Which is a double standard and needs to be abolished.
Why? Sex is natural. It's how you even came into existence. It's not wrong. It's just that the culture/society around you doesn't like to talk about it, which makes it feel wrong to talk about, but trust me, almost everybody around you is having sex and/or masturbating.

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No,you'll have.
I''ll give you a Youtube link.This is a meditation music.Work for me everytime.
Find a serene place and sit down then open the music and focus on your breath.Just dont fall into sleep

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NPVX75VIpqg...channel=OneMind

Nowadays,I don t even have the 'urge' .Hooray for me!

I think guys/gurls should be the same. It is all in your brain. If you kept thinking about it, then there's nothing to help you.

Sex is an addiction. Some may not agree. However, you can ask people about it. When you never/stop having it for some time, the urge is not that strong really. You can easily brush it away by occupying your mind with something else.

However once you had an orgasm, then you will feel the need for a 2nd, 3rd, 4th and so on. It gets you hook on until you break off the spell and let the urge subside. It release chemical substances that make you feel good which make you look forward the next occurences.

I think the first time is usually the hardest. If you had a good one, you will feel the urge to seek more. On the other hand, if its a bad one, then you will give all sort of reason to reject anymore.

It all the same with sex, ONS, paid sex, masturbation. Not to undermine the important of sex, but masturbation give a better sense of enjoyment if you do it the right way. Sex is exhausting, while masturbation is more about relaxation. You will stop when you had enough, not more, not less.

If you are someone with high emotional attachment, then better distance yourself from ONS or FuBu.

This post has been edited by andrekua2: Jan 27 2016, 10:23 AM

puasa. meditate.

First of all, everybody has the sexual urge, be it boys or girls as it is a part of life. However, if you are not comfortable with the idea of ONS/FUBU, then don't start at all,
especially if you are still a virgin. Of course the idea of being embraced by a man is thrilling and exciting, but it will ruin you and totally change you into a different person.

Certainly, as mentioned by someone, meditating is a way to forget about the sexual urge. But that is if you can totally divert your concentration to something else, which is very difficult,
and most probably it won't work for most people as we all know sexual urge is very addictive.

Personally, i think that everyone's way of curbing this problem is different. You can try all the suggestion that people gave you and none suits you. As for me, normally
I would go to the gym and totally exhaust myself and the urge would be gone.

If you need more advice or need more opinions, don't hesitate to PM me.

If you are easily affect by emotions and form emotional bonds easily (you seem like one), then it's gonna be difficult to be in a casual sex relationship with someone else. Yes, some casual relationships turn into 1-sided romantic ones, hence why I said an understanding partner is required. A casual relationship ain't simple, there are rules that you two will have to come up with and follow closely. It's hard to say what's the norm and what's not. To some, having sex daily is a norm, and to others, the norm is that sex is only for reproduction. Normal is different to everyone when it comes to sex.

Yes, societal's image of a girl is pure/innocent/virgin, everyone around you makes you think that you should be like that. That is how you should live your life. A girl is not suppose to have high sexual desires, a girl is not suppose to initiate such things, blah blah.. Well, we are only humans and sex is natural. It's just how you yourself can find the preferred way to handle your urges. Who cares about what the society thinks? There's no right or wrong when it comes to such things.

Of course there are risks of STDs and pregnancies when it comes to sex. We do take precautions when engaging in any form of sex, as no matter what, you will expose yourself to such risks. So if you wish to not do so, then just settle with masturbating/meditation and keeping your mind off sex.

I don't really wanna go into details but maybe you can google about masturbating and see if you are doing all you can with your masturbation techniques.

Sex is natural. I agree. Just different ppl from diff background makes them view sex differently. Nothing wrong with sex.
Everyone doing it? I agree also, but not 100%, because some ppl reli do not have sex (coz of various reasons- no partner, etc etc), but they do masturbate also.


Wahh, no urge at all. Good for you.

Masturbation is handle by us ourself. We can control. However, sex is entirely different thing. More excitement.
Maybe i did it the wrong way, thus the enjoyment is lesser.

Yes, i m too attached, i cannot have ONS or FUBU.

You are right. I am uncomfortable/dislike the idea of FUBU/ONS, i can think about it, but i shouldn't start. Yeah. If i did it, i dunno what will happen.
Going gymn is one good way, but cannot go 24/7. Maybe during days the urge is stronger, can go do other stuff to make oneself busy.

I am emotional type of gal, so cannot have fubu all that. Not suitable for me. It may grow into some more complicated relationship.
I need to learn how to handle this urge in a more positive way, such as the only thing i can think of now, is to masturbate correctly.

I think, certainly did it wrongly. Thx for the advise, munkeyflo, and everyone.

You never heard some couple even stop having sex few years into marriage? I can tell it only special during the first few years from your first try or a relationship. After that, its kinda like a schedule/routine. Then only you reflect on if sex was exciting.

A friend of mine who was hooked on paid sex told me why he got so into it. Its really boring with the same partner after a year or two. He still havent get married. I guess thats why some girl would do casual sex, because it does give you the excitement you get whenever you do it with a new partner or stranger or friend.

Yep,eventhough sometimes I carelessly click into some "website"
I dont even have the urge to masturbate at all.

I think I'am successed.
Mental>Urge

You can follow my step too.
I think I can help you step by step.

I think you should look for fubu, it will certainly satisfy your needs..

you want to relieve ur urge or to control it? if you want to control it why not look for other thing to spend your time rather than keep urself quiet and think of ur urge? Will sports help to tired you out?

This is kinda true. We as humans will crave variety. If it has been with the same person for years, sometimes we get curious. And that will again depend on how good our self control is if we are in a relationship. Some will even go into swinging or open relationship if both partners can come to a solution for that undying urge.

We can try to keep things spicy in the bedroom but for some, that'll never be enough.

But TS not yet reach there yet. Wait till she has a bf and has been sleeping with him for years first. For guys it may be a year or two to get bored, but not for all girls. There were definitely temptations but I was definitely still not bored even after >5 years.

Of coz sex will get routine after many years of being together. But doesn't meant it is an excuse to cheat his/her other half.
If your fren go for paid sex, he is cheating to his gf. Pity that gal.
I think if u r single, u can do whatever u want, but once u have a bf/gf, have to be loyal to your other half.


Yes, this is a great way, to stop the urge.
Even u click on those website, u also can control. U r master already.


Good questions. I want to both release it and also control it. Cannot both ohh?
I cannot be busy 24 hours, i cannot do sports 24 hours.
There will be times that i will be free.

Gals is definite different. Majority gals is more loyal than guys. I am not saying all gals, but majority.
I also won't be bored if with the same guy more than 5 years.

I'm not a master anyway.I am just a normal 18 y/o boy.
I did masturbated before...but I really hate the feeling after masturbated.
The feeling of being guilty....I felt I did something wrong...

So I try my best to stop masturbating.
You dont want to give yourself a try to stop masturbating?

This is not about cheating. I'm just showing you an example of sex is over-rated. The excitement is all in your head because you are anticipating things. It will not last.

Well, if that's the case, why don't u find a bf?? I'm pretty sure there are a lot of hungry single men out there as well. It might be the best solution to ur problem.

U feel guilty for masturbating? I think i have the same feeling as you. Are you from a religious family? Or you mix with all nice nice frens?
I want to stop if i am able to control. But for now, it is ok. Just go with the flow.

I agree sex between couples, the heat will be gone after the 1st few years. Then it is the commitment and responsibility and vow to each other that is most important.

I want a bf. But not just for this reason lah.

Yes, everytime I masturbated the feeling will overwhelmed me.....I felt I did something wrong...
I think I shoudn't do this.....regret
I'm come from a Chinese family...but I dont trust Gods do exist.Because Science cant proof it.lol
Friends?I think is normal but not too bad..they are love to have a gf or peek on pretty girls
But I dont do it....I dont like to peek on girls or something.
(I'm not a gay if you think so..I just want to focus on my study get a good job earn money and go travel around the world)
Girls....for me is nothing

You have to tell yourself dont masturbate if the urge coming
Trust yourself...your mental will win against the urge

This post has been edited by Snowy98: Jan 30 2016, 09:27 AM

I accidentally repeat twice...

This post has been edited by Snowy98: Jan 30 2016, 09:29 AM

Trust me,,if u try find a solution to treat this urge,that is by feeding ur urge,,,u gonna ruin ur body n mind,,,it is very unhealthy(trust me,if u think u should experience it first and then believe me,it will be too late),both physically n mentally.U may not know when u change,,people will be like;go on have sex a lot.It is good.NOOO!!!Is not bad ,but,in excess,u will face depreciation,especially compared to if u r NOT feeding ur urge.It will make mentally sick, sex should something healthy but the way (especially if ur family overacts too much when it comes about sex) u are dealing with, it could cause a lot of confusion about what is wrong and right(much like ur friend that sleep with many guys).

i could talk about bio,but it will be to. complicated.(the moment humans development(both mentals n physicals) stops,,is almost the moment they are ready for reproduction,there may a lot deviation about this fact, but this the barebone.

So,answer is, simple,,,get engaged in some real sports(not gyms)(yes physicall exhaustion will treat this,so be hardworking enough),,It must be difficult at first but stay away from porn and start challanging ur mind(it could be anything, like mathematics,science journals(long one), novels and so much).Get some motivation talks,if u r not immune to those.

With that said, u should remember, there is no reason for u to try to hate that urge(healthy human do) but in excess it's bad.
Go for long marathons or perhaps hill climbing .Also more importantly(this could take some time(perhaps this could be the source).Be vegetarian for a week(thats enough).
Stop any dairies from ur diets,stop eating muttons n pork(for a while or reduce them)(U may ask why other people eat them but be fine,,every human being is different.)So change ur diet,,,take fruits n reduce fats and protein intake(for a while).
Ultimately,,stay away from porn.
If really want it or not, it's from ur mind,,why am i telling these,,i had experience this before n im good now.

Remember hormones do control our brain activities.

This post has been edited by hdbjhn2: Jan 30 2016, 11:46 PM