my kid now 1.5

then 2nd kid end of year

age gap ngam ngam 2 y.o

2 kids nice la..

Still easy to go anywhere..

Your financial issue could be temporarily or long term. Who knows what might happen. It might worsen or better after the baby. If worsen, you or your wife might resent the baby. No one knows for sure. If you both decided to abort, you could still have another planned child in the future.

This is deeply personal and no one will understand what you and your wife is going through right now. What works for others might not work for you. Have a deep discussion with your wife. Hope all goes well.

This post has been edited by kawa_e: Jul 24 2025, 04:19 PM

Just giving my thoughts from religion (Taoism/Buddhism) perspective which might not be applicable to you.
Perhaps you should also consider the views of your parents and in-laws on this matter.
Its unplanned - yes but now both of you have created a life.

From Google search
Individual Circumstances:
The karmic repercussions of abortion are believed to vary based on individual circumstances, intentions, and spiritual development.

Potential for Regret and Guilt:
Even with a Taoist perspective, some may experience regret or guilt after an abortion, especially if it was not a last resort or if there was a lack of understanding of the situation.

Bub, keep the baby

Don't overthink the unknown. Things will get better for you and the family because this baby will be your lucky charm

This post has been edited by shingo81: Jul 24 2025, 04:42 PM

Delete. Double post.

This post has been edited by shingo81: Jul 24 2025, 04:41 PM

IKR!!! One of the most positive threads we've read - and beverlykho's reply is the one that made my day. Wishing you both all the best




I'll just drop a little PSA here - for all the parents, experienced and new, first-timers and seasoned papa mamas - set the CHILD REMINDER on your WAZE app.
How?
Open Waze -> Settings > Reminders > Child Reminder.

What it does?
It reminds you TO CHECK YOUR CAR UPON ARRIVAL each time you reached your destination - double check your car seats BEFORE YOU depart your car.

Look at b40
Low salary , 3 to 7 kids
And yet they still make it

U will find your way to settle it if u decided to keep the child

Advice here , don’t gamble heavily , don’t invest in quick money scheme

Congratulations!
You should be happy and don't worry too much.
Things will work out fine.

You must be in dire situation if you can't even afford milk formula and just basic kindergarten

How dire is your current finance? How old?

Thread kinda answers that tbh

It's more than that. Diapers, one off items like baby bottles are some things that come to mind, but major cost will still be daycare. Good thing though is I get to save on other things like crib, playpen passed down from my older child.

Not to the point of starving, but for sure need to sacrifice on leisure stuffs, vacation and maybe even cuti2 Malaysia also can no longer afford. Early 30s

day care, food, school, tertiary education.. overall.. 20yrs of commitment, total cost1M++.. then again, decision is yours to be made. on the flip side, who doesnt has any commitment in life? that also a driving force to do more..

Chinese family these days are quite happy with 1

Bringing any child in this world definitely requires long term commitment just like a marriage. You are still young and not in a dire situation; you all just have to change a bit of your lifestyles eg not eating out or taking holidays. We have been through your situations before and can only say at the end, it’s worthwhile!!. We were also young and have three kids, sacrificing holidays and cooking at home. Brought kids out to the playgrounds, picnics, playing kites and learning how to ride a bike. No extra money for piano, ballet or even tuitions but spent many hours in the MBBJ library and watching movies at home. Kids all turned up fine, great careers and families of their own. Now we spend our time travelling to visit them or travelling on our own because we are commitment free. Come back in another 20+ years and share with our fellow netizens how things turned out for you. Hopefully more will be inspired from your sharing. Wishing you and family unending blessings and happiness

Pandai panchot Pandai jaga

unethical to abort already once pass 2nd or 3rd month cause the baby head already there. One of my fwbs said she can take some pill to let it drop out (abortion) I don't know what's the pill called

Congratulations!!! Happy to hear this kinda news

Pick up some side jobs now to supplement income..