Care to tell what happen before this thing happened?

honestly... i also dont know...

i cant recall doing or saying anything bad/wrong... thats what really puzzles me

Then maybe she stressed or something lor, try give her a few more days lor although its hard to bear with the absence..

actually she just came online... chatted with her for about 10 minutes..

she claims that where she is got no signal. then she contradicts herself by saying that she was busy cleaning her room (her room got signal). haiz. i really got no words for her. she told me "not to think so much" when i asked her why couldnt reach her hp. what kind of bulls#!t is that man. come on la, she could have given me a straight story right.

then i got kinda pissed and told her that it feels like she is not bothered about me. then she just said that shes very tired n gona go sleep. told me not to be so anrgy.. then she went offline. i continued to write some other stuff for her to read.. guess she will read those offline messages tmr..

This post has been edited by lelong1234: Jun 10 2007, 12:09 AM

First of all, calm down.. Yeah it's hard to get chilled when you're angry and you know it's not going to help much.. I personally think you'd better off with writing her with email instead of leaving an offline message for her.. About the giving you a long story and why is she leaving so fast, I really don't know what to say.. Maybe you can write her another message by saying find someday where she's free and not tired then come online and talk about it or for me it's best to talk on phone instead of MSN..

So chill man.. just take things cool..

yea i know i should chill abit.. but u know.. i really feel that she often neglects me and takes advantage of me.. so yeah.. i was kinda pissed n just spilled everything out.. i guess she will have a fun time reading it tmr..

the thing is, she is the one who is free. she just finished her exams. i am the one having exams next week. so yeah, if i can still make time for her, i dont see why she cant afford to make any for me. seems selfish.

oh well.. thanks for reading my stuff... just had to release some tension.. back to studying

"neglect" is usually a relative thing. what you consider neglect she may consider giving you space. By the sounds of it, you're constantly wanting to contact her and that's pretty annoying in my opinion.

i am not constantly seeking contact with her. i just give her a call like once a day to see how things are going. i dont think that can be considered not giving space. come on la, if u go somewhere for a few days with no hp signal u could atleast let ur bf/gf know about it right.

then it feels like i am the one doing everything in this relationship. the last she called me was like a month ago i think. all the calls also i have to make. sms also i have to start. if i dont sms, i will never get one from her. sometimes she takes a few hours just to reply also. then she will give some excuse; was busy, didnt see your sms.

then if i dont call for a day or 2 coz very busy, the next time i call she will say "wah, very busy ah. no time to call me also."

haiz.. as if she was any better

sounds very one-sided and headed nowhere...are you going to sit her down and tell her straight out or are you gonna keep letting her treat you like this?

He's telling her everything how he feels I supposed.. Hope that they both could talk now..

i know that taking is the best way to discuss things. actually i tried to call her when she came online last night. called her room no answer. called her hp straight voice mail. so i just had 2 tell her online.

i think i will only talk to her again in about 2 weeks. because i am gona be having my exams now. so i dont want this thing to interfere with my exams.

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Added on June 10, 2007, 6:45 pmbtw... what will you guys go if your partner treat you like this??

This post has been edited by lelong1234: Jun 10 2007, 06:45 PM

hey..
there is a probablity she wan to clear things up..
juz giv her some time...

mayb she is de one ...
who automatically call u..
so u juz chill...
mayb she hav some things in her minds...
which she is not able to share wif u...

giv her time is de best advice...

+shAnsHan+

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Added on June 10, 2007, 7:41 pmi might look like sum1 who can easily spill my feelings...
to frends...
but to bf..
i sort of like...
ermm..
abit dun feel like tellin him..
cuz i am afraid dat i will hurt his feelings....

i am a hard mouth especialy...
tellin things to my bf..
duno why..
some sort of phobia i guess...

altough like dat..
i hope i can change this fear to strength...
it juz aint easy...for me...(x.x)

+sHaNshAn+

This post has been edited by shanshan: Jun 10 2007, 07:41 PM

Lelong, I'm not sure what will I do when I'm in your shoes, but one thing for sure is I will take things as it comes.. We can't predict what's going to happen on us.. So for me, I really don't know what to do.. Maybe it's best at the moment for you not to contact each other and think and chill..

Shanshan, my gf used to be like you didn't want to tell me some part of her life but because she trusts me so much that she tried her very best to open up herself because right before we met she didn't open up herself to anyone every single thing she keeps to herself. As time goes by, I just gave her time and space to slowly get used on opening up herself towards me and now she's much better in expressing herself.. Shanshan, if I'm not mistaken you with your bf only for like less a year? Correct me if I'm wrong and if you want you could pm me as well - And oh, my story above doesn't relate to your problem.. I just saying out only.. So sorry if you think it's a waste of time reading it.

Yea.. Thats what i am planning to do. I plan not to call her till after my exams. Which will only be finished in 2 weeks. I will probably send her an sms tmr or the day after telling her that i just want 2 take it easy now and concentrate on my exams. Hopefully she will understand.

Good choice, hopefully things will go well after your exams.

Good luck to you bro

Cheers

well...
i guess...
relationship is like a bumpy road...
neva straight...
always up & down tru de journey...

i guess dats is wat make de relationship worthwhile...

is not de destination...
is de experience to get there dat counts...
right ma people?

+sHAnshAn+

Wah, what happened here? So long didnt drop by here and seemed like a lot of couples here have problems

Lelong1234, take it easy ya! Take this time to calm yourself down while putting all your attention to your exam first. I believe that your gf can also use this time to clear up her mind, maybe she has some problem which is troubling her mind now. Just try not to think negatively ya!

Shanshan, I agree with you. A couple will sometimes take the relationship for granted if it is too smooth and I always believe that if the couple could face the problem together, the relationship will become stronger and firmer.

Mandy has spoken!

lol mandy has spoken. all hail mandy

The big sista of da LDR has SPOKEN

This post has been edited by BlueWind: Jun 11 2007, 11:49 AM