I think it's time to move this topic to RWI as this is getting involve into some religion and parent's last will.

I basically read everyone's comment (useful ones). To sums up;

Once you convert yourself into Islam, you NOT allow to touch joss stick and do the Buddhist chanting and stuff. The only thing you can do is to observe. Correct me if I'm wrong.

But bring back TS's problem, as the eldest kid, you failed your parents by not holding the joss stick (if your parents are superstitious enough), not doing the normal Buddhist chanting, pray and bow upon them every death anniversary (of course you can do it in private. who would know right?)

Moreover, you're not ALLOW to carry your parents' coffin to their grave because you only allow to observe, which is a SERIOUS, I do mean it, very offensive action to Buddhist's "follower" (cause your parents are Buddhist). Ask your parents if they are okay if you not going to carry their coffin, but before that ask yourself if YOU should be asking them this question after so many years of cultivation on you.

If you REALLY and MADLY in love with this Malay girl and you don't want to break your parents' heart, I suggest you go to places where their marriage system is recognize worldwide. (Just saying, don't know if there's such powerful country exist..)

Good luck and hope you can find a perfect solution for your dilemma.

This post has been edited by Belphegor: Jun 2 2010, 02:48 AM

That's the second time I heard people say Muslim is very flexible. So can I say Muslim is very flexible, just that Malaysia make it look not so flexible due to the restrictions they apply?

Actually, I'm not talking about countries @ middle east like those people we get to see while they came to Malaysia for vacation where they wrap themselves until only we can see their eyes. No I'm not. What I'm targeting is about Malaysia Islam. Don't get me wrong.

I do see the "open-minded" way of Malaysia Islam like girls not necessary to wear tudung and stuff. Like I say, please do elaborate as I have zero knowledge on this field. Everything I say is based from my observation.

P.S: Let me explain my intention again. I'm targeting Malaysia Islam. Not Islam in general. So I don't really see why you need to drag countries from Middle East into this. :/

P.P.S: I really do think it's time to bring this topic to RWI as it's getting sensitive as progress.

This post has been edited by Belphegor: Jun 2 2010, 12:59 PM

So in another way, you do mean that Muslim need more open minded people and it's a little seasoned compare to other teachings?

P.S: Again, no offense intended. If you felt it, sorry.

@TS, I just wanted to ask about those. I'm absolute not trying to be racist as I have ALOT of Modern Malay friends.

EDIT: Do you mind to elaborate more on the bold-ed part? I thought all teachings are with but only ONE meaning..

This post has been edited by Belphegor: Jun 2 2010, 01:09 PM

If you both do read from page to page, you should know that the issue TS currently facing are going to be very sensitive as the thread goes on.

@TS, decide already yet?

I think someone needs to update the latest Quran or something. May I ask, what's Ahli Kitab and why does it matter to marriage? Anyone who are experience in this field mind to elaborate more please?