can I just say that dating app actually makes dating worse?

Heres my opinion:
1. photo is such a huge thing in dating app and its mainly the first thing we see is photo then we decide from there. I think this makes people including me to be more shallow.
2. your personality is really hard to be congested into 1 dating app. most people are also bad at writing about themselves
3. Its so much easier to ghost people in dating app

I know that there are many people met their partner on dating app. I also met my ex on dating app. But I find that the quality of my relationship wasn't that great compared to last time when I met them from school and uni and i was friends with them for some time. I know that it will work for some people. all im saying is imo it shouldn't dominate the dating world like it is right now.

its also actually easier for shy and socially awkward person like me to hide behind my phone and 'meet' people on dating app. But the downside is i am never challenged to make new connection because i think "ok wat theres dating app".
Therefore I am never pushed to solve my social awkwardness and shy attitude.

I think people should go out more, dare to talk to strangers, be more open when strangers talk to you, and dont think its taboo to date your friend/colleague.

TLDR: Dating app bad, real life good

two ways:
1. have above average photos to attract them swipe on you
2. pay premium on subscription on application you think will work for you (try for a month subscription first), see how's the result.

for me, i liked tinder platinum so far, but CMB worked well for me at least a week ago, after i changed my photo.

you CANNOT wait girls to chat you up, it's not a real life situation, be aggressive but not stupid.

its just an excuse la, come on.
if you have a bad day, even if a decent guy come up and approach you when you buying groceries, you will still reject him.

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Mar 12 2021, 10:26 PM

Id expect someone who cant think reasonably and shallow will reply saying i am saying all that because it didnt work for me or i have bad day.
and when i said that dating app is not good, its based on research on how the apps are made. The least bad i know is coffee meets bagel and probably bumble because they have good intention when making the app. but dating app is still dating app, it skips human connection that is actually necessary when you want to find real connection.

any application is a potential hook up app, it doesnt matter its match.com or CMB
obviously the paid website (not app) tend to be serious but id bet those sites are designed to take guys money, because they always rotate the same few attractive women.

Thanks for the advice bro. Still learning to use dating apps. So both parties need to swipe mutually in order to chat huh. Tinder platinum means tinder gold or plus?

once you upgrade to tinder plus, you can select either to upgrade to gold or platinum.
i will advice you just upgrade to platinum la
i dont know what age you're (they may charge differently), but for me it's rm5x.00 per month which is like nothing.

IMO, I think dating apps are options. Some people met through travels, schools, workplaces, friend's gathering, wedding dinner, etc. So dating apps are just another way of meeting new people. You said you never pushed to solve your weaknesses, I believe it's more on personal growth and improvements. Doesn't mean that if you don't use dating apps you will improve much better. It's all on you.

I do agree dating apps are focusing more on photos, but hey, people are relying on first impression by nature. We don't know that person unless we get to know them for some time. So I think dating apps are good but we as the users are also need to do our own part. For example, we get a real physical date, not just relying on virtual chatting.

Wish me and you all the best ya.

Still considering whether it worth the money. I'm 30. I think more expensive than young guys like you. As I scrolled through photos I do feel unrealistic though. Lol. More like hook up apps.

its a small amount of investment, just like you go buy a candy B for your dick strength
you and I age difference not huge, and you probably come from a nice guy background, which is totally fine.

My 2 cents - it depends on how you present yourself on the app.
Some may present themselves like a typical rich guy, looking sleek and smart with bombastic English to attract attention.
Some outright tells you they're looking for hook ups.
Some will say they intend to look for soul mate.

etc etc all sort of things.

So make your profile with intention of attracting (?) kind of female that you want.

I met my partner on Tinder 2 years ago and we are now married. Tried OKcupid, CMB before I met my partner, I would say it's really LUCK.

Whenever there's single friends seeking for love, I will just ask them try dating apps and I think this is gonna be a trend.

My tips will be dont chat too long online, try your best to meet up within 2 weeks once matched, so you know whether he/she worth your time or not.

Good advice. Move on when the meet up doesn't turn out to be good for both sides.

I would also say, dont travel more than 20 km one way to meet someone. Ive a girl she stays setia alam, we're both at least 50km apart, i told her to meet me somewhere in middle.

Seeing that you have met so many girls in dating apps, I am curious to know why you don't settle down with one of them.

some got married out of nowhere (happens to muslim girl, 'tunang')
some moved back to own country
some got serious relationship (happen more to coronavirus season because girls want more security now)
some got semi casual relationship (she's offered relationship after having sex)
etc

bottom line is i don't do LDR, and any relationship less than 6 months is not considered a serious ones.
you want to find a quality ones, they have to pass my test of time.

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Mar 17 2021, 12:53 PM

Not sure if this is my problem. 9 out of 10 girls in dating apps will ghost me after exchanging a few conversation but I don't see any red flag in the conversation. I guess those girls I matched with are too bored or tired with the routine questions.

recently there was one tinder girl written she's looking for a tall and buff guy simping for her
they can be bored, but yourself cant be bored. Because you're the one who's chasing them 'initially', you've to do most of the work (texting, logistics etc)
my favourite line's, ''what are you looking for here?''
always screen out time wasters.

There are also quite many scammers in dating apps directing guys to some weird website with the excuse of safeguarding privacy. I thinking they are scamming for money and personal info.

so based on your experience, those answer they gave means what usually? can share?