i guess you're on the right track.

but try to confess sooner than later. If she rejects and it affects your friendship then....start avoiding her...maybe she will feel bad and come back to you after all that you have done...

if not...best just to forget and treat her the same as before your feelings for her started.

I dun agree wif the bold part.
Nvr ever avoid her........u'll lose a precious friendship.........

yeah.. avoiding is not good... if rejected, then don't mind, continue to be a best friend.. the relationship still stays... just keep on keeping her company, sooner or later, something will take place~

That's always I keep in mind. I cherish her as a person. If she rejects, than I will still be her friend...

do she know that u like her??or does she give any hints?

I've been there before and it's not wise to fall in love with your best friend.

As best friends, you've already explored each other (excluding each other's bedroom skills) and your relationship wouldn't last.

And if anything goes wrong, nothing's going to be the same anymore.

Also, like you said...she's pretty and angelic. Now these kind of women are in high-demand for guys. And you know men, they'd do anything to win over a woman's heart.

I've learned to stay away from attractive women as they can only bring a lot of drama.

If the both of you are happy with each other as it is, now...stay with it.

There are over 6 billion people in this world...don't tell me you're THAT choosy over a girlfriend.

I'm not a choosy type. I don't have that luxury. It's just that I'm not an easy person to fall in love...

wah i tot im the only 1 with this kind of situation
i oso like a girl that is my best fren
just now just post a reply same situation also lol

for my openion nvr go for best fren,if u confess its only 50-50% chance u can remain as friends if she reject
if she accept and feel for u also then ok but the possibility is not high

for me i will remain as fren,i dont confess,maybe let faith bring us togather,i will wait till i find some 1 suitable,

cos if u confess and she reject,there will have some kind of weird thing between both of u,even if u ramain as fren after she reject.
both of u will feel like wanted to avoid each other

I understand that situation completely.

based on my opinion, i dont this TS should confess his love rite now. As she just broke up with her ex- bf, she needs time to recover. She will not accept a new man in her life immediately. If she does dat, den it means that she doesnt love her ex very much. A broken heart needs time to heal. IF you do confess now, by chance are that she might reject u saying that she just broke up with her ex and doesnt wish to get involved in another relationship so soon.

Even if her ex cheated on her, she still loved him b4. So its quite hard for her to accept a new man rite now.

My 2 ¢.

Noted with appreciation.

bro..how ur story? No update ka?

Why is that usually if people fall for the best friend or just a friend, if rejected, it will destroy the friendship??

it's like that one la...
happened to me oso
and now the relationship totally not the same like last time...
still got contact la...but seldom dy..
nevertheless, im almost over it..

TS forgot about this thread edi after got her as gf...



This post has been edited by Invince_Z: Jan 16 2007, 06:22 PM

I hope someone answers this question. It's an age old mystery.

This post has been edited by Sensui: Jan 16 2007, 10:25 PM

Coz the girl still thinks that the guy befriend her for a purpose which is not considered as a pure friendship. So she will keep her distance away from him or worst, avoid him completely. Best way is to let the love comes automagically else if your confession fails, consider good game bah.

That's it??

I don't think girls should do that. Anyway, what's wrong with the best friend falling in love with you? It's just one step higher in their relationship isn't it?

For anyone to be a person's lover....the person need to become her/his best friend first right?

If not, then it seems that "best friends" that he/she are just people who they don't really care much about and just use them to get something.

Sorry for being "incommunicado" for so long. No, no I haven't express / confess to her yet, although God knows how much I wanted to. It's juts something that doesn't feel right to do at this time. BTW, I'm still friends with her. I know that she knows I like her more than just a friend, but I still too intimidated to express it to her. To be honest, the thought of being rejected, really kills me...

I was in your shoes once my friend. When I was courting my GF (best friend back then), I spend alot of time with her. Going out for movies alone. Sharing jokes, playing the same sports..etc. After almost 2 years, I started having feelings for her and treated her differently and became a little more tuned into her emotions and her needs. IF she was a girl, she would definitely know that I have special feelings for her after how i've treated her. And yet we still went on and she's still okay with everything we did still. It was that, that gave me the courage to go and ask her. All this while she knew I liked her and she hasn't distanced herself but instead returning subtle signs at me and still enjoying my company. Since then, i've no regrets and i'm glad i took that leap of faith.

I hope my experience help you in a way to overcome that thought of being rejected. Put it this way, by giving her that portrait, she would've known that you do like her more than friends and she's still with you, right? What does that tell you? She's being patient with you and until you've not made a move, she might just move on and you will miss that flight forever. Good luck mate.