just realized ka?

This is very true, but not all is lost if this path is chosen. Maybe after a few years (5-10+ years?), the guy decides that the girl really won't return his feelings and moves on; he'll have much better chances with other interests thereon after with his improvements.

OR, the girl could just be very materialistic and goes to the guy back since he's so much better than before.


Thanks for the +1, vivienne85.

This post has been edited by Helldiver: Jul 13 2010, 06:12 PM

the moral, never wait for something or someone who don't want to be waited.

That is one of the reason why I cut my ties with my ex~~

Yours different story. You got her once already.

Blame the soapy dramas.
Blame the girls.
Blame on average physical appearance.
Have you ever think of you had play the game wrong?

Trying to convert a best friend to girl friend. I did that once and ended up like you. Except she did not fool me but used me as a companion/doormat. Was really depressed for sometimes.

Thanks to her. I am now a more confident guy. If I like a girl, I will show my romance interest to her in day 1 instead of tagging along like friends, get to know her, get her to know how nice I am before I proceed to the next move. Before she even know me, she knows I like her. It worked better this way, at least for me.

However, I am in a relationship that not many guys will put up with.

Anni, you see, by showing your romantic interest on day 1 you might scare the girl off. Girls nowadays tend to ignore people after a show of romantic interest; this is very hurtful. Some people prefer to be the best of friends just so that they can spend time with their interest.

Honestly, all in all, it's just how we view the situation; how we assess it. No one's wrong, no one's right. All I have said is of my own opinion, experience and view.

ts, are you a muslim?

This post has been edited by g r a p e k e y: Jul 14 2010, 11:03 PM

Helldiver, your comment is right for winnie boys. Lets face it, female loves options, affections, and attentions. They will spend 5 hours lurking in the shopping center to buy one item. While we guys know what we want and will get out as soon as we got the item we wanted.

Life is about taking chances, you can't lose what you don't have. What you gain by spending all the time with her when you can't be the one you wish to be in her heart. It will be heart wrenching when she talks to you about some new guy she met and how much she admire him, while you will put up a smiley face and words to support her. In your heart, you feel like dieing. Feel like wanna confess huh.

You can hardly win if you play the girl's game. Be clear what you want her to be, a friend or a lover. You can't have both. Take initiative when the opportunity comes.

yes, but somewhere in life, i lost my faith in all.

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Added on July 15, 2010, 10:52 amNot everyone have the luxury to approach a girl and straight away shows his affection. Especially those fuglies dude. They will surely give that "creepy" yuckss aura. Easier for dudes with good looks, their "1st approach" although suprising (maybe even annoying), but nonetheless consider "cute", pleasing to the eye for those girls. So, for some dudes we must befriend them first.

This post has been edited by Evangelistica: Jul 15 2010, 10:56 AM

What's winnie boys?

ask Anni. he somehow thinks he knows all..

This post has been edited by g r a p e k e y: Jul 15 2010, 09:04 PM

Evan meets the criteria of a winnie boy. Set him as an example of what you don't want to be and you would be fine. Unless he change.

and You and Deadlocks are the same. speaking sh1tty almighty with words of wisdom (konon) but crap. like you know everyone's problem.

Deadlocks is an encouraging person. I am not. I was hit hard by the best friend/lover mess years ago. Instead of dwelling a bitter hole like you, I went on.

I am in the worst kind of situation in life at the moment. Just like living on the edge. Based on what you posted, your problem is easy shit. Fine if you can't get over it. Trying to inject the state of failure to the lovebirds, that is plain wrong and disgusting.

You are the one who acts like you know everyone's problem. You think everyone is going to fail based on your one time life experience. No they are not you, a forum bitter lord. When was the last time you took action to pursue what you want?

I can't stop myself replying this thread even i shout so loud that i am out from lowyat...he keep saying that what reality and reality lar..if this is reality...just change instead COMPLAINING...or just shut up don't want to change..what is the point sharing the facts or reality in a forum? Peoplie like TS will be always a loser. Talk without action...Keep blaming to others...especially what u said, ugly people have to accept the reality of the world. i think is not the good looking people looking down on ulgy people but instead ugly people only looking down on ugly people....like TS...the facts also goes to you, you hate ugly people too. A guy who age around 30 plus should go further for carrier even without a gf...if so agree with the reality of the world, go do something instead of complaining......just admit you are lousy, ts.

Life is a living hell ONLY when you think like it.

This post has been edited by JonSpark: Jul 17 2010, 01:15 AM

aiyah.

i also dunno what to say.

if we really know what is reality, we all can become philosopher liao.

in truth, we are all learning, so learn the better things that can benefit us.....instead of advising ppl on how hateful life treated u.

I really don't know where TS get the 'reality' from...everyone learnt from their experience..and yet..i look down on TS because he is not honest to himself. Ask yourself, TS. good in explaining what happening bla bla bla because of your experience but failed to do his job in his life..No wonder all girls rejected you.. LOL....i LOL at him...>.<