Learn from my downfall...

Here is my original post back in 2006


And after all and all, here's the outcome of it.


Update as in August 2016



You can read from page 1 to end. I hope this will be a lesson to be learn to those who fall for their friend. Discuss, seek help, rant, flame whatever you want to do with this thread.

Thank you...

This post has been edited by Evangelistica: Aug 24 2016, 01:00 PM

dude..
this to risky...
never.. never.... never.... take ur best fren as ur gf....
tat susck...
find another one la....

if so easy to find another one.i think he wont be so headache till need to ask for guidance in forum rite...well,i think is up to u,thread starter..it may be risky..but at least u try..rather than jst keeping it to urself..

It's hard since I'm not the kind of guy that falls for other woman THAT easy. The last time I've felt like this was 13 years ago, while I'm in secondary school (Form 2). So you see that once I'm in in love with some one, I'm REALLY in love and it will took me ages to forget her..

no pain no gain dude...

imagine if u were to die tomor, would u like a life with regrets?

well all the best!!!

Sigh. This is a difficult choice. But I can understand your feelings.

"A man who has not felt his heart lost to a woman, is not a man.. yet."
-Altie <-- hehe sorry, shameless plug. But I *did* come up with that myself.

Before you begin, you must understand the "battlefield". Know what you stand to gain and lose if you proceed further. What do you stand to gain? A girlfriend and possibly a life partner. What do you stand to lose? A dear friend and respect that has been built up for possibly a few years. Are you willing to make that sacrifice for the prize?

If you are, then read on.

Firstly, you must make your feelings known to her. Giving her a portrait of her sketched by you is but a hint. A glimmer of your total message. It's a good start, but now you proceed with the utmost confidence. Do not sway, do not stutter. Your next proclamation to her must be more forceful. But not to an extreme. If you're a movie buff, and you've watched "Kate and Leopold", you'll understand what I say next more fully. (If you have not, no matter, I shall make it as clear and concise as I can).

You've got to make your intentions known as clear as possible.

This is like a battle horn. So.. what exactly do you do? You ask her out for a drink. This should be fairly easy, you've known each other for a long time. You tell her:

"There's something I'd like to tell you. We've been friends for such a long time. I've gotten to know you very well and because of this friendship we've had, I'd like to get to know you better than that. What do you feel about that?"

Pause.

"Of course, if you do not feel the same way, we can still be good friends. I'm just asking for the chance for me to prove myself to you, that I can be relied on to take care of you.

The key is NOT to rush her. We're just opening a door here. We're not here to push her through the door. If she decides she likes your proposition, congratulations. If she decides that either you're not worth it, or that she's not ready to, then my friend, you have to be ready for the fall. I won't lie to you. It won't be pretty. It will be sad, it will be depressing, but GOD DAMN IT, get over it and just be her friend. That's all she wants now. Maybe.. in the future, she may take up your offer. Which depends on whether you're still available, which by then, will be HER loss.

I hope my insanely long post does not make you feel that this is impossible. Go for it. You don't even have to use any of my suggestions. A lot of this "love" business is played by ear. You improvise as you go along. Just make sure you enjoy the ride. It's not the end that counts, it's the ride.

Good luck, dude.

This post has been edited by altie: Oct 23 2006, 05:58 PM

Go step by step, drop some hints as you go, just remmember not to give any details here, or you will end up like KTM Densha / SE K750i guy who posted his story with his Nokia N70 girl

This post has been edited by karhoe: Oct 23 2006, 06:07 PM

lazy read long essays of postings >.>

a girl when she thinks a guy is her best friend, she will rarely fall for him... i'd say you have to start with obvious hints first but that's alittle hard since you're used to doing stuff that guys use to chase girls... so you could gang up with helps of friends.. friends come in handy during certain events.... try to ask for their help and they'll help you get her to notice... and try giving her a thinking of there's another option like be your gf rather than your best friend...

Sounds interesting.

Good thing it wasn't for you.

eh how did they end? i only know that they've started lol... they have bad ending ah?

Thanks for your deep insight. Really appreciate it. I read it thoroughly and I'll keep them in mind. Thanks again.

they disappeared ^^;;
duno run where already... win the girl also didn't thank us or report

All you have to do is confess your feeling to her. The fact that you are best friends means that you get togther well. Worrying that becoming a couple is irrational. This is just a natural progression of a relationship. Why would you want another girl that does not get along so well with you to be your gf? And I tell you, there is no such thing as average joe don't get along with a beauty. I once like a girl and never dared to confess my feeling cause I felt that I was not good enough. But surprise surprise, her boyfriend is a realy realy plain guy and now I am really regretting it.

go for it! u have nothing to lose....

You all raised me up!!! I'm touched. Mumeichan, Nexturn, all ...thanx a lot for understanding..

OH hohohoho... time to start posting here. So how's it going? Confessed yet?

And i'll bet Fujkenasai hasn't stepped in here yet.

Just make sure you tell us the outcome later one. Alot of the threads here end without us getting to know the conclusion.

Let me go slow and steady first. I know her. She doesn't like things to be rushed. Whatever the outcome is, I'll let you know. I promise.

Hi there,

I'm also having the same problem wif u, but I have already confessed. I did my confessing like this, I wondered wat u guyz think about - "Actually, I wan to let u know dat i like u. Dun worry, u dun hav to do anything, i just wan to let u know my feeling."

Well, I think I did my confession at the wrong time, it's quite near to our major exam. So, she replied me "Now is not the time for these, we must work hard for our exam, k?? Anyway, thx"

Again, I'm not quite sure whether I gave the correct answer - "Ya, dat's why I didn't wan u to do anything. In the meantime, let's continue b best fren, k?" She said ok......

Now, I really dunno wat should i do next other than concentrating in my exam.

time , location also playing big factor...so make sure u smart enough when and where to tell she..hope u the best ..GOOD LUCK YA!!!!!!!!!