Hello there guys.. I'm a silent reader here at kopitiam.. Sorry i have to create new account to post this stuff..

Lately I've gone through so many hurdles in life.. Failure in relationship... my mom's health.. getting back stabbed at workplace. Problems at work... I'm quite an introvert person.. socially awkward.. will be stuttered when talking to people that I'm not comfortable with.. But somehow it's starting to get worse. I feel really depressed and there's one time i think about suicidal...

I feel hopeless. i hate myself for being so weak... and hopeless... This is not something that i can simply talk to my family... There's no one i can talk to.. i tried to talk to few, but everybody just seems doesnt care.. i guess ppl really busy with their life. Sometimes I will cry even when i was sleeping just to think how miserable my life could be...

i dont know where should i vent my depression so i thought i could post it here...

for those suffer the same feeling like i do.. how you guys overcome it. i need advice...

sounds like you need a friend

do contact me if you need to talk to someone bro

are you serious in overcoming your problem? would you consider paying professional to solve your problem? if you are, pm me. i will share a contact with you and i guarantee he can solve your problem.

i think u need someone to share ur problem. even he/she can or cant solve ur problem. just listen to ur problem may ease ur stress a little bit.

You had done a very good step by posting it here ...

You need a ears to released ur tense ... Nothing much can advice here as depression need to know more about you ...

Common advice... Life have to go on, if we do the correct thing sky falling down oso u no need to scad ..

Pls get a good sleep n don cry ... Not enough sleep will make ur life miserable ... If u are sleepless pls get sn advice from doctor ...

Don suicide ... You had do nothing wrong to end ur life ... Go to cheers ur life up ... Don allocate too much time doing nothing at home ... Go waste sometime at cinema ...

Good luck dude... Wish u the cery best

pray and keep your mind from wrk.
i just felt it yesterday due to wrk load stress and being constantly bullied by some political war between big bosses.
but just let it go and talk it out with someone /family/friends love ones etc

you need a friend to listen

Pm me , i can share my thoughts, u won't feel so alone

occupy yourself with things to do, can be work, hobbies, etc

anything to keep your mind away from loneliness

i have the same experiences as you. Suggest you take a short break, do something you enjoy and think how to go over this problem or decide what you wanna do with your life.

This post has been edited by nightzstar: Apr 7 2016, 03:26 PM

Currently i am at the same spot as you.Failed in relationship,didn't get back stabbed or anything but also an introvert. Life feels very empty day in day out.Thought of killing myself since i have nothing to loose.

How do i deal with it? Well just do whatever you feel like doing just to pass the time.I find it the most difficult when i am alone or bored.When you have too much spare time and doing nothing your mind will tend to wonder off to a very bad place.Try to occupy yourself with activities as much as possible.Lately i go for the occasional drink just to ease the tension but i'm not suggesting you to give alcohol a chance. Everyone has shit to deal with. Maybe call a hotline or something.Well i don't have the answers.

maybe try spend some time doing some charity work for those unfortunates. i think this way will help you to occupy your mind by doing something purposeful and at the same time realizing there are more unfortunate people out there. Life goes on and it's the matter of how you want to look at it, positively perhaps.

hey, u are wrong. this problem should talk to ur family and only family can help u by advising u and clear ur doubt and create a path this only works if u have that kind considerate family member. tell urself happy also 1 day no happy also 1 day why dont happy everyday. then find something u like. stay with ur mom take care ur mom. always meditate by advice to urself. self talk with ownself to help urself if there is no one help. life is hard but if one think positively, simple , dont compare and dont ambitious then u will be ok. all the best.

well, just remember this phrase.
[this shall pass too]
everything that u face will pass eventually, just stay focus.
target one problem at a time.

i well know that u can't talk to ur family, since u are afraid that they might shun u.
but that thinking normally is wrong, try to talk to them.
if u think can't, just PM any random guys here offering help to express urself or PM me if u want.
that itself will help u.

writing problems out will express urself better and getting feedback is good as it gives hope and interaction.
just don't give up. life is precious and no matter what happens, there are more ppl out there are who suffering more and yet they not giving up.

TS,

I always 'admire' those ppl who has a lot of time, to think of this and that..

By saying that, I'm serious, this is not trying to be sarcastic.

I've been in your situation before, eg experiencing failure of this and that, facing problems here and there..

but what I'd done and how I'd gone through that period of time, is as SIMPLE as I've NO TIME to even think about it, I've no time to look back or slow down...just because I'm too busy and engaged with my jobs and plans. I've many many plannings and job-to-do in my list that I have no time to allow me to stop for a while, to think of those failure things...I can't stop simply b'coz the time is running non-stop, I wish I could have more 'hours' in a day to accomplish my works.

Yes, you may think I'm workaholics but I'm not. I do plannings, work, doing sport, having minimal entertainment and enough rest as where they should. I've seen a lot of ppl wandering around in starbucks, shopping mall, sitting in kopitiam for few hours chit-chatting or do nothing...how I wish I've such a good time to do those things.

Maybe you can 'join' me one day if you think you've a lot of time thinking this and that. Life is and always moving forward, if you look backward, or even stay still at one point, it is actually equal to moving backward...by flow of time

The first step is for u to decide whether you want to climb out of that hole you're in or not.

When u decide YES, then focus all ur energy to climbing out.

List down ur probs and identify solutions, then work towards the solutions.

There is always light at the end of even the darkest tunnel. Hey, it's not like you're on death row.

Good luck.

Hello bro, I hope you'll find a way to overcome those problems.
Good luck.

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Try calling them. They would be able to help u for sure.

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Look at you!You are lost!First get yourself back to the right track.How?First calm down and clear your mind.Find out the real problem(s) behind.Sometimes,things are not that bad.A lot of bad things happen because one leads to another(Vicious circle).Therefore, you need to be calm and clear enough to identify reasons behind all those bad happenings. Because after all,everything happens for (a) reason(s).But you've got to be strong to do all these by yourself. If you can't, then there will always be people/professionals out there who can help you in this. Pick up some hobbies.What makes you happy?You have to find out.Like what others said, you need some friends or call the befrienders?But remember, no matter what happens, never give up your life! You only live once. It's selfish and stupid.So,all the best to you and your future!Keep smiling. [COLOR=purple]

Please be strong..a few years ago I used to have depression also..

First, u need to stop hating urself. U said that u hate urself for being so weak..please dont do that. What happened is not ur mistake. U are unlucky. Thats all.

If I am walking on the road, and suddenly a car hit me, and then i patah kaki, is it reasonable if i hate myself for being weak? No right? Why other people walk there ok, i walk there got accident? That means i unlucky la. Not my mistake also. Thats it. First step is stop hating urself.

The second step is to go outside. But want to go outside also must see the place. Dont go to pavilion la, klcc la, dont go there. Dont go to rich people place. U drive or ride motor slow2, go and see other place. Hopefully looking at different scenery will help to ease ur stress.

Third step is, u must promise urself that u will not let this depression eat u from inside. Meaning to say, u must find a way to vent ur feeling. Dont let ur emotion keep hold up inside u.

Vent. Go to befrienders and talk to someone there. If u tell someone ur problem, eventhough the problem is still there, at least u are doing yourself a favor, by not surpressing the feeling inside ur heart.

Next, u have to forgive urself. I dont want u to have the mindset, "if i have done something better, maybe I will not be in this position". NEVER have this mindset. What has past has past. U can't change it.

So why do you want to carry the burden of regret throughout your life? Put it down. Leave it. What ever fuck ups, whatever mistake that you might have done in the past, try to learn as much as u can from it, and then leave it past.

Dont carry it with you. Forgive urself. If I, a stranger accidentally step ur shoes, but i humbly said sorry and u really can see from my face i regret doing that mistake, U will forgive me right? So why is it u can forgive a total stranger, but u can't extend that generosity to urself?

Forgive urself for whatever mistakes that you have done, and never has any regret in ur heart.

And lastly, find a new hobby. Just try new things. Playing games, badminton, futsal, gym, yoga, aerobic class, travelling, anything. Please keep ur mind and ur body busy to the point that you are not thinking about the past, and u are not worrying about the future.

Please be strong, and please take one day at a time. That's what life is all about isn't it? Take one day at a time..

Take care bro/ sis..

This post has been edited by ridhwan.kamarul: Apr 8 2016, 08:40 PM

Hye, my dear friend, you can message me and we can talk about your life concern ok...I am having depression as well so I understand hor you feel

Life is like the ocean. It can be calm or still, and rough or rigid. I believe most of us are not living easily in this world, so do you and so do I.

You can pm anyone of us if you really need someone to talk/cry/release your tension or depression.

This post has been edited by heavensea: Apr 9 2016, 06:54 PM

Toughest man always cry themself to sleep,
Who to judge me when i cut myself deep.

Resenting all the actions that causes sin,
Which one is God will you please let me in.

If theres no one else is there for you then my friend express it in poetry? or in english we call it rap/hip hop.

Hey mother's day around the courner



This post has been edited by mothangel: Apr 10 2016, 03:30 AM

When you mentioned tou are hopeless, you are weak, you being back stabbed, what trigger you with this bitter fruits?

What things hurt your heart so much and you allow yourself to protect your heart with a fortress.

You can pm me to share more If you believe healing from inside is important.

Why don't we plan a gathering? Group coffee session? We can talk morbid stuffs

Hey there! First of, don't be sorry that you are posting about your depression here or asking for help/advice.. I can relate to how you are feeling and I must say that it is not easy.. It is a great thing that you recognize how & what you are feeling and you are seeking for help so that you can be better..

I know how it feels like to be hopeless, weak and feel like there's nothing you can do because you are going through all these events that are happening all at once.. but what you can do, is to start focusing on what is the most important thing to you right now..if you feel unhappy at work, maybe you could try to talk to someone at work about it.. and you mentioned about your mum's health..try to focus on taking care of her..

Getting over depression is not easy..If you have tried talking to your friends and they seem like they don't care, then maybe they aren't your true friends..Anyways, sorry for the long post Just know that we're here if you need to talk

This post has been edited by shanafoo: Apr 12 2016, 09:03 PM

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I can relate to your predicament. Depression, dwelling into the issues over and over again although it may have passed, and so on. We tend to keep playing the same record over and over and over again. Play, stop, rewind. Repeat. And so it goes p, that vicious cycle of spiralling down the path to depression. If you have religion belief, learn more about it. If you read, books can help. I recommend THE GIANT WITHIN YOU by Anthony Robbins to start off. Remember to try it, give it short term goal, say 2 weeks. If after 2 weeks you find this book doesn't work, or finding out religion don't help much for now, switch up and give it another 2 weeks goal. No pressure kiddo.

I was once depressed. Hardly talked to anyone for around a year or two, I can't really remember, minor cases of inflicting physical harms on myself, suicidal, panic attack. Plenty really. But the days are better now. I don't think people realize that I had depression. Here's what I think.

Sadness is not a bad thing. Five stages of grief is what most depressed people will eventually go through. I had my fair share of guilt and hate and acceptance but what I have accepted is that loss and grief is what that make everything beautiful.

Even today I hold on to memories of the past. It caused me pains but it is just too beautiful to let go. In life, we all hope that we will be grateful for things we have but remember that people are only grateful when they lose something - when they remember the pain.

Embrace the pain and void that you're feeling now and realize the gratefulness that it brings. Depression is not a void, not a storm. It's a calming wind. It is okay to be depressed and live in the past, where times are more beautiful as long as you can embrace it. It doesn't stop you from living in the present, only that you seek the happiness in your memory

Play some serious and discipline sports, like running, workout. Physically training can make somebody feel better in and outside.

Perhaps religion can help, I dunno..

Life is harsh for everyone, no one is unbreakable but we still have to live with hope.

Times is a portion for any wounds if you let it to do hwr job to heal you.