Watch your mouth bro...your word over the line.Do you have any problem with someone try to marry another religion.I keep wondering why an A**H*LE like you can exist in this world.F**king racist..!!!!

Actually, the problem is TS himself.... what the point he opened this thread when he should ask the gal parent what he can do if this happen in future..

Then he should can decide to continue or not

i'm agree with you.As his our cyber friend,we can advise him.And mention about PRO and CONTRA what would happen in future.But it's all in his hand.But please respect another religion.If you don't understand about ISLAM.Don't say a word.That make me mad at them.

I think it's time to move this topic to RWI as this is getting involve into some religion and parent's last will.

I basically read everyone's comment (useful ones). To sums up;

Once you convert yourself into Islam, you NOT allow to touch joss stick and do the Buddhist chanting and stuff. The only thing you can do is to observe. Correct me if I'm wrong.

But bring back TS's problem, as the eldest kid, you failed your parents by not holding the joss stick (if your parents are superstitious enough), not doing the normal Buddhist chanting, pray and bow upon them every death anniversary (of course you can do it in private. who would know right?)

Moreover, you're not ALLOW to carry your parents' coffin to their grave because you only allow to observe, which is a SERIOUS, I do mean it, very offensive action to Buddhist's "follower" (cause your parents are Buddhist). Ask your parents if they are okay if you not going to carry their coffin, but before that ask yourself if YOU should be asking them this question after so many years of cultivation on you.

If you REALLY and MADLY in love with this Malay girl and you don't want to break your parents' heart, I suggest you go to places where their marriage system is recognize worldwide. (Just saying, don't know if there's such powerful country exist..)

Good luck and hope you can find a perfect solution for your dilemma.

But talking about respect, i think most Malay tat didnt study/sembayang tat y no respect chinese especially related to pig.......... They always say this sentence that make me piss off "Pig is haram and kotor, dan orang cina suka makan benda kotor dan berfikiran macam babi" .......

Hahahaha................

Latest I heard from my friend is that getting married to Muslim in Malaysia nowadays, no need to convert.

I didnt read the whole post but nevertheless, my dad is chinese my mum is malay and whatever it is with your parents is fine. Both my grand parents psat away and we just did the normal chinese routine, as long as you dont believe it la. But this another question for you. A very important question actually. Are you converting just because of her or for you love towards Islam? Cuz if just convert for her is going to be difficult. Is not impossible or anything just make sure that all the sacrifise youve made is worth it. My dad converted well before he met my mum and its best if u found the love for islam. Cuz you'll do things that you like, not forcing yourself to do anything like fasting,praying etc. But if she is worth it, why not anyway.

You can keep the name anyway, but its adviseble to change. Is up to you.

But talking about respect, i think most Malay also always didnt respect chinese especially related to pig.......... They always say this sentence that make me piss off "Pig is haram and kotor, dan orang cina suka makan benda kotor dan berfikiran macam babi" .......

Hahahaha................

convert is fine...i still can keep my family name of coz..even to my own children ltr... but im more concern about my parent funeral....

there u have it, u must change your religion just to get their loving.

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Added on June 1, 2010, 5:30 pm
flexible??? did i hear correct?

Seriously?Isn't the truth the opposite of what you mentioned,hence of such topics like this?

I wonder what a person like Dr Mohd Asri Zainul Abidin say about this  And i also know why Muslims in Malaysia don't like him either

TS: There are so many fish in the sea, but why must you choose a fish with a destructive C4 inside?

That's the second time I heard people say Muslim is very flexible. So can I say Muslim is very flexible, just that Malaysia make it look not so flexible due to the restrictions they apply?

That's the second time I heard people say Muslim is very flexible. So can I say Muslim is very flexible, just that Malaysia make it look not so flexible due to the restrictions they apply?

Malaysia is actually in the middle, not too extreme, not too lenient. Countries in the middle east are a totally different story, they need to be goddamn nuked for giving Islam a bad name.

Anyway all religions have their do's and dont's, and in Islam, the dont's can become do's if necessary.

Actually, I'm not talking about countries @ middle east like those people we get to see while they came to Malaysia for vacation where they wrap themselves until only we can see their eyes. No I'm not. What I'm targeting is about Malaysia Islam. Don't get me wrong.

I do see the "open-minded" way of Malaysia Islam like girls not necessary to wear tudung and stuff. Like I say, please do elaborate as I have zero knowledge on this field. Everything I say is based from my observation.

P.S: Let me explain my intention again. I'm targeting Malaysia Islam. Not Islam in general. So I don't really see why you need to drag countries from Middle East into this. :/

P.P.S: I really do think it's time to bring this topic to RWI as it's getting sensitive as progress.

I think this is going out of topic, anyway most Muslims have been thought to go by the book (Quran) line by line, they take it as it is, they dont read between the lines they don't interpret the meaning correctly , the Quran is a beautiful book once you see what it truly tries to convey.

We do need more open minded muslims, the conservative muslims are the ones giving the religion a bad name and they only have themselves to blame.

TL:DR, Most muslims are conservative muslims, and this applies to Malaysia as well, they were raised to be like that.