Digest these hard facts :-

1) You can live 1/2 or more than 1/2 of your biological life span as single without issue until present, now suddenly at the age of 40s you are looking to get marry & start family ?

2) Having babies at 40s, by the time you retired at 60s, your baby is only at 20 y.o. What is going to happen to their tertiary education? How finance the baby education ? Leave it to themselves to settle after you retired ? Will it be too irresponsible ?

3) At the age of 40s, the risk to give birth to deform offspring increases, what if the baby is born with disabilities ?

Are all these risk reward justify ?

This post has been edited by nihility: Feb 1 2024, 09:08 AM

To TS & the young generation out there, successful marriage, building family & raising next generation is not about 2 ppl alone. 50% Weightage are from the 2 person, another 50% weightage is from the family.

The age of 40s will face strong resistance from the family.

He left you or you left him? What obstacle that caused both of you to give up ? The issue has been detected long ago & dragged on or it was detected too late scenario ?

Small kampung usually will have 1 or 2 traditional match makers who will frequently trying to match make the villager's younger generation with each another family. Muka tembok sikit, go attend to the match making arranged by those match makers. At least, the match maker will filter out the family background or reveal the family background.

You need some sociable contact to become the "bridge" for you to know ppl. The "bridge" can be from the older generation or younger generation. Join their meetup / gathering, from there onward , join their friend's friend activities.

Going for trip is one of the good option - not asking to travel solo & risk to get kidnapped. Join travel tour & choose the package for suitable for young adults not old ppl or kids. Know the ppl from the same tour, expand the contact from there.

Join some political party like MCA, DAP, PRK or Gelakan. You will gets the contact from their activities. Based on current sentiment, don't join wrong one or else later kena scold by public for no reason.