Sometimes i dun understand why rich chinese say oh i got 20k a month only allow me to hv one child...then those below 20k say oh i too poor to hv a child dun want to bring new child to suffer in this world.

My melei neighbor after married kapow..got 3 kids sommore his salary only 5k.

Sometime cainis just making more trouble for themself.
Cainis go buy grocery one time 500..melei go one time spend 250. We gotta look at sacrificing luxury items. If melei can do it why cainis cannot spend less?

This post has been edited by Pete the great: Dec 29 2016, 08:25 AM

Hello? Get her parents to help..

U already got upper advantage. Ask her parents nicely to lower dowry....ask them u only want 10 table dinner in ah kau restaurant...if they want more table they gotta help u. Explain to them ur parents not rich being divorce.

She is asking for marriage not u.

Every woman secretly longing for kids, even if she said it oppositely, just to satisfy your expectation. Law of the nature.

Parents will wish for grandkids.

go for spm graduate girls bro

Eh you're a doctor who owns a clinic, summore say you pokai meh?

There's the problem right there.




The girl's side is anxious to close the deal on a doctor lor. As far as the rest of us regular people are concerned, there's a lot riding on that prestigious title... you need to understand that. That's why they're eagerly asking, "So faster la, tell us what's next?"

You're right in refusing to be railroaded into a marriage by a family so eager to have a doctor among them. On the other hand, you shouldn't be offended. Explain to them lor why you're comfortable with just bonking their daughter without commitments.

If she's hard up for marriage and you're not up for it, then don't waste her time.

Leave her. Find someone else to bonk, shouldn't be hard for a doctor.

This post has been edited by ZZR-Pilot: Jan 3 2017, 10:13 AM

save yourself the trouble and dont get married to her. Doesnt sounds like a love affair here...more like a baddeal. Money is impt to you, but marriage is impt for her. For all you know not too far in the future u guys are just going to breakup for the same reasons..
Yes...i do agree with you the girl shouldnt push you...if u are already in agreement of not having kids, I dont see why marriage is so impt after all....really like seriously all these marketing gimmick of 'marriage'....

Malas nak bace all replies, so ape kesudahan sini bro?

Just some say... Jalan ke neraka penuh keindahan... jalan ke syurga penuh seksaan, think about it.

Hello, I have read your post on proposal in Japan.
From what you have posted, it seems like you and your gf have mismatched expectation? This is only my observation.

For a girl, marrying at 31 years old is not young? Biological clock is ticking away.
If you think you're ready to marry her why would you still be asking whether marrying young is good or not? And you're only 28 years old and dated for 2 years only?

- difference in spending behavior could be a good thing. Balanced after getting married.
- i have quite a number of friend getting married last year without wedding dinner, photo session, or just commit to some of them. Marriage can be very costly, it can also be the opposite
- 2 years is more than sufficient to know each other, and to know if can live together in the future

Seems like there's no love in this relationship
Nothing's wrong being logical and looking forward for a good wife
Move on to look for your perfect companion

Actually, getting married is cheap.
The glamour is expensive. Here's your answer.

Uncle! I got good financial planning. I'm saving 100k from glamour and invest it at a portfolio that does 6-9% return, your grandchildren get good education. So, if uncle feels glamour is worth paying for, I have no objection. Sorry la uncle, I prioritize your grandchild more.

So Avengelice bought house for marriage now, don't want to marry.

How leh?

Why you not reveal here how your discussion with your gf went?

Maybe we can give you some pointers?

Yeah marriage is expensive, so maybe you can resize your wedding smaller lor to save money.

I know of a girl, her family pressure the bf to marry her after 3 years. less than one month, the guy cheated on her and said he was forced to marry her. said her family very money minded (which is true because we are in the same high school group and she used to invite me to her house) and he wanted a divorce as soon as she finds out he cheats.

generally, she's the type of girl very miang those type..don't know how to save money.. any rich guys also can. so I usually only agree to let her tag along when I need some characters like that in gatherings..

in uni days, she cheated on her only bf (that she looked for herself from her circle of lala friends). while all the rest of her bfs are from my different circle of friends that broke up with her.

she's the type of girl that as soon as she got a bf, she'll just go mia. (but I don't need her anyway)

although she doesn't have the face, she has the height. With fake eye lashes all those heavy make up girls. she's a branded freak so thats ok haha

anyway I despise guys that any girl also can those type of guys anywhere also got.

ts, is your gf's family like the girl in my write up above?

no buddy. that's not her current thing one. she's a very homely person and very sweet. i have to confess some of the posters here who have said that I need to grow up and not be selfish are true. maybe it is I who is not ready for a marriage.

no idea man. I'm still confused. I did not expect to be forced to marry at a young age. my original dream was to marry at the age of 32 but I didn't plan to be dating a girl who is three years older than me.

My mum is 3 yrs older than my father.

Its ur call. A lot of things in marriage is unplan...u wanna wait till she is 35?

Discuss with her if she want marriage there r a lot of financial stuff she gotta make do without because u r not financially ready. If she can agree then she is a keeper.

Think of it this way, if you were to break up with her, thats 2 years of her life down the drain.

yes I am well aware of the fact that I may be wasting her two years of her life and so on and so forth even if the feeling of love isn't as strong as it once was.

that's why I am not going to be a douche bag and break up the relationship because of my selfishness.

Really puzzle with TS, dunno why he go and get into a rship with someone 3 yrs older than him.

Actually if she is reasonable to want simple wedding and go through with all the cost cut due to TS financial situation - don't see the reason for break up.

The first step in a lasting relationship is knowing when to admit your mistakes and owning up.

2nd step is talking. Some ladies dont want to talk so depends on situations