How many kids u have already?
Since pregnant already - keep it. Later during birth - if through C-Section surgery ask them to 'ikat' the 'peranakan'. (Bilateral tubal ligation)
ie: tutup kilang. (no more preggy)

then after this you piap wifuuuu can panzhuut-zhut-zhut all you want inside - also no problem.

if birth via normal vaginal delivery - then immediately before discharge - ask for appointment for to 'ikat'. Your wifuu will have to come again some other day to do the procedure.

pity your one child. Get another one lah.
At lease if got two - they can say they have sibling.

4 ppl in a famili ok what. travel also ngam2.

then y not you cut the tube ?

Hang in there, Bro. My wife is 45 and I am 48, and we had our first child last year. After 20 years of waiting, and due to my wife having PCOS and now wanting the operation, we just left things as it was, prayed and got on with our lives.

And then Wife got pregnant. More renewed praying and we finally decided to keep the baby whatever NIPT said. And I tell you, at our age, EVERY THING AND EVERY DAY IS A STRUGGLE. Financial strain, holidays out the window, sleep out the window and the cold-sweat thinking that she'll only be 12 when I retire. But that was the hand we were dealt and we'll play it to the end. So, hang in there, whatever you decide.

Go ahead with the pregnancy. Do not abort no matter what. You won't regret it down the road and might thank yourself in keeping the pregnancy years later in hindsight.

What does your wife think?

Get two la aiyo. Single child not going to grow up normal social wise. Seen way too many single child joining university or first job (the first time they leave the nest), their communication skill and thinking really is naive as fuck.

Love and financial support from parents alone is not enough to prepare them for this harsh world. They need to learn to socialize and handle relationship issues, best way to prepare them is having them socialize among siblings as they grow up. They learn while having the parents beside to guide them.

Also worst is when u grow old the kid will be alone dealing with your hospitalization and funeral. What a nightmare. Since 2020 i been dealing with MIL cancer, FIL dementia, my own mom also got medical condition need to see specialist every 2 weeks and my dad already heart attack once. All this in just 5 years. I cannot imagine handling all this as single child and still work full time, literally impossible.

dah kena then just bite the bullet and move on

my wife also otw to deliver 2nd kid ..but we are planned..then after that tutup kilang
please pakai helmet or just go ikat

If me, I will suggest abortion since u said u are not well-off / not willing to sacrifice your time / money

Better to make decision fast before u regret later.. Can abort before certain period of time

Best is ask your wife to decide as she's the one carrying the baby

Just wondering, u use protection also she can get pregnant ? Hope u are the true father and not someone else.. Seen so many stories in FB where the parents are white but the kid comes out black

You must be in dire situation if you can't even afford milk formula and just basic kindergarten

How dire is your current finance? How old?

Eh...you're better off then my wife and I, Bro. You have age, experience from your first child and leftover items from your first child, on your side. The both of you are young and have more strength compared to us over 45s. You still have time. Time for your careers to expand and time to find better careers should theh situation come to it. Also, consider the leftover items a Starter Kit. So, age, experience and Starter Kit. Lucky you, I say.

Let me tell you about my wife and I. Those who are Type TLDR, or have the attention span of Tiks (Tiktokers), may skip this part.

My wife and I started off with literally ZERO. ZERO experience. ZERO Starter Kit. Just our hands and prayers. "Advice and hand-me-downs from relatives?, you ask. ZERO as most are grandparents and forgotten about child rearing, and cousin's kids are already in secondary school or university, so hand-me-downs have been handed down to others a long, long time ago. So, ZERO.

And here we are today, living on a wing and prayer, and by the seat of our pants. Could things be better or easier? Certainly. Do we have a regrets? Most certainly, as we are human. Would we change things if we could do it again? HELL, NO!

So, hang in there, Bro. You're already ahead of the curve. Everything else will fall in place, one way or another.

Better let your wife do the final decision as she is the one that will have to live with the guilt as males will usually shrug it off...

Early medical abortion is an option available up to 9 weeks into a pregnancy.

This type of abortion can be performed in the early weeks of pregnancy (up to 9 weeks). Medication abortion uses a combination of 2 medications – mifepristone and misoprostol – to end an unplanned pregnancy. Medication abortion is a low-risk, non-invasive way to terminate (end) a pregnancy.

Step 1 uses a medicine called Mifepristone. Most people will not notice any effect after taking this medicine.

Step 2 uses a medicine called Misoprostol. This is when the abortion occurs. It is important to be in a safe, quiet place and rest as much as you can. Cramps and bleeding are expected and will be less once the pregnancy has passed. Regular pain relief and anti-nausea tablets are essential, especially in the first 24 hours.