Bruh... A7 is too much. Imagine writing 15 full pages of words on A7 when it took me 5 hours for A4....

Oh no I'm not gonna dig my memories on that 15 pages of cringe essays 😂 I'll give a summary or an idea of it.
So it begins with sharing what I feel about our experience together.
Then what I think about her. (Fyi I did not touch a single hair of that lady, proud of myself being able to stay gentleman til the end. But u know as a guy we all wanted to have something if you know what I mean)
After that I asked her questions on what she thought of me.(Not expecting a reply) Just to let it out.
Then proceeds to answer questions I couldn't answer when she was drunk.
Then throughout the letter it's filled with thanks and grateful for the experience.
Last few pages would be ABIT nagging like don't do stuff that affects health. Do this do that. Then told her it's not her fault for any of these since she always apologized to me when we were hanging out. Or should I say when I was babysitting a stranger. Well I admit I'm a simp hah.
Anyways it ended with thanks again and with some farewell gifts. (Some of my home cooked meal and snacks for her pets)
Still simping till the end. God I'm such an idiot.

I won't share the song directly here because I'd like to stay anonymous here 😂 we'll just let fate decide and see if you can stumble upon my song on YouTube/tiktok/Instagram by chance. Hahaha it won't be that good cause my singing sucks and my playing skills are all just average  Joe.

Thanks for the salute. It's was like a mountain got lifted up from my shoulders after I sent it. Occasionally my mind goes argh I should've or shouldn't wrote that yadiyada. But still I was relieved. Still both glad and regret at the same time 😂 glad that I'm not that much stressed anymore and regret that I'm such a cringe HAH WHO THE HECK SENDS LETTERS NOWADAYS

Bruh... A7 is too much. Imagine writing 15 full pages of words on A7 when it took me 5 hours for A4....

Oh no I'm not gonna dig my memories on that 15 pages of cringe essays 😂 I'll give a summary or an idea of it.
So it begins with sharing what I feel about our experience together.
Then what I think about her. (Fyi I did not touch a single hair of that lady, proud of myself being able to stay gentleman til the end. But u know as a guy we all wanted to have something if you know what I mean)
After that I asked her questions on what she thought of me.(Not expecting a reply) Just to let it out.
Then proceeds to answer questions I couldn't answer when she was drunk.
Then throughout the letter it's filled with thanks and grateful for the experience.
Last few pages would be ABIT nagging like don't do stuff that affects health. Do this do that. Then told her it's not her fault for any of these since she always apologized to me when we were hanging out. Or should I say when I was babysitting a stranger. Well I admit I'm a simp hah.
Anyways it ended with thanks again and with some farewell gifts. (Some of my home cooked meal and snacks for her pets)
Still simping till the end. God I'm such an idiot.

I won't share the song directly here because I'd like to stay anonymous here 😂 we'll just let fate decide and see if you can stumble upon my song on YouTube/tiktok/Instagram by chance. Hahaha it won't be that good cause my singing sucks and my playing skills are all just average  Joe.

Thanks for the salute. It's was like a mountain got lifted up from my shoulders after I sent it. Occasionally my mind goes argh I should've or shouldn't wrote that yadiyada. But still I was relieved. Still both glad and regret at the same time 😂 glad that I'm not that much stressed anymore and regret that I'm such a cringe HAH WHO THE HECK SENDS LETTERS NOWADAYS

Bruh... A7 is too much. Imagine writing 15 full pages of words on A7 when it took me 5 hours for A4....

This is a comparison of paper sizes. A7 is much smaller compared to A4... you are not a detail-focused person.



The hard questions asked.

It is a leak — a "past year life examination paper." She came into your life and handed you that document. Whether you saw it or not, that’s up to you. But it was there.

The same hard question — in fact, a real-life question — how would you face it when asked again? Avoid it? Stay silent again? Or will you get yourself ready with a solid answer the next time you're asked the same?

There’s a quote that says, “It is good to ask questions about things we do not understand. But be reminded — asking the same question again shows we may be taking things for granted.”

A similar analogy — “It’s okay to make mistakes the first time. Everyone has their first time. But to make the same mistake over and over — the shame is on ourselves.”

Life decision-making sometimes feels like answering past year exam papers. No doubt, the questions are different each year. But the major structure of the paper remains the same — the tested concepts and knowledge areas are more or less repeated.

Even though the past paper comes from someone else’s life, it still gives you valuable insight into how to prepare for your own “life examination.” So, there was no loss in the time spent. It was not wasted — you exchanged that time to gain insight from someone else's past exam, while also gaining awareness of the exam you're about to face in your own life.

Thanks for sharing the summary of yr love letter with us. Let me tell u something... U may think that writing letters is cringey but it actually sets u apart from most guys in modern dating. Why? Coz some guys would rather appear nonchalant n put in as little effort as they can when pursuing girls. I hope that this experience won't demotivate u from putting the same amount of effort in pursuing other girls in future. The right girl will definitely know how to appreciate yr efforts. Always remember that rejection is God's redirection.

I am a letter writer. If can I want tk write to my girl.

1 A4 = 8 A7

So 15 pages of A7 is about 2 A4 pages

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I saw this post in FB after reading about TS post days earlier. I though maybe this applies to his situation.

Amen 🙏🏻
Well, probably it's because the culture on dating has changed so much that things are just "easier" for people now. And many took granted of it. Imagine 30-40 years ago how people could connect with each other. Only letters, therefore people in the past appreciate time spend together. I'm not saying now people don't, it's just that many had taken things for granted with such each access with the help of technology 🫠

I totally agree with u on this part. Now guys can just easily send a good morning/ good night text to 50 different girls 🤣And when I see couples dining together, they'd rather play with their phones than talk to each other 😅

Yeah that's totally stupid. Like why would you even go on dates if you'd end up using your phones. I've experienced a few that were like that, I quickly finished whatever we were doing and left 😅

That's why some ppl suggest coffee dates for first dates. But there are also ppl who would argue that coffee dates are too low effort from the man's side. It's like he's not trying to make the date special at all 🤷🏻‍♀️🙈

That's why some ppl suggest coffee dates for first dates. But there are also ppl who would argue that coffee dates are too low effort from the man's side. It's like he's not trying to make the date special at all 🤷🏻‍♀️🙈

I never do any fancy dates. Just sushi zanmai or fish bowl or salad atelier

That's why some ppl suggest coffee dates for first dates. But there are also ppl who would argue that coffee dates are too low effort from the man's side. It's like he's not trying to make the date special at all 🤷🏻‍♀️🙈

That's why some ppl suggest coffee dates for first dates. But there are also ppl who would argue that coffee dates are too low effort from the man's side. It's like he's not trying to make the date special at all 🤷🏻‍♀️🙈

That's why some ppl suggest coffee dates for first dates. But there are also ppl who would argue that coffee dates are too low effort from the man's side. It's like he's not trying to make the date special at all 🤷🏻‍♀️🙈

Are they really people who argue that?! Well thanks, no wonder I found my bf relatively easily.... The others lowering the bar for me lol

Half joke aside, I agree that the first dates don't and should not mean much. It's literally meeting a stranger who's more than likely not to work out, why make it even harder than it already is? There's so many more other ways to make memories...

For example on my 3rd meetup with my now-bf, we had a dinner and were strolling nearby after. I tripped on an uneven surface and he was frantically waving his arms around but keeping social distance with me, I could almost hear his thoughts, "OMG DO I CATCH HER WHEN SHE FALLS BUT WHAT IF I 'HARASS' HER"

He sure scored a lot of brownie points that night, it's one story I like to tell others what we had for dinner and how much was it? Don't remember and I don't care.

@men: not all ladies appreciate social distancing. I'm generally conservative with platonic friends (including potentials) so I find physical intimacy before officiating the relationship too much for me. I know this is untrue for some ladies and they might even find you playing safe as a turn-off.

Lol thanks for sharing this interesting story with us. For a min there, I thought u went out with him during the pandemic when u mentioned "social distancing" 🤣 Regarding physical contact, it's indeed a tricky issue. Some guys just wanna play safe whereas some girls might assume he's not interested in her. This is the reason why rship coaches advise girls to break the touch barrier first if they're interested in the guy like touching his arm.

Are they really people who argue that?! Well thanks, no wonder I found my bf relatively easily.... The others lowering the bar for me lol

Half joke aside, I agree that the first dates don't and should not mean much. It's literally meeting a stranger who's more than likely not to work out, why make it even harder than it already is? There's so many more other ways to make memories...

For example on my 3rd meetup with my now-bf, we had a dinner and were strolling nearby after. I tripped on an uneven surface and he was frantically waving his arms around but keeping social distance with me, I could almost hear his thoughts, "OMG DO I CATCH HER WHEN SHE FALLS BUT WHAT IF I 'HARASS' HER"

He sure scored a lot of brownie points that night, it's one story I like to tell others what we had for dinner and how much was it? Don't remember and I don't care.

@men: not all ladies appreciate social distancing. I'm generally conservative with platonic friends (including potentials) so I find physical intimacy before officiating the relationship too much for me. I know this is untrue for some ladies and they might even find you playing safe as a turn-off.

Ah, modern courtship — a delicate dance of timing, tone… and unspoken telepathy. 🔮
Initiate too soon, and you’ve overstepped.
Wait too long, and you were never interested.

Somewhere between “too much” and “too passive” lies a window you were supposed to see — without being told.
No signs, no signals, no certainty.
Just vibes. And intuition.

Don't know we are supposed to pity the man or the woman?