What TS said is sad but is true. I am one of the victim

This post has been edited by genjo: Jul 17 2010, 02:37 AM

UGPM my dear...

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Added on July 17, 2010, 8:45 amYet you're still here. Admit it people. Some find me bitter just because you're in denial, because what i said, is true and it got smack down at your face!! hahahaha....

This post has been edited by Evangelistica: Jul 17 2010, 08:45 AM

hahahaha.... what's the point knowing the reality without do any changes of yourself...if you don't want to change, then stop complain.....that's only the problem of you...

Omy....nicole ure still here? I already left this thread....no point trying to tell someone who's in denial. Life is not just about girls. Period.

OMG both of you are still here? tsk tsk tsk...

Lol I used to be one of those 'persistent' people (and I'm a girl wtf!?) and I can say that it won't get you far and will only make you look like the stupid one .

Then again how do we know when to give up? Sometimes the other party might play mind games by saying 'Oh we're not suitable for each other now but if you were more (insert personality trait here) then we'd have a chance together.' and keeps talking about what supposed chance you both have together every so often. Those who are still blinded by love might not see that the other party is just screwing with them and might still think they have a chance.

Of course the above example might be a tad extreme as not many people are cruel/retarded enough to do that to someone they just rejected but it's not unheard of.

Persistence will work if the girl sincerely jual mahal, or at least have a slight interest towards him. Then it really depends on him how to play it smart (smart, not dumb). Thats on ething, but, unwanted persistence sure damn annoyying as hell.

No no I meant how do we tell the difference between someone who's just playing hard to get and is interested after all and someone who has no interest but pretends to do so and continues giving false hope just to see the confessor continue making a fool out of himself/herself. Any warning signs people should look out for?

Normally a smart guy will know where he stands based on her reaction ( its not that hard to know if a person who just simply not interested and loath you) . But dumb dudes controlled with lovey dovey feelings wont accept it and live in denial.

some OBVIOUS signs to spot :

1. Your sms / call but never reply.
2. Ask her out but always she gives excuses (this day study, this day this and that bla bla bla)
3. When bumping into her and you start to talk, she'll always "in a hurry".
4. She didn't invite your for her birthday party yet you still come and when you there, she's so busy entertaining others BUT you.

............. Really i can lists down forever. One doesn't need to be a rocket scientist to know these stuff.

This post has been edited by Evangelistica: Jul 19 2010, 02:01 PM

No one here is wrong; stop picking on Evangelistica. No, I'm not on Evan's side nor am I on the other's.

Sure you guys might find him really annoying posting those "whining" threads and posts around CC, but have you guys tried to see things from his view point? Fine, you guys might be saying there's no point comforting Evangelistica but give him the cold harsh words upfront. This is true, but NOT every person is the SAME; he might take a few years to accept this "reality" that everyone speaks of in their own definitions and the other guy might just take a few months. I find it quite annoying sometimes, but I let it slide and try to understand him.

He has said before that he's changing, improving himself, before. That doesn't mean he can't speak his mind out. He's still in denial, perhaps, and he's just in the mood of not wanting people to go through what he has; this is common, nothing strange about it. Just let him do what he does, it's not like he's not allowed. If you are really finding him annoying and wasting CC, send a message to a moderator or an administrator.

And please, DO NOTE: I AM NOT SAYING YOU GUYS ARE WRONG AND EVANGELISTICA IS RIGHT. When people are in "denial" and others are not, it is common to feel that everything is right to those who are not in denial and whatever the person in denial is doing is wrong.

Evangelistica: Just ignore whatever pisses you off in CC; don't reply to their posts if you feel it disses you. Maybe try not to be so general about certain things as well, like saying most people do this and that.

Just my dua sen ^.^

This post has been edited by Helldiver: Jul 19 2010, 05:07 PM

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If she didn't invite you then why did you turn up uninvited? Omg.

Well if it was that simple I won't be asking the question right?

I was thinking more of if the girl is pretending to be interested in the guy (e.g. constantly smsing/calling him, flirting with him) but rejects him when the time comes and yet still flirting with him to give him false hope for her own amusement. Then how does the guy know she's just playing him?

That's exactly what happenes to me 4 years ago. Honestly if the girl is like that, just wants to play around, there's almost no indication to tell you to spot the obvious. She plays it well to her benefit and the poor guy took the bait. There's nothing to spot or to know her intention because, she did a damn good job hiding it. My advice, if got rejected after mountains of false hope, better back off. It will hurt bad, but better back off after that. Don't linger around her anymore.

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Added on July 19, 2010, 5:21 pmmuch appreciated.

This post has been edited by Evangelistica: Jul 19 2010, 05:21 PM

I agree with Evangelistica

drooling over your avatar....

dunno why some ppl find it annoying. i personally find it epic and hilarious!
even then, his posts have truth in them

+1 for your, sir. That's a very optimistic approach! Yes, his posts have truth, people just fail to see it sometimes. ><

In some countries you can get a restraining order that forbids him to be within 10 feet of you.

If Bolehland applies that, I'm sure many fuglies ended up in court.

But imagine how beautiful the country will be after 2 generations.

2 generations? I'll doubt it. Even eternity wont do justice.