R u >45yo or below?

Then u should eksersai.. lol.. how many gf also ok one.. janji u hepi

i'm 44. lol
ya i really should find time to workout....
like u guessed before lo, traumatic. every girl whenever i get close to, i start looking for red flags and what's wrong with her, then i'll eventually walk away

Because u sudah trauma, so you sked history repeat.
Me too, trauma, sked. Lol.

ya, if friend friend go out i dont mind.... if from there develop then ok la, dont skali jump in is target to be gf/bf i scared

We wont know who we will meet next

i'm 44. lol
ya i really should find time to workout....
like u guessed before lo, traumatic. every girl whenever i get close to, i start looking for red flags and what's wrong with her, then i'll eventually walk away

This is the time to put your health as top priority. For yourself and your kid.

Problem with many 40s guys are their health and bodies are in shit condition. The cumulative result of years of stress, lack of exercise, overeating rubbish food, alcohol.

If you want to find that someone, get in shape.

i agree with u bro, it's not that i dont want to exercise. i mostly  cant do weights because of my back. after my back surgery i was advised not to lift weights anymore.

i also have slight Enochlophobia which makes me going to gym with many people quite anxious. so i just ordered my own set of exercise equipment hehe should be arriving end of this week

How come u will have Enochlophobia?

I didnt go gym also. Just work out at home, outdoor is cycling.
But I think I stop eksersai for a month sudah. Macam mau mati.

I feel like crowded is very dirty many germs. Lol.

Happy eksersai

i agree with u bro, it's not that i dont want to exercise. i mostly  cant do weights because of my back. after my back surgery i was advised not to lift weights anymore.

i also have slight Enochlophobia which makes me going to gym with many people quite anxious. so i just ordered my own set of exercise equipment hehe should be arriving end of this week

Do yourself a favour and make regular exercise your top priority and habit. Figure out the how.

For me, I make sure I lift weights once or twice a week at the gym. For cardio, I run 2-3 times a week. Sometimes outdoors, sometimes threadmill. And i also walk a lot.

If you have followed my previous thread where i was struggling whether to reconcile or divorce - so this is final and i have divorced and back to single life again (back to the market) hahaha..

So i've known this girl from my previous company (my ex colleague).  She is still single and we have been connecting quite well (already know her before my divorce).  I would not say we had a fling during that time and I always a BIG BORTHER amongst the group, and to her also.

She was one of the first to person to know that i will go for a divorce, and we did hang out occasionally like in cafes - no any romantic dates so far.  BUT, there's once i offered to pick her up from airport from her trip and she agreed, we then had lunch and I sent her home.

Throughout this period and i always felt we had chances to build a deeper connection until one day, she sent me a "STOP TEXT" that says she only ever saw me as a big brother, and asked me to reciprocate from my divorce. 

I accepted the "rejection" and stopped contacting her for a month.  Recently, I tried asking her for a dinner she agreed for meet up.  During the meet up, the vibe was super casual and normal - we chat, laughed and enjoyed the moment, as if the stop-text was never a thing.  After the meet up, things gone slow again. 

In short, I know i have been "bro-zoned", and i may have been over-thinking all these while.  And i know my divorcee status may have pulled her back as well cos she did mentioned that my divorce was still fresh, when i was jokingly saying I'm back to single now.

What puzzles me:

- If a girl does not like you, or only treat you as a bro - will she ever let someone to pick her up from airport, and let you send her home?
- If the stop-text was final, she still agreed to meet up, and treat the text was not ever sent (i prepared that it will be an awkward meet-up)
- Getting close > Reject > Reconnect > Avoidant

In anyway, I'm trying to moved on from her and meeting someone new.  Deep down, the mixed signals are still lingering. 

Share with me your view on this situation 

UPDATE:
Expressed to her my feelings for her is still there for after the first rejection.  And yet she replied almost the same, so another rejection.  I'm all done with her now.  Tried whatever I can by giving her space, hang out as casual friends, no expectations, etc., ended up in the same outcome. 

By the way, myself and our peers confirmed she is more or less a relationship virgin (like for 33 years).  So she may be afraid and already shut down for good to get into a relationship, OR maybe she is a Bisexual kinda girl - as i do not see she's been hanging out with guys at all.

Whatever it is, I'm closing her off and she need to be gone for good. I muted her IG stories and no more contacts, so that someone new can come into my life.