TS, I'm going to give you advice which very few people will agree on:

I think you should just go find a guy and fxxk him.

The reason why you haven't already is because of the way you've been brought up. You've been taught that sex is something dirty and something sacred. You've been taught to be afraid of sex, afraid of doing it "wrong" because there's only one "right" way to do it. You've been taught that sex is something that girls give and that guys take, which is why you as a girl must be extra super careful about it. You've been taught that, as a girl, your body and heart and "purity" is extremely fragile.

See, I disagree with all of these things - but the thing is, most people are perfectly happy to live that way. Most people are brought up that same way, and most people will be perfectly content with that kind of thinking, because sex is ultimately a very small part of their lives. Most of them are just not highly-sexed people; they hardly ever feel any urge, and they never feel something's missing if they never have sex.

I don't think you're that kind of person. I think you're a highly-sexed person, you're born that way, and there's just no avoiding it. And I'm sorry to tell you that if you live the way you've been taught, you will be unhappy for most of your life. The urges that you're feeling now will never go away. You will always feel unsatisfied, and this dissatisfaction will affect your relationships. Perhaps one day, when you're much older, you will finally discover sexual satisfaction - and when you do, you will curse yourself because you went through life for so long without it.

You may ask, how do I know all this? Because you are not unique. There are many, many women who went through the same thing in their lives. Your story is very common

Maybe you don't believe me, but there are women out there who are sexually adventurous and aware of their own desires. They've gone through your fears and insecurities, and they've become more independent and more satisfied with their sex lives. I recommend you find them and talk to them, just to learn what it's like for someone with a completely different view of life. Right now, it seems like you can't even imagine separating your sexual urges from your emotions. I think it'll be a real eye-opener for you to meet people - girls especially - who can do it very easily

I think this is quite silly. What exactly are you afraid of? That sex feels good and you want to do more of it? Sex addiction is a real psychological disorder, but it's very rare, and it's the last thing you should worry about if you're just beginning to explore your sexuality.

Your emotions are under your own control. Sex is not something that will brainwash you into falling in love with a guy whom you would never fall for if you didn't have sex with him.

That's true of anyone, ONS or fubu or serious boyfriend. Always insist that he uses a condom.