Hi,

I have no idea where should i post this, but i think may drop into here.

Ok, let start here.

I know my gf from internet and never meet before. After few month on internet we because a net couple.
we suggest to meet up her on 1 holiday (we both in different state). she at kl, while me at johor.

First day of your meet up/dating.
- We do hold hand only, shooping, eatting.

2nd day of our meet up/dating.
- We have lunch, dinner, movie and also sex (both of us is virgin).

3rd day i go back to johor.


After that, she quit her job in KL and come to johor to work because of me.
We stay together (only after 1 month her family only accept this).

We are staying together for almost 1 years.
As we staying together, she getting less and less enjoy of Sex.

For the first month, i do buy sex toy and play together, she still will do many position.
She still will suck my penis, i will finger her, i will lick her vagina and so on.

This few month, when i request for sex, she do not want any foreplay.
just call me insert with lubricant and done it. She do not even move or change position.
Just missionary, that all. Sometimes, she will ask me faster finish it.

Like yesterday night, plan to have a good Sex with her like foreplay and lick lick.
she say, no, she say her Vagina very dirty (actually just after bath).
Than i kiss her, she only give lip to lip kiss and do not want French kiss. She say so disgusting.
plan to kiss her ear, she reply no, very dirty.
this make me totally off.

She very love me, willing move to johor because of me,
previously never separate from her family before.

she kena rape b4? like movie...feel herself so dirty.. O.o have you discuss with her b4?

TS just joined today and already post this kind of thread...Epic.

lolz. but he is serious yo. Don't troll him la.

By the way, why not u ask her why? she feel dirty?

or she is not in the mood?

This post has been edited by hianz86: Feb 15 2012, 03:02 PM

TS totally real American Pie dude..awesome like hellaa

susah la.. pretty normal I guess after marriage.

If can tahan, then tahan lor. If cannot, bochap lor...

Everyone has their good (before moving in) and bad (after moving in) behaviour. That's why they call 'suffer-ring'.

agree bro...after married. What also cannot 1...can tahan? tahan lor...cannot tahan? Miss Fifth or go cheong lor

Thanks to those spa hotels in Malaysia. Else, life is short for men.. prostate cancer early ah.. lol.

That's why spore got 'official' geylang. Dun pray pray ok. When the time comes, have to let go means let go. Tahan at your own prostate cancer risk. lol.

But due to PRU 13.... all police raid like hell now -.-|||| sigh....after married.....except missionary....u have no other style.... true story yo..

This thread is better suited for cupids corner or kopitiam, tbh.

My opinion? She got bored. Talk to her and communicate. What does she like so on so forth.

This is no kopi tiam fren. Just survey around with married friends and you will know how pissed off they are. lol.

Communicate is ideal. She already said 'dirty'. What english language you still don't understand? You think cleaning it or even brush teeth will help?

If it is other psychological problem, the who's problem is it? You think she will go and see a schrink? She will boot you out first.

Come to the real world people. A man still does not understand a woman even after they are dead. lol.

That is why you see lots of divorce cases. You bochap, i find others. Life goes on.

Yup. Last time i used to be very sohzai n think is it my problem. Now i noe...if u cannot? i find other who is can lor. Better still just cheong. no nid think so much and tahan....life goes on no matter wat

not yet married also like this..... dunno i can tahan if after married.
she always say no mood or tired, so now days, we only have sex on saturday only.

she never been rape before.
she is a virgin, when we first time have sex.

when i touch her, any part of her body, she will say itchy.
she will push away my hand when i try to touch her vagina area and say very itchy, do not play la.

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Added on February 15, 2012, 3:44 pmshe say vagina very dirty, cause use to urine. So do not lick it.
Ear dirty cause got those ear wax.
she say she feel very disgusting when french kiss and also hard to breath.

now is like, before and after sex, she also lay down there and i'm the 1 who do all the cleaning.

the sex toy i buy, all put aside with dust already..... (wasted money)

She also a very jealous person, if i go out or talk with other girl, she will unhappy.
She got say before, if i do something like find other girl and have sex with other, she will never forgive me......
/But i also never plan to cheong .........

need advice, was it physiological problem?
Do i need to bring her for doctor?

This post has been edited by alexlim85: Feb 15 2012, 03:44 PM

oh....virgin eh? just do it la....last time...my girl also like this....the more she exp...the more she like it. Most of chick will say dirty 1 la...but when u lick it. They lov'in it yo

virgin is like so...u expect them like those experienced PRC tell u where u should make them feel?



RELAX BRAH....

Cheong is good for your health la. Just becareful of deceases. Always wear your armor. Don't ever! Eva go naked.

This post has been edited by hianz86: Feb 15 2012, 03:49 PM

Tough luck bro. Maybe there should be a statistic open on 'how many times men need to do it in a week'.

Some who are truly good type will tahan. Those cannot tahan will say goodbye. Life is cruel. Everything looks rosy before marriage.

1 time a week is definitely too little. Like I said, the SPAs are flourishing. Logic rite?

Ah. Its a psychological thing then. many people still find sex to be tabooish things to even be discussed.

I'm thinking she's too tired to even have a sense of joy in having sex. There's something else bothering her for sure. Time to talk seriously.

Or she could be having a much earlier menopause. But i'd still will go with psychology and fatigue.

she is not virgin now, cause do countless time with her already.

she never allow me to lick or finger her vagina at all.
finger her also cannot.....

i believe u should make her visit a sex pyschologist( really exist) but more physchological sex

since u r in johor it's better 4 her 2 visit those specialist in sg as they r more understanding n experienced

i believe she is horny, attention seeking n kinky mayb u should bring her another partner 2 spice it up n c her reaction

Oprah doctor. Phil rite? Says 4 times a week. lol.

So, cannot catch up means habis... kes tamat. lol.

Or alternatively, this Dr Phil gives you the license to phiak phiak 3 times outside, since you only do 1 time a week.

This post has been edited by extremepower: Feb 15 2012, 03:56 PM

4th times? i if can 1 time is like strike lottery liao lor

My girl dun suck on the 1st day we pak toh say dirty wor, but wat can do...

Do this and i guarantee you would be single again.

u are so straight forward brah

no idea what will happen.........

yeah, she do eat birth control pills......
do not know this will cause the problem or not?
telling her to stop eating it.
and call her to eat EPO.

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Added on February 15, 2012, 4:36 pmReally hope can have back those great sex life..........

This post has been edited by alexlim85: Feb 15 2012, 04:36 PM

give her sometime la...chicks is hard to be please nowadays.

create romantic atmosphere. Most of the time u can get it.

tried...
yesterday already very nice already.

cook steak for her,
open a rosa wine.

i still can have sex with her, but she just lay there only...
i totally turn off yesterday and direct go sleep.

in ur dream brah...once it gone...it gone...unless u find another chick~~ true story yo!

Hope not,
i very love her.... but she unable to complete my life...
am i too selfish or too demanding???
any female here can give some comment?

life is not about sex la brah... and also...the more u do it...the more boring it became...sometimes...have to go try new thing...then u will be more appreciate with wateva u have. i think , u need to spend some time talk to her...why she like dead fish on bed...

she seems to be having problem. not in sex i mean. there is sumthing that upsets her. try talking to her. hear the problem. if she says, "no problem" means she dont want u to know. do not push. ask her nicely to spit it out. do not force the sex. put it on hold for now. this time, wait until she ask or wants it.

U're too demanding already, can u change sex to sweet talk/romantic hug/or staring each other to create more feel?
Girls, Sex is not enuf to satisfy them, they demand is very wide.

ada baby sudah - true story

gal like to arose slowly...not like man can direct hit.

One of the tips...urut her head, neck.. then to shoulder, then to.....lower..lower....

sometime, if the gal blood pressure (period), too low, will cos no mode.
buy or cook something to recover her body.

Some skill need to be use other the sex toy...like arose wording, touch, smell, etc...then slow slow to the sensitive body part...

got book to teach u geh..

good luck

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Added on February 15, 2012, 6:24 pmsome ppl say use lemon put in the sensitive part can enhance the lust ...

This post has been edited by peace230: Feb 15 2012, 06:24 PM

maybe you kena "lottery". Happy father's day!

TS, we can guess and throw stuff to you here, but in the end you need to talk to her to find out what the root cause is.

I feel you bro She don't have the mood all I can say... You need to create the environment yourself... She do it to compromise you instead of willingly...

hw about juz give up ur sex for awhile, perhaps 1 or 2 weeks..see how she respond.

or just tease her, dun penetrate?

This post has been edited by vanpersie91: Feb 15 2012, 07:56 PM

Your sex life is getting boring. You guys probably moved too fast.

Think about it. Are you slacking in anything? Maybe you used to set the environment before having sex and now no one bothered to set a nice environment, so she also no mood to have sex.

Is she very stressed at work? Is she having any other problems? Are you getting on her nerves in any way while living together? Small things like not flushing the toilet or not putting your dirty clothings in the laundry basket can really piss a girl off sometimes. Living together means seeing each other everyday, one can get bored too. As people say, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Are you two communicating? Does she think that sex is taboo? Does she talk to you about sex? Do you or her have a fetish that each other is not fond of?
Communication is very important. You're only 1 year into the relationship and already facing this problem. Talk to her about it. Try to work it out. I believe that sex is very important in a relationship. If one is frustrated over it, getting married or ignoring it will not solve this problem but will only make it into a bigger problem.

Don't make her eat things for birth control, use a condom dammit!

Aiyoo. That's the problem right there.

perhaps she might want to try threesome?
or having sex in a group of party?

Perhaps u r overdoing it, but to u is normal yet she is bored of it. Imagine eating banana split everyday after meal, 7 days a week for a monts and tell me how u feel after at least 3 mths, hope this get u the answer

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Added on February 15, 2012, 8:58 pmAll hail sir silver croc, salute, I hate those way too cos it harm ur potential future wife's health

This post has been edited by TheEvilMan: Feb 15 2012, 08:58 PM

GF: I think my BF is taking me for granted. I gave up my job and moved here just for him. My parents nearly disowned me. They really don't like me shacking up with him. Everytime I phone home, mum asks when are we getting married.

The relationship is not going anywhere. He just want things to stay as they are. Everyday, after work, sex. He doesn't think about anything else. Much less marriage. I want to start a family.

GF's friend: If this relationship does not work out, you don't have a lot of time to look for another man. You're not getting any younger. Nobody wants an old maid. Play hard to get. Withold sex. See if he thinks about anything else.

Question: if you GF gets sick and you can no longer have sex with her, will you stick by her side. Or throw her away like a used rag, and go look for another GF?

Yeap, girls are highly emotional beings too, and you make their hormones/body chemistry whacked, they'll start behaving weird too... its just not a winning formula

Agree that all I can see from ts is sex...

+1

lol virgin also so expert ka? wihtin 1 year can do so many things.. can lick somemore talk kok and sing song la brader

Lol this

GF: I think my BF is taking me for granted. I gave up my job and moved here just for him. My parents nearly disowned me. They really don't like me shacking up with him. Everytime I phone home, mum asks when are we getting married.

Her family already accept me, as i also got to her house overnight for few times already.


The relationship is not going anywhere. He just want things to stay as they are. Everyday, after work, sex. He doesn't think about anything else. Much less marriage. I want to start a family.

Everyday, i cook dinner for her. cause i reach home earlier than her. she just come back, take bath and eat dinner than directly jump to the bed.


GF's friend: If this relationship does not work out, you don't have a lot of time to look for another man. You're not getting any younger. Nobody wants an old maid. Play hard to get. Withold sex. See if he thinks about anything else.

She just 23 this year, she not much friend. no friend at johor at all.


Question: if you GF gets sick and you can no longer have sex with her, will you stick by her side. Or throw her away like a used rag, and go look for another GF?

I sure stick by her side. i will never look for any other gf. i really love her. i just try to solve the issue about me and her only.

Ur gf doesnt love u anymore la...

So if your wife thinks your 2' cannot satisfy her, she also has the right to cheong, is that what you mean ?

To TS, Let her go, she deserves someone better.
A man like you who doesn't appreciate her moving down to Johor to be with you, a man she gave her first time to, didn't thought of being a 'xiu lai lai' stay at home, she works hard for future, yet you are here complaining.
Just admit you treat her like a sex toy and your sex skill is poor, else she's gonna enjoy it and base on your post, you only care about your 2' satisfy or not, you never care about does she enjoy it ?

^
LOOOLL

but yea, she has a point there.

hi tarp

u try open porn and watch together, see what the reaction of her. By the way, maybe u r in unsafe relationship. or someone are taking action on her(less percent) She wanting another relationship.(possible)
The more u wanting on sex to determine the situation will become more worst. Try other way, to make her feel safe with u.

Yes, it is exactly this kind of thinking that will make women feel safe with you.

oh TS dont use dom dom la, make he pregnant then she will be yours foreva fayah!!!

There is so much that could be going on here that its difficult to knw what advice to give without more information, according to your post everything seems fine at the start of the relationship, however after a year things turned out for the worst in the sex department. Now your girl could be sexually frigid or have a low sex drive, maybe she was abused before and has issues with sex, maybe she used sex a a way to win you over and once that happened she shutdown and lost interest in you...its really up to you to sit down and talk with her and find out what the problem is.

There are a few things you should knw, if your woman is emotionally comfortable and satisfied with you, and you give her great earth shattering sex she will want to be intimate with you all the time. the problem with a lot of men out there is that they become codependent and stuck in bad relationships...if she keeps on like this you gotta man up grow some balls and leave her....if she cannot satisfy your needs she is not worth it....go out there and find a better woman who will treat u the way u desire

lol why of all place you wanna discuss about ur sex life here in lyn

trust me been doin that wit my ex-gf for bout 1yr until both of us now swinging around

yes i'm single but i'm swinging n not havin any troubles with sex partners unlike u meathead wit no balls 2 advice our good fren troubles

anyway threesome is not awesome anymore

foursome is the new awesome

i believe wat happen now she is having a downward spiral n u would need to hav some adventure n explore new ways 2 arouse her back

This post has been edited by xander83: Feb 16 2012, 08:43 AM

+1 Life is not abt sex....
I have a guy fren no sex life been 10 years coz his wife acting same as Ts's gf ...but he still alive n love her wife very much.

myb she's just tired from work. try to withhold sex for a while, spice up your love life with some romantic new exciting events.

not all girls always enjoy sex

wah..u more demanding than my bf.....but maybe she dont like it or dont love u d....or u were high demanding, try rest 1 month without sex...maybe foreplay and kiss and hug...enough....

or try this

plan some short vacation to some resort and travel some places to let her feel relax....as she say tired mar...

PS: i dont know u can wait or not lar....dont have sex with her..and wait her ask for it? since u guys been over 1 year d leh...sure been thru alot

This post has been edited by Amy09: Feb 16 2012, 10:16 AM

Lol, so much hate. You're one funny dude.

And your advice is shit. You have absolutely no idea what's going on betwen them other than the info provided by the ts and you assume everything.

Oh, and lol at being the almighty keyboard warrior. Why on earth would I believe a single word you say? Making claims in the internets is all fine and dandy but if all you got to back up your statements is "trust me" then you're friggin retarded.

Grow the hell up, and if the 83 stuck at the end of your nick is of any indiication of your age you have some serious catching up to do.

chilla brah....y so dulan?

If this is dulan you haven't seen nothin yet. I'm sipping on my morning coffee just happened to have time to make a long post, lol.

i cant believe some of the advice and comments from people in this forum, truly pathetic....just goes to show most people in this forum know nothing about getting and keeping a woman....

LOL, this is a normal problem for most married couple. Either the male or female would have it.
Also most of chinese female would become like this. I heard lot of complain saying that they are like dead fish when having sex.


There few things that make her become like this.

1) boring life due to lack of friends and out from house - you should have bring her out. Go on vacation, create a romantic feel in different enviroment.
2) she's tired - resist yourself to once a week, don't let her eat anti-pregnancy pill as it will deteriorate her health. Make her some healthy food.
3) be patience in sex, always comfort or let her relaxs before you enjoice. lol

Communication is the key word,try to find out from her what is the root cause for all those things happened.

Try to be more understanding, and respect is another key point for you to take note in a relationship.

=.= i 8 years relationship get nothing about sex but take care of her like a princess... but of coz sometimes she still take care of me if needed. you 2 years get everything only husband and wife can do... still wanna complain so much? perhaps communication problem

sorry to say but feel like your partner like a b*tch... escape from family and stay with you, have sex with you as a "payment"

This post has been edited by cycheah: Feb 16 2012, 11:24 AM

Sounds to me you're just in a trade business for sex with this girl. You offer some measure of services and in return you expect sex.

Maybe, just maybe you should put away your own selfish needs and perhaps talk to her more - or maybe no talking and listen to her more.
Find other activities to do or just spend quality time

Just a suggestion rather than always thinking with your 'other' head.

at least i'm better than u meathead

i'm been swinging for the past few yrs with my current partner so we do see so many couples r joining our swingers group juz like ts n her gf

so i do hav a real life example unlike u postin rubbish advice not helpin ts at all

WAIT, U are in a 8 year relationship and you seldom get sex and on some rare occasion she gives sex as a treat, even though u treat her like a princess is that what u saying?

lol, you need a pair of glasses

Name calling isnt helping you at all, kid. Its funny how you can assume that youre better than me when i have not provided a shred of information about my sex life, or myself for the matter. Tell me how youre better than me. You think joining a swing club is the best thing in the world?

You really think you can help a relationship by asking the ts to offer his gf to other people and feel good about it?

I honestly think it would ruin the relationship, not help it.

Read through the thread again. My advice was at the first page.

seems my england way to deep for you...

'i 8 years relationship get nothing about sex'..... what the hell does that mean, thats not proper english...iam not local so i dont understand malaysian english thats why i ask 2 explain

This post has been edited by trellva: Feb 16 2012, 11:49 AM

means my partner and I were together for 8 years, but we never have sex before... reserve the best after marry

This post has been edited by cycheah: Feb 16 2012, 11:53 AM

not flaming, yours isnt entirely correct as well.

And cycheah i agree, you kinda need to explain that part

WoW 8 years no sex, LOL damn, i can only imagine u must be having a serious case of blue balls i personally could never do that ever....no sex no point in even having a relationship...better off we just be friends with such a chick. let me ask this...so you guys had no sex, but did u guys do anything else like kissing etc? u must be young couple i suppose or religous since u mentioned the waiting for marriage thing...

well, if you love her then you can surely find ways to seduce her into it.

If it still fails, then you can always Fap fap your way to heaven...hehehe

I think u wasn't wild nor naughty enough to excited her in the mood. That wat she felt bored. I believe nowdays girl like special or some naughty naughty way. I believe for men as well sexing with a dead fish it really make u straight down to hill. Try something crazy wild, mayb it will turn in a good time for u...Cheers

This post has been edited by Ethan_666: Feb 16 2012, 01:06 PM

wow....reading this thread i can see the TS is only worried about not having sex with his gf. The routine of your lives seems to be mundane. Get up, go to work, come back, cook, eat and (missed out..have sex)..then sleep. I think it is time you make some changes in this routine. Try this, why dont you go to her office and pick her up, and go for movie or a walk around the park...

And then you said she have no friends. Well i bet you do, and your frenz have gf's as well right. Introduce those gals to ur gf. allow her to get to know ur frenz and some other gal friends well. at times sex may seems to be interesting. but once you have completed the kamasutra manual and also got expert in all positions. its time to experience other things in life with your partner. holidays, just sitting down and talking. nothing about physical sex or pleasure. just pure intellect and emotional expression.

you can start by talking to your gf...ask her if there is something bothering her. she will not be able to give you an answer immediately. but then you should know how to persuade her nicely and get her to talk to you. refrain from sex for a while...just spend time cuddling her or trying to talk to her. and who knows you might get to understand what is bothering her and find a solution to the problem.

well there is a funny saying...when a guys keeps quiet and stare blankly..it means he is just blank and not thinking anything...
but when a girl keeps quiet and stares blankly, it means she have the whole world running in her head.

This post has been edited by black_howling: Feb 16 2012, 01:09 PM

Stop your gf from eating those pills.that really affects a girl inside out.use condom la. just be patient and be good to her. i think she got something inside her head. if possible get married to her faster

This post has been edited by lene002: Feb 16 2012, 01:19 PM

like this oso have??/wow

is this how all guys think? We ain't sex toys mind u.. who determined that sex is a must in a relationship???

I determined that sex is a must in a relationship.

I do introduce some of my female friend to her but she like dun really like to mix with other people.
She only will mix with her friend at kl only.
Sometimes i join other people activity, she will refuse to go and say so many people i do not know, so dunwan to go.

she enjoy watching TVB drama.......

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Added on February 16, 2012, 4:22 pmfirst is i intro those pill to her. how she is the 1 who wanna continue eat, cause will reduce pimple alot.. now her face do not have a single pimple after eating those pill.
That why i persuade her to change to EPO have the same effect that can reduce pimple.

I wish to married her but she reject say now not no money and do not wan to married so early.

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Added on February 16, 2012, 4:23 pmI may not naughty enough,, haha
but how to be naughty as u mean?


This post has been edited by alexlim85: Feb 16 2012, 04:23 PM

You must be like that orange dog. No good in bed

definitely there is something wrong....go talk to her la ts

maybe u not giving enough love, and care to her..that y she treat u so cold

This post has been edited by Amy09: Feb 16 2012, 04:31 PM

cutiesbaby312 are you a prude? do you not like good sex? and no sex is not the only thing that guys think about, it is however extremely important, just as important as having good communication, or having trust or a deep emotional bond in your partner etc...all these traits combined together create a great relationship....you act as if its only the guys who receive pleasure from the act of sex, with the right partner sex can be way more pleasurable to a woman than anything a man can ever experience.

alexlim85 your relationship is on its way out....its only a matter of time before she dumps your ass....u seem like a very needy clingy fella, total turn off. if i were you i would go out and live my life, get a hobby, go out with friends, meet new people, if your woman doesn't make you happy and she is unwilling to change its time to move on.

Wow, how and where you manage to know such a girl through internet like that?
Can I call you Sifu and learn from you?


By the way, i "think" it's boredom...because things are too routine and normal.
Try out some "role-playing"....( one silly example: cross-dressing )

By the way, don't take what i say serious.
It's all about how open she is~ and you

young but not that young, not that old either kissing... normal kiss got la... not to that extreme level... u siao meh?

and serve you right, shot by cutiesbaby312

No worries.. find the real problem ^^v
Maybe urs cant sastified her anymore!

just Kidding

Real problem is, she is having other guy.