Alex

I think its probably a hint when she tells you that theres not enough money to get married; she's probably unhappy with the fact that there's not enough money. I think she WANTS to get married. Any woman in her right mind would want that with the man she loves.

Women need to feel secure to be happy. They are complex creatures and because she loves you, she may not want to directly say it cos that may hurt your feelings. But at the same time, she remains unhappy and is probably taking it out on you in the bed. Like it or not, security to many women is a wedding ring, a home and a solid breadwinner in the family. Thats how they're built ...to want to feel secure.

I honestly think it doesn't help at all that there's sexual relations before marriage. More often in my view it can ruin the marriage than help it in the end.

I believe we are all deeply moralistic inside, (I guess that is what separates us from the animals) and we actually DO feel guilty inside when we dont do what's right. I guess people tend to indulge in that activity tats making them feel guilty at first by doing it even more, so that the guilt starts to wane. But the downside is that each time we keep doing that, we lose a bit of our humanity.

Also I think its possible that these "moral" feelings are beginning to re-surface in her again, causing her to dislike the activity so much that she's now finding what she used to like doing before, disgusting. But this is just my guess.

I honestly think it would be good if you could abstain from sex until marriage. This should help you find some peace in all this turmoil while at the same time give you a clear mind to make positive decisions in what you plan to do in your life with her.

Sex is not everything, brother...believe me, once upon a time I thought it was and it ruined my life.

All the best, friend.