Hi Abubin, what are the symptoms parents should look out for? Sometimes it's very similar to growing stages of a child so some children are faster some are slower.

hi, father of 2 (10 year girl and 3 year boy)... seeing the different development between girl and boy... the girl development really fast compare to boy... my son still cannot speak properly...

yup, it is hard to detect especially if your child is too young. For a proper diagnostic by psychologist, they recommend the child to be at least 5yo.

Most of the times, you can tell by they way the think. However, it depends on what kind of autism your child is having. You can compare the symtoms in websites that list them.

For example, my son's asperger syndrome has these symtoms:

difficulty making friends of the same age, children with AS may feel more comfortable with adults or much younger children
engages in one-sided, long-winded conversations, without noticing if the listener is still listening or trying to change the subject
displays unusual nonverbal communication, such as lack of eye contact, few facial expressions, or awkward body postures and gestures
does not empathize with or seems insensitive to others’ feelings and has a hard time “reading” other people or may have difficulty understanding humor
doesn’t understand the give-and-take of conversation or engage in “small talk”
seems egocentric or self-absorbed
may speak in a voice that is monotone, rigid, jerky or unusually fast
may be extremely literal or have difficulty understanding the nuances of language, despite having a good vocabulary

hey bro. thanks for sharing your experience. my friends son has autism as well not sure what level, but can see its very difficult for them to manage. she was also living in denial i guess. she knew it and they were working on management. but i guess a part of her was just pretending like nothing happened then one day she went to one specialist in australia and he had a good talk with her, then finally let out all her feelings. once again, thanks for sharing

Hi Everyone... Just promoted as a father 24 days ago...

Enjoying every moment as a father and a great experience...

congrats just post any question if needed..

report in

can share some tips for parenting ?

means teaching children ( be it girl or boy ) the modern way ?

means i believe not like our childhood generation anymore,

use rotan, belt, penyapu , chain, cloth hanger, etc.

i dont think is modern way yeah .. is more on asian vs mat salleh way ....

my way for my 3 kids when they are 4 years old
time out (punish them standing facing the wall (3 minutes/until they admit the mistake and say sorry)
do not mentioned .... u r naughty/useless/bodoh else everyday they use to the word and act like it ... just mentioned , papa/mama not happy on the way you behave today.

end of the day .. spend more time with kids .. you be more easier in future if the foundation is build when they are young ..

tips
4-7 years below
lego is a good for building relationship .. also if you want your kids to play on pc .. go to http://pbskids.org/ ..


my 8 and 10 years old, we play remote control/hot wheels car on weekend ..

This post has been edited by MoonRider: Feb 15 2016, 07:49 AM

congrats! its crazy and tough but its awesome hahah.

A husband and soon to be father to a daughter in a few weeks time. Guess I can check in early here first

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This post has been edited by Zozi: Feb 15 2016, 10:20 AM

congrats bro. just make sure you stock up on all the stuff you need like diapers and creams and oils etc. and get a 'go' bag ready. i highly recommend getting minyak telon too. also all clothes should be washed before use. can get the special detergent for baby clothes to kill bacteria and less chemicals or something for the baby's sensitive skin. can also ge the tummy wrap thing to protect the umbilical cord from rubbing or accidentally getting caught.

fuuuhhh good tips and thanks bro, gonna go over our shopping list again.

i just putting it out there. other people probably told you the same thing though hahaha. but just in case i also wanna add. also you need to decide if you gonna use formula or use breast feeding. then can also prepare accordingly. like need to boil the barang barang you wanna use like bottles and such to sterilize or go shopping for breast pump, nipple cream (some women breastfeed till nipples all bleeding, so its advised to use cream a week or two beforehand. its damn expensive though like RM40 for 5ml or something like that ).

for breastfeeding. one thing you can decide to do or not, depending on your waifu personality... is to talk with your wife about breastfeeding and 'possibility' of low milk supply at the beginning. my wife went into slight depression as had no milk for first week. but i think if we were prepared that it might happen then i think she wouldnt have been so upset. but after supplementing with halba/fenugreek tea. all went well.

good luck. be patient. waifu will become crazy. and you will too. hahah.

*DISCLAIMER TIPS PROVIDED ARE TO PROTECT FATHER FROM PSYCHOSIS. everyone share each others tips for a happy family.

This post has been edited by panda-man: Feb 15 2016, 11:20 AM

not sure how many of u subs to stem cell.. my three boys i kept under 3 companies.. stemlife..crycord and cellsafe..

also suggest dont buy playpen for newborn.. just buy the bed which can transform baby bed to normal bed which can accomodate till 2 yrs old

branded bottle like advent brand if can buy at singpore..is more cheaper

This post has been edited by MoonRider: Feb 15 2016, 02:50 PM

even you not plan to breast feed.. but u need to make sure for the first few days need to breast feed as first few days ur waifu will produce somehig call colostrum which produce great antibodies for u new born.. go n google..

My second child just came into the world last week, so now gonna go all over again on those chores and duties...
Sleepless night and tired, but Joyful!

congrats bro! even more tiring now with 2 hahahah. but of course now double happiness.


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seperate note:

yesterday my son fell off the bed. gave me the shock of my life. i was playing COD MW3 (yes... i still play that..) with HEADPHONES ON then heard BANG even feel some vibration on the floor. so damn scary. lucky nothing serious. his mum fell asleep trying to put him to sleep hahah. so golek golek off our bed. hai.... and i was just thinking about removing the side of his crib ahhah.

This post has been edited by panda-man: Feb 19 2016, 02:05 PM

thanks for the tips ... officially going to be a daddy new week. Mixed emotions, excitement, fear ... a long laundry list.
What is minyak telon ah? Is it Yu Yi oil?

hehe. congrats. dont worry about the stuff. if you cant get it. someone else can help.

minyak telon looks like this (amongst others, but this is what i use).


its for bloating, tummy aches, etc. not sure what is yu yi oil. but this is something like eucalyptus i guess. haha. kinda traditional. use on tummy, chest, back and feet normally.

edit... i frickin love the smell. ask parents or aunties for sure they know or they will recommend something that does the same job.

also, some people like to recommend gripe water for bloating. i personally never used it. bought it and left it there cause i found out it is similar to medicine and unless baby really going crazy we didnt wanna give any chemical stuff like that.

This post has been edited by panda-man: Feb 19 2016, 02:31 PM