U r a good boy. I will try to do the correct thing. Meaning i will continue to settle it myself and not do things that i will regret later.

Yeah, if i keep feeling myself with drugs for example, i will get more and more addicted to it. N the roots of the problem will never goes away.
N it will gets more serious one day.

I won't feed my urge by doing things i think is unhealthy such as getting ONS. If i have urge, i think settle it myself.
I won't 100% stay away from porn. But i will do sports and engaged in more healthy activities.
Yeah, hormones do certainly control us, especially nearing the time of the month for gals.

I will treat this urge in a healthy way. N not indulge in ONS. Masturbation is ok, for release. As long as not done in excess.
Thx for the advise.

Haha thanks...

I remember when I was masturbating,my mind will pop out some thing,I will think how about my female's friend think if they saw me doing this terrible things...but at that point I cant control myself.The urge is too strong.Then after masturbated...I will regret...Why I did that,I shouldnt do it.

Then,I come out a conclusion.
If you want to prevent from masturbating dont touch your genital .Just dont touch it and nothing will go wrong.If you just wash when bath is ok.
If I'm a boy,I just dont 'roll' my genital then I will not masturbate.(sorry i dont know how girls masturbate)

I would like to follow up you,hope you can quit masturbate just like me

Y lah u think how gals will think of u if u masturbate. Most gals know guys will masturbate lah. Mana ada guys dun masturbate one. Maybe some rarely masturbate. But i believe all guys masturbate also lah.

I won't quit masturbate lah. That's my only way to release. But i will quit from thinking other silly stuff like fubu lah.

Sorry to jump into your topic but i hardly read/knew girl masturbate also. It will be a discovery and i believe is not a taboo thing if it is taken into considerstion

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This post has been edited by andrewcha: Feb 1 2016, 02:49 PM

You should really consider looking for FUBU.
It really helps..

+1 to this. TS need to learn how to control. Everyone has the urge, me too sometime will have it, but I try to make me busy with other stuff and it will gone. Anyway, sometime masturbate is the fast solution to it but you will get addicted.

Man or woman all have their urges, all depends on the level of it. Many here have already suggested things that you can do to occupy yourself to minimize the urge. However, for the times when the urge is too great, masturbating is the best and least harmful method of relieving yourself. Plus, who better to give yourself pleasure than yourself? Doing things like FUBU and ONS just bring more risk especially if you don't know who you're getting involved with.

One word of caution is that you shouldn't let it take control or make you have the want and need to masturbate all the time. It shouldn't take over your life. I don't think you're any different or weird than the girls I know. This is just who you are and don't feel weird if you have some feelings or urges that don't fit into society's norm.

Most important is to love yourself and do no harm to others.

You probably have not met enough girls or no girls around you are comfortable enough to share such things with you.

She can't. She can get emotionally attached to others easily. Which isn't ideal for people who engage in FUBU relationships.

agree, but then I have been through this phase,
and as for me I find it easier to release the urge with an FUBU,
also we had very high level of understanding on our FUBU relationship.
That's the reason I suggested FUBU.

First of all she needs to talk to someone she trust. then from there she may identify and understand what she needs..
She can PM me if she wanted.

I agree that a fubu will be the best way. In my first reply to this thread also I mentioned that ideally, she can find an understanding fubu.

I do hope things work out for her soon.

Agree. but I n her case she needs a really understanding FUBU.
Because when her urge fades off after the "fun" she might get emotional and stuff..

you're kind of emotional, you need to learn to let go, control your everyday feeling, by then you can control the urge also, you need to be in control of yourself first

actually you should consider a dildo. I heard the effect is really good

Yep I agree that every man do masturbate before...
some may rarely...but some will stop it just like me

I think masturbate's pattern is very ugly lol ...indeed
glad I stopped it

Why you have to release?You get horny? or something like this?

Now,even I look some 18x things....nothing happen to me
my mind will just say "oh a guy fxxk a girl.... nothing else"
without getting any urge or 'horny' at all haha

TS, I'm going to give you advice which very few people will agree on:

I think you should just go find a guy and fxxk him.

The reason why you haven't already is because of the way you've been brought up. You've been taught that sex is something dirty and something sacred. You've been taught to be afraid of sex, afraid of doing it "wrong" because there's only one "right" way to do it. You've been taught that sex is something that girls give and that guys take, which is why you as a girl must be extra super careful about it. You've been taught that, as a girl, your body and heart and "purity" is extremely fragile.

See, I disagree with all of these things - but the thing is, most people are perfectly happy to live that way. Most people are brought up that same way, and most people will be perfectly content with that kind of thinking, because sex is ultimately a very small part of their lives. Most of them are just not highly-sexed people; they hardly ever feel any urge, and they never feel something's missing if they never have sex.

I don't think you're that kind of person. I think you're a highly-sexed person, you're born that way, and there's just no avoiding it. And I'm sorry to tell you that if you live the way you've been taught, you will be unhappy for most of your life. The urges that you're feeling now will never go away. You will always feel unsatisfied, and this dissatisfaction will affect your relationships. Perhaps one day, when you're much older, you will finally discover sexual satisfaction - and when you do, you will curse yourself because you went through life for so long without it.

You may ask, how do I know all this? Because you are not unique. There are many, many women who went through the same thing in their lives. Your story is very common

Maybe you don't believe me, but there are women out there who are sexually adventurous and aware of their own desires. They've gone through your fears and insecurities, and they've become more independent and more satisfied with their sex lives. I recommend you find them and talk to them, just to learn what it's like for someone with a completely different view of life. Right now, it seems like you can't even imagine separating your sexual urges from your emotions. I think it'll be a real eye-opener for you to meet people - girls especially - who can do it very easily

For those who suggest me to find a fubu, hmm. It is kind of exciting and very thrilling at 1st for sure, but when the sex is repetitively, i dunno how i will reacts. Emotional? I dunno. Will i get to attached with the fubu? I also dunno.

I can let go of myself not by having sex with strangers, letting go in the sense of dun think so much about sex, and just be in control of myself.

I know some gals who dun look at sex in a heavy way, meaning they r ok to date this guy and have sex, then few mths later date another guy, and have sex. Very casual kind. Like sex is not a big issue.

If date and have sex may still ok. But some just ONS, i cannot accept ONS. U never know how many gals he slept with b4, or any sexual disease he has. Dangerous.

As for FUBU, i am just thinking will one get addicted to it? I meant, guy A is 1st FUBU, and it is just so exciting and then u find Guy B. Just want to hear more of gal's experience. Some suggest an understanding FUBU? What is an understanding FUBU?

Highly sex person? Is there such thing? I am horny during certain period of time only. N when i watch/saw/heard something, then maybe ham sap lah. I dun think of sex 24 hrs a day. Highly sex, maybe i am.

It depends on your lifestyle. Some may meet their ONS/FUBU at a club, some may meet them online. But whatever it is, one would usually chat, flirt and meet up with them before engaging in any sexual activities. There's always a risk that he could be very dangerous lol. As mentioned before, always use condoms to prevent STDs, some cannot be prevented with a condom but YOLO, everything we do has risks.

I think you should get some experience then set some rules for yourself. Like say maybe you won't do ONS or you won't sleep with married men, etc. Find out what you like and don't like, what is acceptable to you and what's not.

When you learn to separate sex and your emotions, sex is just enjoyable for that moment. The urges are released, satisfied. And actually when the time comes for sex with a loved one, it's different, it's passionate and loving and also satisfactory when feelings and emotions are involved.

Understanding fubu as in both are on the same page, and knows what your thoughts are about sex currently. Some fubus are just there to have sex then leave, some willing to be good listeners and advicors. You don't want one who would treat you like a sex toy, you would want one who knows that you are also a person with feelings and emotions. You most likely won't be with one fubu forever, unless you get married to him. It's more like a period of exploring and just having fun. One day you would meet the right guy who will make you his wife. Till then, just go and enjoy yourself.

ts, please post up how many kambing/meow meow/trolls
have personal sms u to become ur ....

Although this might not be a good solution or appropriate, why dun u try having xxx with a girl or tomboy 1st.