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Advice Wanted Fell in love but can't be together., Rant

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parisiansky
post Jun 25 2025, 04:36 PM

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Let me give u some advice from a girl's perspective. You might not like to hear this but yeah, she's basically using you. Just giving u enough attention to keep u around. I know it's hard for u to do this but u really need to stop simping to her. Looking at the messy rship between her n her ex, even if u managed to convince her to be yr gf, she'll only treat u like a rebound. So please don't confess to her and walk away like a man who knows his worth.

There's plenty of fish on dating apps ok? I can assure you that you WILL match with other girls who won't treat u the way that she does. In the meantime, pls watch some self help vids to build up yr confidence n learn to love yrself more...only then you'll realise that u deserve better n be brave enough to walk away whenever girls are taking u for granted.

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parisiansky
post Jul 1 2025, 08:31 AM

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QUOTE(forlowyat1 @ Jul 1 2025, 01:01 AM)
Yeah, damn it. I should've been smarter about it. Sent a 15 page letter and now I'm starting to regret itπŸ˜‚ well, What's done is done. I'll just need to forget about it and move on. Felt so stupid with the long ass letterπŸ˜‚
Should've just kept quiet and do nothing. Would be much much better
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15 pages??? You can publish a short romance novel already 🀣🀣🀣
parisiansky
post Jul 3 2025, 12:44 PM

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QUOTE(forlowyat1 @ Jul 3 2025, 01:47 AM)
Bruh... A7 is too much. Imagine writing 15 full pages of words on A7 when it took me 5 hours for A4....

Oh no I'm not gonna dig my memories on that 15 pages of cringe essays πŸ˜‚ I'll give a summary or an idea of it.
So it begins with sharing what I feel about our experience together.
Then what I think about her. (Fyi I did not touch a single hair of that lady, proud of myself being able to stay gentleman til the end. But u know as a guy we all wanted to have something if you know what I mean)
After that I asked her questions on what she thought of me.(Not expecting a reply) Just to let it out.
Then proceeds to answer questions I couldn't answer when she was drunk.
Then throughout the letter it's filled with thanks and grateful for the experience.
Last few pages would be ABIT nagging like don't do stuff that affects health. Do this do that. Then told her it's not her fault for any of these since she always apologized to me when we were hanging out. Or should I say when I was babysitting a stranger. Well I admit I'm a simp hah.
Anyways it ended with thanks again and with some farewell gifts. (Some of my home cooked meal and snacks for her pets)
Still simping till the end. God I'm such an idiot.

I won't share the song directly here because I'd like to stay anonymous here πŸ˜‚ we'll just let fate decide and see if you can stumble upon my song on YouTube/tiktok/Instagram by chance. Hahaha it won't be that good cause my singing sucks and my playing skills are all just average  Joe.

Thanks for the salute. It's was like a mountain got lifted up from my shoulders after I sent it. Occasionally my mind goes argh I should've or shouldn't wrote that yadiyada. But still I was relieved. Still both glad and regret at the same time πŸ˜‚ glad that I'm not that much stressed anymore and regret that I'm such a cringe HAH WHO THE HECK SENDS LETTERS NOWADAYS
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Thanks for sharing the summary of yr love letter with us. Let me tell u something... U may think that writing letters is cringey but it actually sets u apart from most guys in modern dating. Why? Coz some guys would rather appear nonchalant n put in as little effort as they can when pursuing girls. I hope that this experience won't demotivate u from putting the same amount of effort in pursuing other girls in future. The right girl will definitely know how to appreciate yr efforts. Always remember that rejection is God's redirection.
parisiansky
post Jul 3 2025, 10:24 PM

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QUOTE(forlowyat1 @ Jul 3 2025, 08:35 PM)
Amen πŸ™πŸ»
Well, probably it's because the culture on dating has changed so much that things are just "easier" for people now. And many took granted of it. Imagine 30-40 years ago how people could connect with each other. Only letters, therefore people in the past appreciate time spend together. I'm not saying now people don't, it's just that many had taken things for granted with such each access with the help of technology 🫠
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I totally agree with u on this part. Now guys can just easily send a good morning/ good night text to 50 different girls 🀣And when I see couples dining together, they'd rather play with their phones than talk to each other πŸ˜…
parisiansky
post Jul 4 2025, 01:37 PM

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QUOTE(forlowyat1 @ Jul 4 2025, 01:20 PM)
Yeah that's totally stupid. Like why would you even go on dates if you'd end up using your phones. I've experienced a few that were like that, I quickly finished whatever we were doing and left πŸ˜…
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That's why some ppl suggest coffee dates for first dates. But there are also ppl who would argue that coffee dates are too low effort from the man's side. It's like he's not trying to make the date special at all πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™€οΈπŸ™ˆ

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post Jul 6 2025, 02:36 PM

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QUOTE(Takudan @ Jul 6 2025, 12:56 PM)
Are they really people who argue that?! Well thanks, no wonder I found my bf relatively easily.... The others lowering the bar for me lol

Half joke aside, I agree that the first dates don't and should not mean much. It's literally meeting a stranger who's more than likely not to work out, why make it even harder than it already is? There's so many more other ways to make memories...

For example on my 3rd meetup with my now-bf, we had a dinner and were strolling nearby after. I tripped on an uneven surface and he was frantically waving his arms around but keeping social distance with me, I could almost hear his thoughts, "OMG DO I CATCH HER WHEN SHE FALLS BUT WHAT IF I 'HARASS' HER"

He sure scored a lot of brownie points that night, it's one story I like to tell others laugh.gif what we had for dinner and how much was it? Don't remember and I don't care.

@men: not all ladies appreciate social distancing. I'm generally conservative with platonic friends (including potentials) so I find physical intimacy before officiating the relationship too much for me. I know this is untrue for some ladies and they might even find you playing safe as a turn-off.
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Lol thanks for sharing this interesting story with us. For a min there, I thought u went out with him during the pandemic when u mentioned "social distancing" 🀣 Regarding physical contact, it's indeed a tricky issue. Some guys just wanna play safe whereas some girls might assume he's not interested in her. This is the reason why rship coaches advise girls to break the touch barrier first if they're interested in the guy like touching his arm.

 

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