ahhh... thats nice... best of luck ya.. hehe

been with multiple dates on the same day recently
yesterday out with
23 year old fresh graduate/amoi/facebook dating
26 year old awek with chinese ex/facebook dating
23 year old kindergarden teacher/amoi/tantan

maybe its time to take a break, couldn't stop since cmco ahahah

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Apr 11 2021, 10:54 AM

only date? doesnt go beyond that?

i can hook up with the awek, i somehow reject it
the amoi teacher skin feels nice and smooth but we dont have much common to talk about
the freshgrad amoi is really new, im probably the first guy she met, her mom called her few times during our meet

none wild enough for next stage then

but amoi teacher sounds nice, good look ? not talk much but maybe good on bed.

kind of slow burner and we stay quite far with each other
im really lazy to go more than half n hour one way/meet someone recently
(unless i get the sense i vibe with her well on phone)

Anyone meet with girl that ask you to add their wechat and sexcam? is this a scam? i ask the girl to meet up first she keep saying if i dint show her my penis she wont come out date.

Any lowyat forumer experience this? i try check her IG and FB doesnt seem to have a lot photo. kindly pm me if anyone experience such thing.. i met her at Dating FB platform

Sounds like either of the following
- scammer
- sexual harassment
- crazy. Don't stick your d in crazies

Either way she's not looking for a long term relationship lol.

Try doing Google image search, maybe the profiles are fabricated using stolen photos?

yea that what comes to my thought. it think is a scammer... the funny part is i am unable to find the actual person photo.. i believe the real person photo are being misused and they are not aware. kinda scary nowadays what the world have become.

Ok lemme add my 2 cents on the various dating apps I've tried:

Basically I'm 34 this year so I'm in the more mature market segment I guess. My looks & career are fairly average but I can write fairly well, which carries me further in some apps than others. Anyway so far my evaluation is as follows:

1. Tinder:
Looks are really important
Description isn't that important
There are plenty of bots BUT also many hotties

2. CMB
Looks are a bit less important
Description is somewhat more important
English-speaking professional ladies are somewhat more prevalent

3. Bumble
Pretty much the same as CMB
Note: many of the guys in lowyat complain about girls having to message first in Bumble. Imo this is not a bad thing, as it makes girls more willing to swipe on you (they can always choose not to message you if they don't feel like it)

4. Okcupid
Can't quite tell yet but there are seriously a lot of questions to answer in the profile

5. Tantan
Looks are more important than CMB / Bumble but less than Tinder I feel
Description isn't that important too
Seems to be populated by predominantly Chinese speaking girls, quite a few bots too I sense

I'll update more when I get more info.

If look is average, gonna have an outstanding bio, the profiles in bumble seem more high kelas compared to tinder, but these ladies really lazy they swiped and never initiate conversation. Regardless how your look is, its still the priority in online dating.

to all the users here, just wan to ask... have you ever skipped 1-2 days didnt reply the person or end the conversation first thereafter msg 1-2 days later? I notice if skip even 1 day, the feeling toward the person can be different already...

i seen some dating advice from youtube is like, they said no need to message everyday, quality > quantity. But this method didnt specifically say is for the person you have met or for online dating.

Logically speaking, i feel is OK to text once a while when you met some one randomly, but in dating app, somehow must keep the conversation going and not skipping 1-2 days only reply.

Hope you can understand where i m coming from....

why skip one day your feeling can be different? i thought your original intention is to meet up with somebody?
for guys, its quantity over quality, you can't tell the quality unless you slept with them and spend more time together.
girls can be more choosy because they're gatekeeper of sex. You could afford to be choosier as a guy if you have achieved certain level of threshold.
personally, i don't text every single day, maybe i will follow up once of 2-3 days if she hasn't replied.

I'm beginning to realise that apps that impose time limit aren't quite for me. I reply about once a day, usually going off grid until night when I finally pick up my phone after work.

I get what you mean by different feeling -- I have a feeling (ayy punny) I'm coming off as uninterested because I hardly reply immediately. On CMB, there were several exchanges that felt okay but they usually just expire and none bothered to extend. I don't, because I didn't feel connected enough to bother - it didn't seem they were trying harder (short replies) although I gave long replies (my way of "atoning" for my lack of reply frequency haha).

On the contrary, say, FB dating, I was allowed to focus irl and get to my messages later, and the chats don't expire. The problem here is that the online exchange gets really long (read: weeks). To me, I take that as advantage because then we get to connect longer to a point it's comfortable for me to ask, "helloooo when are we meeting?"

I think it's a matter of preference; most guys who asked for my phone number or meet me on first exchange, ended up immediately ghosting/blocking me when I refused. They don't need to waste time on me, I don't need to risk my own comfort.

"Agree to disagree, have a nice day" kind of thing, I guess.

There is no better timing/worse timing/appropriate timing. It depends on the chemistry of both persons. What for being to pushy to converse? Girls are sensitive and this could always be a huge turn off for them. Just let the conversation goes naturally and see where it leads you.

if a girl doesnt bother to reply on time restraining apps like CMB, they're just looking for attentions or aren't serious to go out with any guys
most girls already made their decisions when they see your photos, all they require to meet up is some comfort and talks
girls will also block you when you do nothing wrong, or they are feeling insecure in general that you don't reply them on time or they sense you with multiple girls.

Because matches coming in every day. Hard to stay focus on one. I m a not pro that can chat with multiple women yet still can maintain the flow/conversation, what ever you call it. Is like once I find this new match interesting, I put the rest aside first. Then once my core match not unavailable, I will go back to those that I have put aside. Then again, the feeling sometime is no longer there… maybe I m a beginner.
Hence, sometimes 1-2 days or just late reply. Btw, I don’t think I m a player/jerk, cause I believe girl does that too…

What do you mean by off grid? Means you:
1) logout from the app?
2) just read the msg that you receive and reply later
3) Didn’t bother about the app , just leave the notification there only

In CMB, there is a default function in the chatroom asking if the girl is interested to meet up with the match. The guy will know if she click yes. If there is no respond from her, further chatting will usually come to a dead end sooner or later.

I think your is sniper approach
I been doing shortgun approach
I think you dont need to maintain the conversation because eventually your will still meet up in person. Unless you both are doing LDR, again myself don't advocate doing that, you're giving too much attention away to, a single, female.

Like I said, time restraining apps may not be for everyone, and it may take time for one to realise that.
Then again, you already know about all the girls in the world so you're right that way.

Mix of 2/3... Sometimes I can read but not enough time to reply and/or get distracted irl, then forgot about it. Either way, the other side probably perceived that as disinterested soooo...

I'd say if you matched multiple girls already, then just keep up with chatting with them. It's very normal to chat or even go out with many as long as you're not official/committed to any -- I personally don't think there's a need to state this explicitly to every single person you talk to, but at least you should expect the other side to do this. And with that, you should also make it clear of your expectations to someone you want to take a step further with i.e. to make it official or whatnot.