Also worst is when u grow old the kid will be alone dealing with your hospitalization and funeral. What a nightmare. Since 2020 i been dealing with MIL cancer, FIL dementia, my own mom also got medical condition need to see specialist every 2 weeks and my dad already heart attack once. All this in just 5 years. I cannot imagine handling all this as single child and still work full time, literally impossible.

not a parent myself

but on and off help take care nieces and nephew.

2nd child is apparently not as costly as first one, so no need to ikat perut.

for now yes, ikat first, take care of your wife's mental health. while also think of ways to improve financial standing.

Keep the kid, use it as motivation to go earn more.

Having a sibling for your current child is also good. I love seeing my kids play together. My 3rd kid is turning 3 this oct. The trouble is worth it.

Don't go for abortion, it'll haunt you for life, and i heard the karma is really really bad too

Income + expenses still can play around, work part time like e-hailing and be frugal. There is cheap and expensive way to raise a child

dah kena then just bite the bullet and move on

my wife also otw to deliver 2nd kid ..but we are planned..then after that tutup kilang



please pakai helmet or just go ikat

This post has been edited by fantasy1989: Jul 24 2025, 03:02 PM

Not recommending it but abortion is possible and quite accessible at least in the Klang Valley, Penang and JB. Talk to some gynaes at specialist clinics, some don't do it at all and some specialise on abortions. As someone mentioned above, there are emotional and physical consequences so make sure to discuss this openly with your wife multiple times before proceeding with this option.

Since you only have 1 kid, I would suggest that you proceed with having the kid as it will be good for your first kid to have a sibling and to both parents as well to have a second child. People overthink about the financial aspects of having kids. What kids actually need are quite basic but some parents tend to think too much about trying to give the "best" but their best is always about money instead of spending time with their kids and being there for them.

You should keep the child, and count your blessings.
My wife had miscarriage for 2nd child, later we almost got twins but she’s one of the rare cases where both twin share the same sack and they didn’t make it.
Hopefully all goes well with the pregnancy

I have 3 years old daughter and 2 years old boy, incoming 3rd one.

My wife never ready for any kid, but then always unexpected preggy since we are too active.

Financially, a bit tough because I stopped working quite sometime, while she’s working remotely.

So far haven’t touch saving, still can cover, but, thing will get better when you believe it will.

only 1 child, is good to have another. unplanned by you but probably planned by divine power.

Vasectomy is a relatively minor procedure, done under LA.

Not sure if you’re more scared of this minor procedure or a lifetime of horror via an unplanned pregnancy.

FAFO.

It's daycare procedure for guys if I am not wrong.

If me, I will suggest abortion since u said u are not well-off / not willing to sacrifice your time / money

Better to make decision fast before u regret later.. Can abort before certain period of time

Best is ask your wife to decide as she's the one carrying the baby

Just wondering, u use protection also she can get pregnant ? Hope u are the true father and not someone else.. Seen so many stories in FB where the parents are white but the kid comes out black

This post has been edited by -PuPu^ZaPruD3r-: Jul 24 2025, 03:49 PM

Well, there's always pros and cons and nothing is for certain. Plenty of charsiu kids pushing responsibilities to each other as well. But do agree with you on the part where having sibling is better for the kid, I myself have 2 siblings.
Anyway, sorry about your family's situation.

Wait, wasn't your first kid just born not long ago? That was fast.

Financial situation means it's a workable problem. Start exploring, upskilling and market your skills to get additional income. All the best TS.

If is Unplanned then plan for it right now.
May be your mentality is not ready yet but there is plenty of time for it

You're the first one here so far supporting the idea of abortion. Yea, will have one last proper talk with her before deciding.
Nope I didn't use protection, all my life I've only used protection for 3 times out of 400+ times (lost count), that's why I was so sure of my pull out game, well this time things didn't work out.

Thanks everyone, for all the positivity and encouragements.