Yup, that's the way.

Just send her good morning and good night even if she doesn't reply.

Don't think too much about it. Just do it.

Just send too many messaged either, just a few will do. If she replies, great, if she doesn't, so be it.

Don't pestered her too much till she gets even angrier. Just slowly, it takes a huge fucking time.

You can't make her forgive you in a short time.

Women remember EVERYTHING! I know how you feel, so just take your time. DO NOT RUSH!

take it slow, get better yourself. then things will change for the better.

I dont know if directly wish her morning night all these will make her annoying or not. Or maybe I need to give her sometime before I start to wish her this and that.

Haih dont know la so many dilemma

I would suggest give her some time first. Maybe 1 month? Or 2 weeks? Then start slow, maybe 1 message a week? Then after a period of time become 1 message every few days.

Just a suggestion.

Yeah this is what I thought so too.

Give her two weeks break and then start slow. Haih, thanks for hearing me out bro. Can only talk here.

No problem Bro. So I am guessing both you and her mutual friends are unaware of the situation? I was thinking maybe they can sorta help inform you on how she is and stuff.

This post has been edited by V429: Nov 19 2019, 04:03 PM

Our mutual friend knows. My friend dunno. Most of our mutual friends are from church so they know since I stop going.

Today reminded me about our happy moments together. Feels painful to blow it all off because of one mistake.

How did your mutual friends treat this news? I hope they aren't too judgemental. Also have you thought of letting your own friends know? I suppose sooner or later they might casually ask about you and her?

I only talked to one cause he's like the leader of our cell group. So he's helping me and telling me I should not be blame entirely.

My own friend I havent been seeing anyone so I also dont know how to tell. The thing with my group of closest friend are a bunch of girls. I know they will be supportive and all but my ex is sensitive when I hang out with girls so I might stay away from them. My guys friend are married with kids so I dont really wanna bother them.

I see. OK. Maybe you can consider finding your guy friends to yumcha / limteh a bit once in awhile just to socialise a bit, you know, just hang out. Since you gotta go 2 weeks without contacting her.

still not done?
well, I am.
*Toilet flushing noose*

I dont know. Like lost motivation to find anyone now. Both of them have kids so its a bit hard as well.

Ah we shall see. Everyday is difficult to get through but time always flows so eventually the day will pass. Just counting down the days. Tried going for a walk today at the park. Maybe will go hiking also but dont know if leg can tahan or not.

Haha you are always here

feeling better?

Hey there.

Thanks for checking up the thread.

I would say after so many replies from the people here, I need to get better. I need to get better in order to fight for this relationship. She's not gonna comeback to me if I am still feel with sorrow and guilt right? Just gotta be better and show her the improvement and repentance I mean I would do. Of course, there are days of ups and down, positive and negative. Some days I keep telling myself to fight on all this negative emotions but some days I feel like I deserve, I am a failure and I dont deserve her.

But tomorrow I will try to reach out to her after 2 weeks of no contact. Hopefully she will take it well.

Hi ts

Hey. Hows life going for you?

maybe better u look for a new gf?

some1 more suited for u

Doesnt work for me bro. You cant just replace someone just like that.

I managed to call her and talk to her briefly today. Although there's still sadness and can hear that she is still in pain, I just wanna take the positives out from this which is she is still willing to talk to me.

whenever you meet someone, be prepared for the possibility that they may leave one day, so you learn to expect less, and not be left so disappointed .

This post has been edited by Einjahr: Dec 2 2019, 03:03 AM

Not everyone leave right? Or if you mean they leave as in pass away...

But what is hard to swallow is I was the cause that she left.