Those of you above 40 years old and single. Are you happy?

In real life, people would be too embarrassed to admit that they regret their actions of staying single when they were still young. So please share your true feelings here. Are you genuinely happy with your single life, or are you merely putting up a facade just to appear less weak and vulnerable.

And what are your future plans?

hmmm, it is not about happiness after all, it is about the peace of mind.

i myself am content being single
but knowing my parents, it really pains me to be single because me being single is something they do not want.
i am comfortable where i am but i really feel that i should just get someone "to fulfill requirements"..

If you manage to find a good woman
first of all, you have to become a quality man as well

but reality is,
the moment may not come as you planned

that's why human beings always struggle
expectations cannot exceed reality.

I understand u bro
listen tl them fucking nag and complaining about same shits is mentally stunning

How to say ah, so used to being single independent that having someone else in your life feels like an inconvenience?

Need to entertain her la, bring her out la, layan her emotional release talk la... Beech please I'm trying to chill and sleep lmao.

Parents always show me prospective arrange marriage girls, macam best, but I know the drama that comes with the girls... So I run away lo.

This post has been edited by ak101ss: Jan 15 2024, 05:17 PM

Is not I want to but is not easy to find one.

Happy of course.

No bitching from wife or girlfriend.

Can do anything peacefully.

No one to report to when going out late. Just pack and go.

it's not only for people is single..

it's also hard to find motivation and passion to move on with life... when you've lost someone dear to you...

Life and suffering tiada berpisah
~Buddha

No life, no suffering.
~iGamer

we cannot reverse the damages done by feminism after decades

depend on whether you choose to be single (happy ) or no choice but to be single (not happy )

You single , you think people married very happy


You married , you think people single having blast time.


Conclusion : Appreciate what you have.

please call befrienders

Your life, your way.

I guess it comes down to which is more important to you.
There was a period after I broke up with my ex, that I felt so free and happy. But after a year of being single, I realized having someone makes my life even happier. But of course not in a toxic relationship, which was what I was in my previous relationship.

Well, no one said it's gonna be easy. You want something, then you gotta put in effort

Hm...I'd say that's an issue with toxic relationships. Not really a relationship issue. An understanding wife or gf would not pose this sorta problems.

That's a possibility too

Japanese and Koreans are showing us right now.

No need, ayam just not gonna bring new life into this never ending cycle of suffering.

My uncle is 50+ every year go travel

He has managed to find his group so to him no problem

Sometimes the talk about his wine tasting tours, europe ski trip scuba diving etc

I guess it's easier for men. A woman with that kinda financial resources would most likely end up getting conned in some love scams.

🥹 nobody mau

Well, maybe it'd work if you'd be willing to go for someone else instead of simping over Nicole.

So TS is (钻石王老五) ? Most of them behavior very weird.

You see ah, i being quite active at dating social app but i duno la what's wrong with me, chat half way i will stopped chatting and left lol.

your uncle no join ayam poverty alleviation mission group?

yes you need.

If you are not entertaining girls
you're also entertaining yourself by going to work routine etc
at the end of the day, it's a kind of sacrifice every man should know

a man can choose to go incel and be happy blue pill
that's ok, just don't complain and expect the rich to feed them stuffs

because u haven't met the right kind of guy already gave up

more like malas layan.. Most probably i don't know what i actually want.

If you go to sales appointment and expect to get the sales, you'll more likely to be disappointed

same goes to dating and relationships
If you already expect "guys just want to sleep with me"
you're more likely to appear on a date with a defense mechanism

and it's not looking fun
nobody wants to associate themselves with negative people

means you are using that to pass time

This post has been edited by coconutxyz: Jan 15 2024, 06:22 PM

Life is more fulfilling with kids and wife.
But also should have personal space

Depending on whether you're male or female..

If you're male and have money, can find love anytime

if you're female and not pretty, then might have problems unless u are rich

ayam happy go lunch with sabah awek hngghh

I have no fren. My family members dun care.

So not embarrassed at all.

Why? Is being single a sin? Diu!

Better single than marry dead fish 🐠

I already stuck with 60 hour work week, no energy to pour for a liability le.. maybe when I'm rich lo

Yes I agree with you that it's just all a choice on what you're willing to sacrifice.

I thought incel is red pill, now become blue pill pulak, or was it mgtow?

I don't understand the part in bold

Malaysia is hard la to get awek, minachi, amoi

The Sex Ratio in Malaysia in 2021 is 105.61 males per 100 females. There are 16.83 million males and 15.94 million females

All face ok ok sikit already action

If i was born in russia or ukraine

Ayam already got hot bini

When cloning technology becomes available, I will just clone a mini me to continue the bloodline. I am past the point of finding love, single life too good to let go

depends ada wang or not

Single life is very Cham..try to get someone compatible with ur..

But younger no longer keen to marry, life is getting tougher..they think it's better to spend their own money…

60 hours work week. Single. Still not rich? Wtf

One is free sex but same partner the other paid sex with many partners

Pandemic screwed me over lmao. 5 more years to go to settle all losses/debts. Great life lesson though.

There is always 2 side of coin

Those who are married will wish to be single and those who are single will wish to be married


For me I wish I was single but I am married

Single - not a single fucking care in the world. I can resign today and still survive without a need to worry but being married means whatever action I do has consequences that is beyond me


I truely believe the choices we make are not of our own choice or sometimes we fear the unknown so get married and find out the hard way

If I had a chance I’d be single. Easy coz when my parents are no more and my job of taking care of them is done - I have a choice to end my life.


If I need sex, hey world is my lala

You don't need expensive hobbies to fill your time. Not all single men out there are living miserable and lonely.

My late uncle stay single until he died. He loves interior design. Like to deco his own house, like to explore new foods, travel local and reading. My late uncle also used to bring my families to go holiday and eating.

There's a lot of hobbies out there, why limit yourself of need to spend a lot of money for your hobbies such as travel outside Malaysia, and other kinds of expensive hobbies.

Malaysian banyak close minded when it comes to this.

This post has been edited by xpole: Jan 15 2024, 08:14 PM

only 40% of man thru out history have pro create....60% have not...so dont worry about it

I have met many people who are married, said if they were given a choice again , they wont get married

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mine is different, they stopped nagging a long time ago but seeing how my father responds whenever people ask about me. i can see a sadness in his response. he would say something like my son has other priorities or some other well meaning excuse, but i notice his face tone has a sadness to it.

my parents are old and i m the only child. so yeah...

during uni days i broke relationship twice because im not ready to get married. no work yet miskin how to take care other peoples doter. then start work, i focus cari duit only and at the same time i get used and comfortable living a single life. I'm also an introvert,so that helps alot. Now i can say im living comfortably and not interested in extra liability which is relationship. hearing my opis kolik whining about their spouse and kids problem, pampers,school milk yadi yada doesnt help either lel.

I think now the stigma was not on single dudes.... more like prejudice towards married dudes as if they are subscribing into a world of pain and suffering instead (though most do feel this way).

Single = life on easy mode
Married = put you to your limits

Being Happy isn't a feeling that can be consistently maintained. Feeling regret is something that is inevitable but ultimately it comes and go..

I would say if you manage to find the right partner and marry someone that is willing to accept all your flaws and stick by you through thick and thin. Then marriage life is definitely better than being single.

the odds of finding a quality woman is worse than finding an alpha male with fat tummy in malaysia

Kampung got alot wan, if you know where to look

Why bother what single ppl feel if you're happily married.

Unless you aren't happily married and putting up a facade just to appear less weak and vulnerable....
In k

I have many girls friend becos i stay single

not happy.
after work, I return to my house, not my home.
I'm also thin. when it's cold, having a lovely person next to you for the heat is priceless.

Can piap all of them

I got to admit, relationship is really exhausting.

some guys got 1 night stand, then move on to the next. But how far can we go? I know one guy reached 40s, he decided to settle down.

get lifesize ones lah

no taste siham in different places?

Can we say the same about single middle aged women? so far single or divorced uncle I met all seem quite happy, provided they have some money

I know personally a 50s divorced woman who often travel around by herself, with a son or daughter but they usually dont live together. When i talk to her she has this dense and female dominatrix kind of vibe, she doesnt sound empathizing to whatver i talk to her

I felt she has too much masculine energy cause she cant trust a lot of guys cause been divorced. I pity her

whether she's single and happy or not? She can always delude herself she's happy but its up to us to intepret only

This one i dont know he wont reveal

Women nowadays too demanding bah.

I work out, have 6pack etc.
I still have hair on my head, not malding (yet).
I am tall, 170cm.
I have excellent general knowledge, I am quite intelligent. Not an unga bonga hurrr durrr guy.

No gf....

Wei that day you said gonna propose or something?

she dumped my ass.

Keep your chin up dude. Your head screwed on better than most ktards here dont sweat it.

haha single middle age woman here~ end of 30s, I think I'm doing good in my career but I haven't married with kids.
Not many female friends to go out with only single male friends who try to woo me, sad..most of my female friends are married no matter they are good or not good looking, we go out once in a blue moon only because they spend most of their time with husbands and kids.

At first I didn't want to marry and have baby but after MCO, 3 years of quality bonding time with my family I changed my mind, considering to have a happy family, my age is getting old without even have a ideal partner I do my best to prepare for the future. I learned up cooking and baking skills, I went to fertility centre to do pregnancy checking and preparation, I hope that one day when I have husband and kids I could give warmest family environment to them.

I start using dating app and met up a few guys from the app, I should have started it early, I feel like i'm too late to look for partner. Those men that I met from dating app they were really lack of somethings like~ looking, mindset, attitude, career and financial condition.

I'm kind like regret of not looking for marriage partner when I was in 20s aggressively. Anyway life is still need to move on, I will continue looking for the right man. if every thing is smooth I wish to marry and get baby by 40.

why not both u give a try

not to crush you or anything bro. because that will be crushing myself.
Im 170 too but for all my life im feeling im too short among my friends. mana ada tall?

NOPE, I see a lot of them and especially my old single aunt are now "leeching" onto her niece's and nephew's children. Calling them her precious grandkids and showering them with gifts and shit. Back when she was still young, she doesn't give one shit about the nieces and nephews aside from one or two of her favourites.
I was basically invisible to her back then, she rarely talks to me but now she always calling me and acting like caring and shit.

haha who is that guy, let me read his message.

The question coming from the wrong direction.
if anyone is above 40 and single, this could be probably the best time of their life.
finacially stronger, still energetic and especially male, can easily "makan" a lot of choices, can go where the fuck they want anytime, as long as some planning is done.

the regret usually comes later in life

haha I'm 167cm woman by the way, I think almost 1/5 Malaysian men are shorter than me, 170cm is not really tall but consider not short.

Bro, 170 is tall for a Malaysian. We are taller than over 90% of Malaysian girls.
We won't have problems with girls rejecting us because of height.
Not like the short manlets in Malaysia.

Well truth is most quality men already married or those single mid 30s to 50s that are successful will look for younger women, especially if they plan to start a family. Like you said there are plenty of men out there on dating apps, friends try to woo you but not you "ideal" type..

Having said that, Good luck sis hope you find yours

r u ghey?

You. Me. Lunch. In a nice cafe or restaurant.

living single its very convenient... no need to worry if you kids get sick.. not need to worry if you wife get sick....not need to worry about your wife family problem like ask borrow money..donation.. etc...
if you travel you need to pay triple of more because you alone need to bare all the expenses...

so much money spend on unnecessary thing like toys clothing and food...

Some time mental toucher.... wife do sour face and you fell not welcoming even that is your house...

wife taking control of you life.... you need to abandon your friends or sometime your own family...

i can see billion of problem when you married...

no time to rest when you reach home wife ask you do that and kids ask you do this...

no me time to yourself....

If your really wanted to get married you must financially stable...minimum 12K salary per month...
you job have work life balance like working in gov sector so much free....

I ship lowyat K match making thread lol

uncle happy with divorced in 2019, happy with vietmoi half of my age now in Saigon.

Kids are happier when they are with me and relationship closer to me more than ever

Thank you for your kind words.

True most quality men are already married, I met some of those guys I think they are nice and met my ideal type but too bad they are married with kids. Not to offence anyone here, those leftover single men in mid 30s to 50s are not good quality, sad....

The only thing I can do to complete with those younger women is I take good care of myself to look younger and beautiful at my age~ well I know guys are visual animal, I'm mature and doing good in my career which fact proven I can take good care of him and family...

yup .. totally agree ... be financial stable before marry / starting family

ok, let start PM...

all the best lady and gentleman

man will never worry until he finds a wife

woman will always worry until he finds a husband

This is my POV

Im, 30YO, Single for life
.
Am I happy, Yes and No.

Yes, cause I can spend every money in the things that I want. I go travel alone, buy Gaming PC, no need to think about what girls want to eat, where to bring her.

No, cause I still wish I could hold someone hands, have someone to chit chat. But Ayam B40 and not good looking, I can't afford lifestyle that has a girlfriend / wife / children etc.

i think this what most men felt. Happy Yes, Lonely yes.

Family, relatives and other people will suspect either

a. closet gay
b. confirm gay
c. face problem
d. mental health issues

Kids how old?

I always imagine its nightmare parenting when u 50/50 custody. The kids spending time with dad of course sibeh enjoy, guys usually very cincai everything also can do.

Want play game until 12am? Sure go ahead.

Want eat kfc/mcd breakfast lunch dinner? Sure go ahead

After 3 days u pass back to ur ex wife. Then she go on to discipline them. Sure they tak syok. Or ex wife would just give up and let kids do whatever the fuck they want.

Will your kids turn out really okay??? I keep telling my wife there are reasons why in laws dont like orphan or broken family. The upbringing damn challenging, so high risk.

175cm is quite tall among malaysians
In china its consider short

I think it depends what kind of quality you mean
recently i see a lot of badminton athletes married at 20s
reason is because they have no time to be a player but just focused on playing badminton hopefully his wife will take care of his kids in future

if a guy is married at 20s doesnt mean he's quality too, there are lot of nuances that we outsiders cannot see

they're nice and ideal type because they signal provider attributes. Married man is a sign that he's desirable among females but its not an absolute point. Those "leftovers" men or women you think its bad but you haven't put in real efforts to understand their worldview

so everybody can only judge others by superficial cover
no wonder our world is full of hatred and competitiveness lmao