exactly. takes two to tango...takes two hands to clap..and all that. Talk to her, get her view. If she's not willing, it's not gonna work.

True, if she's not willing, it won't work at all.

just curious...
isit too much to be demanding?
this ldr of mine has just started...barely 1 mth..
but i m already feelin paranoid when he didnt call or msg for 2 days...
he said he was busy
i find it lame...isit me being demandin or him being ignorant?

Thanks for the replies ppl. I guess I'll talk to her when I see her in 2 weeks time. Talking about this online or on the phone is a recipe for disaster

mumuz, in the beginning I felt the same way too but later I came to realize I can't control her. Trust is the key word here. Give your partner some space. Oh and if he doesn't call/msg make the effort to do so. Don't play mind games in a LDR. Just my 2 cents

Well, you guys can't talk through the MSN or something?

Have faith in him. Maybe he's really busy with his stuff. Instead of getting mad at him, try showing your concern about him, tell him not to make himself too tired though he has to do his stuff, and tell him that when he's busy and has been missing for a day or two, you'll miss him a lot, worried about him, etc.

Let him knows your feeling.

I think that calling her will be a better choice, rather than telling her through the net.

First of all, demanding too much and expecting a lot from your partner is a bad thing to do. You find it lame when he told you he was busy and this is a clear sign that you feel insecure in your relationship. It doesn't strike me that you feel insecure with your relationship with just barely a month.. - Since you started your LDR I assume that you are ready for many things to overcome with you and your partner e.g. trust.. Otherwise, you wouldn't commit into this relationship with him. Anyway, many things you have to sacrifice one la.. Also you need to give and take also.. So that's what LDR is about
Haha, I repeat again.. If I make u feel offended then bear me hor because it's just really my thoughts

Cheers and good luck girl~!

bluewind: neh...u didnt sound offensive n all...

sigh...i guess i m being just too paranoid...
must really get used to this...

Yes, you need to stand the absence of your partner. That's what LDR about. Be strong, girl.

the backbone of long distance is trust and space. if you don't trust your partner, then don't do long distance. if you're demanding, don't stay in this long distance relationship.

without either of them, it's only going to crumble away because you'll always be wondering what they're doing and making yourself miserable...AND it's VERY annoying to have to cater to someone's needs from so far away..

Commitment is one of them. That's very important as well. If her bf isn't committed to the LDR, it's very difficult to make it work too.

mumuz: However, if you're lack of trust or faith, then it will be even harder because it will be like what spunkberry said, you'll be wondering and worrying a lot.

Yeah yeah, just like this it does make some noise right?

LMAO, this emoticon doesn't produce some noise but oh well, when you do this with both of your hands you certainly will hear the noise

This post has been edited by BlueWind: Jun 8 2007, 12:26 PM

yes that C word too. xD

what? didnt contact for 2 whole days? how busy oso muz at least send a goodnite or good morning msg la... It doesnt take long time to type 1 sms rite? thats my 2cent...

btw im going back malaysia this coming wednesday. so happy when think about it. wee~~!! been 5 months+ im seperated (physically) from her

that was what i thought...
but i should be considerate as well..he is workin, n i m studyin...i suppose this is one of the struggle we both have to go thru...
like what bluewind, spunkberry, cameltoe n jdreamer said, trust, space n commitment are more important...

actually ...
wats diz all abt?
reli curious?
izit reli abt long distance relationship?

i believe in all that too. But i believe that human is like a bird (no offence), freedom yes, but dont let them fly too far from ur sight, if they enjoy too much freedom they tend to fly away from u.

In LDR its very easy to feel insecure, thats why couple should keep in touch wif each other as often as they can to avoid insecurity. Especially when ur partner have no idea who u hanging out with, i always let my gf know who i went out with and all of my planning b4 i proceed so that she dont think too much. And she did the same back to me and both of us are very happy about it, we dont felt that our privacy is intruded at all.

obviously

I believe that if trust is there between you two, there's no need to 'report' everything to your partner like with whom you have hang out last night, who called you, meals with who, etc. If you trust your partner, I don't see the point at all. If you're worrying and wondering too much, that's the sign of you don't trust your partner that much. And that's dangerous..

shanshan: Yes, it is about Long Distance Relationship.

This post has been edited by jdreamer: Jun 9 2007, 05:13 PM

tq for answerin..
becuz wen i read the first few pages..
it sounded like some gatherin...
so duno ma..
sory arr..
paise paise...

It's alright. So, are you in a LDR?

I am trying to say that dont cause any unnescessary tension. In LDR u are not by ur partners side, sense of insecurity will surely be there. I dont believe that anyone will be so busy till got no time to even send one sms. I have college from 8.30 morning till 4.30pm everyday except sunday, and after that i have to write report, do read up for next class and finish off my practical work at night. And it gets worse during my exam time. But still i will send gd nite sms or sms her while im eating my dinner just to let her know what am i busy about so that she got updated about my situation.

The point here is be "responsible". Its not that they will always think u cheating on them if u didnt contact for days. They are worried about you, they concern about you because you are the one. One sms might not mean much to you, but it means a lot to them.