Hi guys... I been wondering...im a chinese n my gf is a malay...if we r getting married...i b converted to muslim of coz...so my main question to any of u who hav the info about...when my parent pass away...what should i do during their funeral?i may b converted to muslim...but i hv my responsible to my parent...im the first son...any help?i try to visit macma website but it couldnt open..

inb4 stick with chinese girls

your parents not islam then follow not islam way la..

i think this is the case.
you will be muslim, your children will be muslim.

but your folks are not muslim.

what ritual a chinese have to do when their parent pass away..??

traitor !

get married in another country la.

Dont need to conform to these mumbo jumbo laws.



Plenty of Malay Christians getting married in singapore

those married in singapore, came back, is considered legal husband and wife or not?

you still be responsible to your parents no matter what religion r u. If your parents passed away, u still can manage and attend your parents funeral just only u cannot pray like buddhist do. When you converted to muslim, u pray like other muslim do even though your parents are not muslim.

yes i agree...but when u die u will be buried with them...I dont know where they buried you.
but it doenst matter right? as long as you are still with her.
well since this is special case maybe you need consider so many facts.
many ppl think marriage is between two individual, but is not. marriage is involved family and frens, u cannot believe she is the only you relate to after married. good luck anyway.

thats why many ppl marry now just to be divorce later. lol

What's this?? Sepet 3???

Lari to US. Nobody will bothers if u convert or not.

this is such a good idea. maybe u can consider this. no harm right? and u dont even have to change anything. i believe love is loving you for what you are,,,not loving you but must change something just to suit her need. if she dont understand this maybe she is not the right one.

quite sure they are

at least the ones that know are called mr and mrs lee here. and they have all the rights of a married couple.

they just got a loan for a house o.O.

IM quite sure its one of those joint loans which needs your marriage certificate

this is my thoughts, n its also a lesson i learn in real from my uncle.

doesn't matter which religion u are currently in, ur parents brought u up n it is important to respect their last request. if ur parents are buddhist, do it the buddhist way, n if they're christians, do it the christian way. it is still ur responsibility as a son to send them off the way they wanted it to be.

whether u want to hold the joystick or not... that is up to u n only u to decide. my uncle's a protestant n although there were christians against it, he still held the joystick n prayed the buddhist way to my grandparents. to him, its a matter or respect to his own family members.

i know those fact...just that as first son...u can call me traitor o what so ever la k..we are malaysian ma...diversed...1Malaysia...mixed marriage is possible...can i manage my parent funeral and their ritual?first son is important right....this is a big dilemma..not for me but also other chinese boy...

ooh omnimech thanks for sharing with us!


regarding marriage into islam, sure, can divorce, but in malaysia, once masuk islam, it is for life liao.

Hence why I told you to go to Singapore to get married.

Its not haram there. As the first son of your family, I am sure they want their first grandson to follow their sur name and not Abdullah.

well at least for me, i tink my dad will own me with a pitch fork

Chinese ppl believe that their sons will continue their family line

as for u being married, u're legally married in S'pore (if u get married there) but u're not married in m'sia until u register with the government. failing to do so could sum up a fine to a few thousands. my colleague had to face that case..but she's lucky as she got married to an Afgan. so she was exempted from the fine as she was married in Afgan n didn't know the procedure for muslims here in M'sia.

i believe you can manage the funeral.
regarding convert, are you 100% sure about that?

i heard a malay comment before that if you dun have 100% heart to convert, please dun do it.

This post has been edited by Deimos Tel`Arin: Jun 1 2010, 03:34 PM

P/S; u dont need to change ur name when u convert ur religion la. u can argue bout that.. just take the quran with u. there's a statement that u should be proud of the name u were given at birth or something like that. friend thought me bout these stuffs =P

eh, like that one ah? then register with gomen here after married in singapore, means convert also?