Never try never know... Once you try then you will know...I'm a solo traveller and every now and then I just pack my bags and go and most places across the region are quite friendly... U don't la go to hostile places... That will be asking for trouble kan..

Somewhat true but once you kickstart the excitement who knows what you might find... Meeting ppl with same passion could fill up the emptiness kan...

I’m not sure how old r u now, in my generation when we were young in 20s we liked young and good looking guys, we were willing to put effort together with those guys. Young generation girls don’t like old guys , guys are not like ladies we take good care of our skin and beauty, sorry to say that when guys are old they are usually have winkles, grey hair, oily and big tummy unless u have money and willing to support their financial in return. It is like system barter u pay what u get lol

why a woman can earn like that but a man cannot?

the older you get, you will be looking for a man that are earning more n more and possible the one never married

and a man that capable of earning 20-30k/month never married (40s) is rare (and got abundance of option for younger woman) or "maybe" LGBT

This post has been edited by ahchun: Feb 1 2024, 08:26 AM

I am in my early 30s. Actually you are wrong. Majority of girls I know will only date older or same age guys. Also older guys are more attractive to females Vs younger guys.

I prefer girls who don't care about skin/makeup. I like next door type of girls. One of the question I always asked girls whom I meet on dating apps are do you do facial? How often a month facial. If yes they drop in preferences for me. Haha...

Btw, I am not that divorcee. If you want, I can ping him.

That's stereotyping about guys being old, grey hairbig tummy.

This post has been edited by Ramjade: Feb 1 2024, 08:52 AM

U should talk this to the same income of women like u said not here.

Haha a guy on behalf of lady to pin pointed a lady’s opinion is wrong, u really a good man.

A lady maintaining her looks is not a bad thing for me.. as long as not going overboard
You'll come to appreciate she maintains her skin/looks especially as she ages in 40s..

It's true. Go watch YouTube about relationship stuff.

A woman's peak is in her 20s, where as a man's value peaks in 40s.. this is the general thought and quite true from what i've encountered.
Imho, for a lady her requirements in a man should ideally decrease as they age, and vice versa for a man. For an older woman to have high requirements and expecting success is setting herself up for failure.. like finding a needle in a haystack.
Basically a case of supply and demand.

Outliers of course exists..

This post has been edited by labamba: Feb 1 2024, 08:57 AM

I don't really care about looks. That's why I date all girls even those that usually guys won't take a second look. Most cannot match what I am looking for in terms of personality.

This post has been edited by Ramjade: Feb 1 2024, 09:02 AM

U picked YouTube videos to watch or u like ‘Green tea’ girls… be realistic la u men already like young and beautiful women.

Digest these hard facts :-

1) You can live 1/2 or more than 1/2 of your biological life span as single without issue until present, now suddenly at the age of 40s you are looking to get marry & start family ?

2) Having babies at 40s, by the time you retired at 60s, your baby is only at 20 y.o. What is going to happen to their tertiary education? How finance the baby education ? Leave it to themselves to settle after you retired ? Will it be too irresponsible ?

3) At the age of 40s, the risk to give birth to deform offspring increases, what if the baby is born with disabilities ?

Are all these risk reward justify ?

This post has been edited by nihility: Feb 1 2024, 09:08 AM

A man’s value peaks in 40s because he is successful in his career, he is matured. That’s why so many young ladies even middle aged of me like the doctor in the hospital, he is in his mid 40s, he is smart, caring, gentle and patience to all his patients. How many men out there like him successful in career if u are u should already be taken by 30s.

supply and demand thing does matter a lot.

Going for the blue ocean.. not a bad strategy

From my past encounters (which might not be valid anymore).. a higher percentage of good looking ladies are actually nicer people to be with personality wise compared to average/below average ones.

This post has been edited by labamba: Feb 1 2024, 09:14 AM

Up to you to decide what you want to believe in. I am being honest here. For me looks is not on my criteria for a girlfriend. In fact as mentioned I prefer girls with normal looks and no makeup. I already stated that in my dating profile. Few older girls like me in the dating app. I don't even respond cause as mentioned, my last age which I accept is 30 years old. That's even one here 35 years old. I think single mum showed me her profile. Straight reject her.

For me personality + habit always come first over looks/hot body. Looks, hot body are just bonus which degrade with time. You want someone you are going to be with forever. Looks and hot body is not going to be there forever.

That is why those pretty or hot body, I don't even bother swiping them. I swipe normal looking girls.

This post has been edited by Ramjade: Feb 1 2024, 09:13 AM

Proper planning or live happily without kids.

3) proper check up, IVF. Those are solutions

Ivf is just to help you get pregnant. It have nothing to do with pregnancy health. Pregnancy health is entirely your own body.

IVF is ~RM50k a pop. Had a few friends went thru it. Only 1 success.
Risk of congenital defect is med/high.. this is a risk you need to accept if decide to proceed.

Haiya you talk like this, pls la. Ppl wanna share also ubrealistic, when give rational explanation also dunwan. So how? Don't take it personally la. Try to sift thru. Take with pinch of salt. Some of us actually feel for those who struggle in love coz the path of true love seldom runs smooth. Take a breather and try avoid kneejerk reactions to comments. Instead of hantam all men. Like that might as well you close the topic yourself.