From your other thread, I guess you're still learning about women and dating. If after all these virtual slaps by others and you still feel the strong urge to go for her, I'd say why the hell not:

Confess the way you like it, write a script or letter if you want, do whatever you like. Let her have all your cringe and most likely she'll reject you -- that's actually the best outcome because you'll then be able to let go without that sliver of regret in your head nagging "why you left without trying". Rejection hurts a lot but understand that it's not always about your own shortcomings but sometimes just wrong timing, wrong values, wrong place, wrong chemistry, wrong genes....

Some time later as you reflect on your past, you'll cringe at what you did, you made shit super awkward, but glad that you tried and it's over.

I love this idea. Yknow, 15 pages is a huge burden for her alone to read. Gotta share that burden 😇

I salute TS for fully embracing your cringe within, may you now put that behind and be a better person for the next right one.

Are they really people who argue that?! Well thanks, no wonder I found my bf relatively easily.... The others lowering the bar for me lol

Half joke aside, I agree that the first dates don't and should not mean much. It's literally meeting a stranger who's more than likely not to work out, why make it even harder than it already is? There's so many more other ways to make memories...

For example on my 3rd meetup with my now-bf, we had a dinner and were strolling nearby after. I tripped on an uneven surface and he was frantically waving his arms around but keeping social distance with me, I could almost hear his thoughts, "OMG DO I CATCH HER WHEN SHE FALLS BUT WHAT IF I 'HARASS' HER"

He sure scored a lot of brownie points that night, it's one story I like to tell others what we had for dinner and how much was it? Don't remember and I don't care.

@men: not all ladies appreciate social distancing. I'm generally conservative with platonic friends (including potentials) so I find physical intimacy before officiating the relationship too much for me. I know this is untrue for some ladies and they might even find you playing safe as a turn-off.

That was in 2021 so it was still during the pandemic where there were months we couldn't meet up and had to use discord to watch/play stuff together and awkward video calls where we'd accidentally show off my nose hairs..

Yeah I agree it's indeed more socially appropriate that the ladies play a bigger part in breaking the physical barrier, otherwise it can be risky for men as they may not be aware their attempt for intimacy may be seen as harassment by the potential partner.

I pity the men who are trying to find that window.
I pity the women whose windows are not respected; it's scary to freeze in the moment.